When we were younger – yes you too, I know this is a matter that applies for every single one of us – we spent a good deal of time in school. Wonderful matter! We got to learn subjects… ok yada yada yada school… I won’t bore you with an overhyped setup, you want the subject…
Well, as I was saying, in school, we learned how to conform to an authority who’d define what we needed to do. When they said jump, we jumped, just like our parents. When a police man says jump, we jump, because we’ve been well trained to agree with authority.
Except, when there are divergent people like me who question everything and disagree when things don’t make sense. That frustrates the heck out of authorities… It also makes it damn near impossible to agree blindly with any form of authority, matters must be questioned. Cracks must be found, loop holes must be discovered…
This is all nice, but when we reach a point when we need to do what a coach or someone who’s actually trying to help us – but isn’t – steps in and defines certain ways of doing things. Sadly it doesn’t work. We’re left with stupid timelines, and ways that don’t fit in with our unique autodidactic way of functioning.
The autodidactic personality is not a stupid person by any means, its simply that they need to come to their own conclusion of how what they’re learning fits in with their current perspective and concept of life – pretty much like all of us – as they tend to have singular ways of seeing things. If you try to fit a square into a round hole it won’t.
So, we have to redefine reality, or at least we have to decide to go at the beat of our own drum and do what works best for us. Running a bit faster to fit in with a pack we don’t always agree with isn’t necessarily best. Why? Because, even if we think that we’re upping our ability, we’re dependant on an extrinsic source of motivation and the only source of real drive should be the intrinsic motor as its where we get our energy from in the first place.
Here’s the thing though, when we have someone above us, who is in a better place, and we aspire to be like them, the next logical step is to model them, which means that we strive to become like them. But if we’re modelling someone who doesn’t respect themselves, only their material gains, we’ll quickly feel the brunt of it. So, piano piano… take modelling with a pinch of salt, for what applies and works for you, put aside what doesn’t, perhaps revisit it later, but someone else’s modus operandi is intimate to them. It doesn’t mean it fits well with us.
Instead, see where you are on your journey and see where you are going. And see who says, and what they say and do, and observe to see if it fits well with ‘who you currently are’ in proportion to where you want to go and become.
I often find it tempting to simply model cell for cell the entity I’m enticed by, wanting to become a mirror – or at least finding it enjoyable to see someone who is a mirror of what I currently am… This is an amazing thing, because it means that we pick up on the every perspective we have, and kind of like a chameleon we adapt to what we see, and become part of the group we’re in, for better or for worse.
Making a quick list of what we don’t want to focus on.
Making a quick List of what we don’t want to do.
Making a quick List of what we want to do.
Making a quick List of what we want to focus on.
All of this in proportion to the direction we’re striving to go in.
Everything is a matter of proportion. What is important to us? What is no longer important?
Is pleasing authority the right move? Is becoming the authority on yourself important?
Choose carefully.
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