What do you need to do, to become who you want to be?

There’s a misnommer in life, where we believe that because we are a certain way, and because the identity we have right now is in alignement with where we are right now, we feel comfortable. So, we don’t change.

Though, sometimes people want more. So, they break out of the box they’ve been living in.

So, they take some form of leap of faith and … move to the next biggest town. All too often I see people who want to change their life, so they take off and end up repeating the exact same life only a few miles down the road.

This is because they don’t change what they do. They simply push what they do along the road, find a nice spot they believe will give them [name any desirable outcome], and set up camp, only to find out that they’re dating the carbon copy of their ex, working the exact same job they had before, making the exact same amount of money and so on.

Copy, paste. Simple.

Though, it never occurs to anyone to take a look under the bonnet. And in doing so, they’d discover that the patterns they think on a daily basis tend to be the way they live and experience life.

We do not attract what we want in life, we attract what we are. And who we are starts with what we spend our time thinking about. Because, the extent of our thoughts is how we feel, and when we feel a certain way, our actions tend to mirror that. (Someone who’d excited to do something will have more energy than someone who dreads it, and that starts in the thoughts). But the natural extension of our actions, is that we become, through trial and error, what we repeatedly do.

Change your focus, change your thoughts. Change your thoughts, change your emotions. Change your emotions, change your actions. Change your actions, change your life.

But somethings missing, that no one is talking about right now.

How do you know where to focus? You haven’t decided what you want, why you want it, or how you’ll go about getting it.

When we define what we are to become in the future, it becomes easy to go towards becoming that. Its very hard to reach a goal you can’t see or haven’t set.

Definition.

But definition is the most difficult part, because it implies we need to think, and take responsibility for what we want. We have to become conscious and design what we’re goign to fight for. And when we’re “clueless”, writing down a single goal to strive for is actually rather hard, especially when the metric for what is possible is our current state of reality.