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The intention of love.

I think, maybe the greatest tragedy, is that we don’t compliment the people we love nearly enough. And yet, we compliment people we admire, strangers,. Because they’re new and we pay attention to new. We pay attention to celebrities and megastars, because we aspire to them.

But the people who’ve always been there, who are loving, who have supported us every step of the way, or at least most. They get the most ungrateful return for birthing us into the world. They create us, yet they get the most stick. The people who stand by us and are there every step of the way, they get ignored, or worse we disguard them, because they’re there, simply in the background perhaps. Because these loving, caring, patient people, are in high supply, we value them less.

Human beings are wierd, they value what is rare, because some thousands of years ago what was rare was valuable for survival. Food wasn’t available in the fridge so they had to hunt and risk their lives faced with wierd looking scaly predators with big teeth. Then Gold became an important tool to measure payment to who had something of value instead of seashells.

And then somewhere along the way, having a crown watch or a red car became a signaling good to express that we have a surplus of material and we can afford to splurge on luxury, or unessential to survival. When we have everything covered financially, we can focus on the superficial aspect of things. Which is why, women tend to show superficiality as a marker of wealth (a lot of the time). Its a signaling state of their inherant value, or that society places on beauty. So they invest in signaling brands, signaling activities, signaling surgeries to show the level of worth they believe they are. And they become ‘rare’ or at least they act like they do, because they are in high demand due to the desirability factor.

But, back to what matters. The low demand, high supply in those we love.

It’s not because we don’t need someone, or that we don’t depend on, or require someone to do something for us, that they have no value. It’s simply that we can’t see that value because they’re not proposing the value proposition that we’re searching for.

So, when we have a parent who doesn’t necessarily meet our requirements for what is interesting or we meet a young woman who’s pretty, exciting and engaging and on our level; the natural response is to disguard them, or to ignore what they’re saying, or to be disrespectful in some way, or to belittle whatever value they bring to the table. This couldn’t be further from the right way to be.

The thing I like about Italian families, or Chinese families, is that multiple generations live together, supporting each other within the household. Obviously, in our western world, everything is disconnected, we become bachelors, live in houses on our own, and attract women who use all forms of signalling to show they have worth.

In my own way, I propose that everyday, instead of finding something that someone can be of value to us for, we find ways we can be of value to them. Paying back, being of service and being uplifting and supporting to those around us. Even if they’re not ‘seemingly’ making our lives better.

The thing is, I realized when my dad passed, that it’s not because someone is present that they don’t have value. And its not because someone’s not proposing something we value, they that don’t have value. What I like is subjective proportional to my standards and expectances of life. What someone else has to propose is proportionel to them. In every expression there is contribution, and everyone has a different expression to contribute. Which we’re all, too often, busy trying to disguard because it doesn’t fit the shopping list we want and aspire to.

Maybe, take a moment to value that we’re not all the same. That we all have different abilities, and we’re not all Leonardo Davinci great in everything we do. But we are great, in the intentions we put forth.

In my fathers last days, I realized that its not the perfect expression I wanted from him so much that I miss. It’s his presence, its his warmth, its his reaching out, its the exchange. It’s the little messages to see if I’m okay, and to checkup on how I’m doing. It’s the intentions to do the little things which make us ‘feel’ supported, which make us ‘feel’ valued. Even if the way its done is not perfect.

And these little intentions, even if they’re not expressed in the perfect way we want, make us feel the perfect way we want to feel.

The way our loved ones make us feel, is deeper than our mental standards, anything that someones wordly expression can bring forth.

In order of importance, our words and the way they’re used, count for 7% . While our tonality counts for 38% and our phyiscal expression counts for 55%. The words we use are by consequence of little value. It’s important to use the right words, but how those words are said, and with what intent matters much much more.

So, its worth noting the value of a relatives intangible and sometimes invisible intentions which influence the way they make you feel. The magic is under the surface, in what they bring out of you, and how special they make you feel.

Don’t lose any more time bikering about the details. Embrace the time you have left, focussing on whats important. The intention.

All the best,

Cherokee Goldberg

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18 useful points (and a tiny smiley face)

New year, same me, different perspective, new goals.

Before reading anything:

Feel free to interpret this however it will serve you. I’m not a dictator. I don’t impose what I write as a cookie-cutter solution for everyone. What you perceive in this may resonate, it may not. Read between the lines. Take things with a pinch of salt. And if you like something, leave a comment or a thumbs up so I know that I did something to good for someone.

I’ve decided to start documenting my journey, and build openly from 0€ to 1M, so that I can provide value for anyone who is struggling to make money and create actual value online. As well as keep trace of my journey. It’s also good because it give me a form of accountability. 

So far I’ve found these points to be of use to me.

Driving factor

This being said, there are many ways to make money online, though it is brought often to my attention through the people I encounter, and through my reading, that attempting anything solely for money just does not work. In fact, whenever money is the driving factor, I most always obsessively burn myself out because nothing else matters. And ‘else’ does matter. 

I confirm this through my own experience; over and over I’ve encountered failure after failure. Not because I’m not hard working, but because after a while, I lose interest, I lose the drive, and my focus fizzles out. I move on to the next, and lose interest all together in anything related to the project. Why? Because money isn’t fulfilling, it’s rewarding, and reward doesn’t fill you up, the fulfillment you get during your process does. And I believe it’s Steve Jobs who said that ‘the only way to do great work, is to Love what you do.’

Some people can do things solely for money, though I’ve found that money can never be a decision factor for me. I like money, I enjoy using money, and I enjoy all the things I can do with money. Though, at the end of the day, it is a tool, something to help you (be, do, achieve, render service, have… etc). Money doesn’t fulfill you, especially during the process of acquiring it. At least it doesn’t for me. 

I’ve found that, if money is at the top of my decision pyramid, all of my core values aren’t as important as money and I become corrupted (corps-rupture = cut off from the intelligence of my body) and end up going down silly paths. In fact, without values, one becomes a wh*re for money (excuse my French) and all of our important values get thrown out of the window. Hence why we live in a society where most of our social media is based on hype and click bait. 

Define Values

So, it becomes increasingly important that one define their values first and foremost and then strive with the framework of those values as invisible guiding forces. If we stray away from our values, we most often find ourselves doing anything, and anything doesn’t necessarily allow us dignity, or a constructive lifestyle. 

I’m a big believer that the process and standards we impose on ourself is what we impose on others. So, if we stress ourselves out and whip ourself into action; guess what, we’ll most likely do that to others. So, self-love becomes quite important too in the achievement of one’s financial success. 

And come to think of it, I can’t allow myself to start this journey with you by saying — as I said earlier on — I’m going from 0 to 1M. Sure, that’s a nice vision to have. But it doesn’t drive my actions, and it can’t drive my actions. It does give me an indicator of scale, of importance, of the value of my work, and impact I have on helping others. This is what I can see within the 1M reference. 

Process

The larger the number, the more pressure I put on my creative process. But, we human-beings are not coal, we don’t transform into diamonds. I’m all for pressure and steel forges steel and all that but, when it comes to quality, I like the approach of a local butcher my father introduced me to many years ago. Let’s call him Mr.D.

Mr.D was a butcher and farmer who believed that the quality of the meat he sold to his clients was directly affected by the quality of the lives his animals lead. A stressed cow produces stressed meat. An unstressed cow however would produce a tender meat. So Mr.D decided to let his cattle roam free the entirety of their lives, right up to the very last second where he’d drive one up to the back of the shop only a few hours before displaying it to customers. 

What I take from this, I apply to my creative process. The quality of the input of information I consume, is defined by the intention and quality of my state and mental process, and the result is that a quality input, and a quality process produce a highly valuable output of information/solution/production that has served me well. And this, I intend to continue doing. 

What the 1M reference doesn’t take into account is personal fulfillment, enjoyment, the quality of the journey, the value of my work, attention to detail, how much effort will go into providing something that people want. The personal side of the venture. The joy I take in discovering a new fact, or ideate a new solution. 

When people lose interest and / or fulfillment on a job, they move on. This is why, being aligned with what we enjoy is of utmost importance. Which brings me to my last year. 

Understand your nature.

Since September 2022, I decided to go back to school to become a Full stack developer. And since this period, I have spent the majority of my time reading, testing, applying code. While it does have upside, and it can be helpful to produce solutions. I also saw a lot of downside to learning code. 

I saw my mental clarity become scattered, my handwriting started to slant backwards, my ideation flow became ebbed and because I’m an auditive primary (vakog) less words = less expression, my thought process became less fluid, and I became less and less clear about how I am feeling, what my intuition is telling me, as well as losing interest in being in front of a computer screen at all. 

And for a writer, or at least a creative dreamy ideator like me, this means feeling dead. Sure, I could write code, implement control structures, automate outcomes and add Api’s to things. But at what cost?! Because, my sole purpose to learn code was to get a job that could provide a stable income, I was doing it for money. Not necessarily because I ‘loved it’. 

Straying from your nature will produce anti-productive outcomes

Another thing I’ve observed with ‘doing something we don’t like’ is that when our daily process is spent doing something we don’t enjoy for the purpose of money, we end up seeking forms of pleasure and instant gratification that we wouldn’t normally have to if we were fulfilled by a work well-done. I believe the quote is to ‘live a life we don’t want to escape from’. 

We can’t live a life we don’t want to escape from, if we spend the majority of our day focused or thinking about something which isn’t what we truly want. And so, the inevitable solution is to find what we love to do. 

Connect the dots.

In order to succeed, I’ve found that we must connect the dots looking back and define a theme. My theme is [Ideation, writing, speaking, creativity] verbal expression/ communication. If I disconnect from that, I will feel a lack of enlightenment. I must read every day in order to write every day, and I must write in order to have clarity of mind. And in order to speak well, I must have clarity of mind and references of ideation, which come from reading and writing. 

This is the paradigm I must live in. If I don’t apply it, it becomes my prison. If I do apply it, it becomes my liberation. But either way, it seems to be the only path which I can travel which fills my soul, and gives me the clarity and energy to do anything and everything else. 

Without food and words, life isn’t really worth living. Love comes and goes apparently, but food and words must be daily. 

Deliver Value to others

I’ve found also that in order to succeed and do well in business, one has to wrap the entire business around two points. The first is to make that business customer centric. The second is to be in love with the process of delivering results to that specific customer. And I believe that if we have both ingredients, it hightens the probabilities of achieving a successful business. 

Use contrast to understand yourself and see life more clearly. 

Over the last few years, I decided to go experience as much contrast, difficulty, and even pain and embarrassment as possible. (Bear with me, there is a method to my madness). In order to create the fuel which would propel me towards achieving the pleasure I wanted. 

When I left high-school (2012, a good number of years ago now..), I observed that I was ambitious, but I had no drive, no motivation to make money. I was good at everything else in life, but money was not my strong suit. And I needed money to afford living a lifestyle that would attract the woman I’d want to be with. So, I devised of a plan to suffer and create references that I’d never want to ever experience again, in order to fuel me towards the desired outcome I dreamed of having. Drive is defined by an axis of Pain and Pleasure. 

Now, enough about me already.. How do I intend to succeed? 

Discover your zone of Genius / Strength

When I was younger, I noticed that I could do really well in one specific area; sports. I hated school, mostly because I rejected all authority (as an aftermath of rejecting the example my father lead), but I had a lot of energy to apply. So, I became the football captain and striker, I worked obsessively to run faster, and I’d train over and over until I could put the ball where I wanted. And so on… Okay, nothing special yet.. Then, I started to notice that because I was doing well on the team, I started to do well with the guys on the team. And because I did well with the guys on the team, this transfered to my social too, so I started to do a lot better with women because I could lead men. (I think lead is a strong word for a kid who could put a ball in a net, influence might be more appropriate). 

Doing well, and focusing on my strong suit, allowed me to develop confidence. This confidence allowed me to become more popular. And that popularity, allowed me to shine who I was. Now, I all of that was based on physical prowess and the fact I peaked in high-school and seemed to have some sort of a clue of how the world worked. I didn’t, I simply understood how to work social situations to my advantage, like most students in school… Doing what was trendy, standing out, and being loud somehow, but also a little vulnerable. but I digress.. 

Focusing on my strong suit, allowed me to Shine. And in my ability to shine, I became attractive, outgoing and popular. So, that is a success for a student, who wants to be liked by his peers.

Focussing on my strong suit / what comes naturally to me, and going all in on what only I can do, in addition to finding a pain point to provide a solution only I can provide due to my strong suit, will allow me to produce a high output of value overtime, without too much fatigue. Because at the end of the day, its all about consistency and compounding of value. 

Be the Master your own narrative. Be selective of who puts what in your mind. Define your own future.

Which brings me to determining, What empowers you the most in the world? The information related to solving your present/current pain point. The one which will enable you to 10x yourself. The insight that will help you define the next clear step and direction you need to take.

As human beings, we are interested and curious about the future, but we’re not able to determine it clearly. We love predictions and astrology and even the doomsday theories we imbibe when we listen to .. any random youtuber today, about “how the end of the financial market..” or how “AI will put an end to.. and you’ll get left behind…”. The point is, we focus on these ‘alert’ messages, because we want information about how to go towards the future without encountering death. We need to prevent death. 

Though, when we’re preventing death, we’ve already lost the game. 

Hone the present day

You see, the most important thing to note is that, if someone else is telling you how the future is, they are dictating not only the future you will go towards, but they are robbing you of the power to take action in the present. Without a compelling future to go towards, we are robbed of the gift within the present moment: the possibility to take inspired action to build towards that future. 

So, it’s my understanding, that if we reject the future, we will also reject our present, which prevents us from doing anything of value. 

In contrast, I’ve understood through my own experience, that we must START where we are. When you choose the state you are currently in, and accept it. You can start working towards where you want to go with the thing you want to evolve.

  • Start where you are mentally, find where you are on your internal path.
  • Start where you are physically, what weights can you lift and grow your muscle with here, not the heaviest you can lift, but what can your muscle comfortably support.
  • Start with where you are emotionally, what are you feeling right here and don’t repress it.
  • Start where you are financially, what do you have and how can you BEST use those finances for the best impact Right now? Instead of wanting more to do what you can already best start.
  • Start out where you are health-wise
  • Start out where you are relationship-wise.
  • Start-out where you are business wise, start with what you’ve got and do the best you can.
  • Start out where you are spiritually.
  • Start out where you are habit-wise.

When we can accept where we are, first and foremost, we can decide to empower what we have and appreciate what we have. When we reject where we are, what we have, we can’t use it to our advantage, we can’t build on it, we can’t grow it. We must start from where we are. If you can start from where you are, you have control. You don’t have control or power over something that is out of your reach.

Community

I’ve gone at it alone, a lot. Simply because I needed to make a lot of mistakes, and test a lot of things quickly. Though, once those things are over, one tends to feel somewhat isolated. And success isn’t supported by isolation, its supported by networking. We succeed as part of a community we participate in. Even if its simply being seen, witnessing someone elses presence can be a huge determiner of how well you perform. Being around other entrepreneurs and solopreneurs is a massive game-changer, and saves you a tremendous amount of time. Not to mention that it keeps you accountable to live up to your word.

Join a club, have a team

When, I was younger, I played soccer on the local team. I didn’t think much of it back then. All I knew was that I practiced a lot, and put in a lot of personal hours on the side. Though, with retrospect, being a part of a whole like a soccer team is valuable. It gives you a standard to perform at. On your own, you are at the mercy of even the wind blowing in a direction. When you’re surrounded by a team, you are within a structure which imposes a certain form of conduct, and expects you to live up to the same goals. So it’s important to be around other people, even if you don’t necessarily have the same values, who have a a similar goal to you. You’ll become alies in mutual success.

Having a clear and meaningful vision.

Lack of vision is probably the most painful state. Because nothing is clear and everything is anarchy. In order to make sense of anarchy, one must have a point to aim for, otherwise one gets swayed and caught within the disorder of what is passing at that moment.

Having a clear vision is also motivational. It helps give meaning to the actions and process we enact while going towards it. If the outcome is a meaningful vision, then the journey towards that vision will be all the better. Taking action, simply because it fulfills the steps layed out to achieve an outcome which has no meaning to us is worthless. And what is more, detached from our internal journey we travel while we work. So a meaningful vision is fulfilling as much as it is useful.

Enjoy the journey.

For the past 10 years, I’ve killed myself to produce outcomes, reach achievements and so on. But.. Living in a future which would never come. This is a draining way to live life. And what’s more, we miss out on the present life we have, while waiting for a better situation which could potentially never arrive. That, in my view is a waste, and I suppose I could say its ungrateful to God for the present circumstances given to us. If we truly appreciate what we have, then we also appreciate our present moment and time enough to optimize how we experience them and what we do with them. Living for the future is ungrateful of the present, and also if that future is taken away, your sense of meaning goes too.

Another thing; when you enjoy the journey, you are in joy. And when you enjoy yourself, it makes your experience worth living. Being in stress all the time wrecks havoc in your health, or at least your health takes a toll. Having faith in the journey and enjoying what is in front of us is beneficial.

Choose appreciation and Gratitude over impossible standards and complaints.

When we appreciate what we have, just like in trading when an asset appreciates, we grow what we have. Or at least we grow the reference of what we have within our internal kingdom; the mind. Being grateful for what we experience, for what we have, and for those around us, grows the amount of references/seeds we have within.

Embrace what is in front of you.

For the longest time, I rejected what was in front of me. The people, the environment, pretty much everything which wasn’t what I didn’t want. And so, I disempowered myself as a result of rejecting what was around me. Everything around us can be considered a block to build with, and if we’re so stubborn as to believe that the grass is greener somewhere else, then you never water your own circumstances. Its with gratitude that we grow our current circumstance, and we’re able to make use of everything that is around us.

Ex: I need to go to silicon valley in order to be around the best in the world. But, if I actually look around, there are startup incubators around where I am. There are successful people here too. There are opportunties here, and great people to network with. And whats more, if I don’t succeed here, why do I expect to succeed there? I’m simply saying I need a better looking building and people in order to be able to achieve what I can achieve here anyway if I put my limitations and blockages to bed.

I think its Walter Wattles, in The Science of being Great, who said that: one must do a great job where one is, and only with a certain frame of mind can one grow out of ones circumstance.. That one will find ones personal mediocrity in every circumstance, until one becomes great where he already is. — I hope I’m correct, although I’m quoting from memory, I read the book a long while ago…

Breathe.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. There’s no point getting yourself into a heart-attack by trying to have over night success, because everyone else is applying this AI tactic… Your boat won’t leave without you. Or as is said in Conversations with God, you can’t fail. You may take a detour, but you will get there at some point. Just don’t give up.

Take a break and breathe from time to time. Contemplate everything you have achieved. Witness the beauty around you, or if it is lacking, imagine something beautiful. Turn on some classical music, or a tune that elevates the mood.

Sometimes, doing more work isn’t the solution. Taking a step away to see the picture clearer later on is.

You aren’t subject to VC’s, no one is on your back expecting an elevated return (hopefully). March to the sound of your own drum, and listen to your own rythme. After all, we’re not in school anymore, the only person who takes care of us, is us. And if you don’t respect yourself enough to slow down once in a while, no one else will.

If you don’t have a plan for yourself care, someone will have a plan for you, and that doesn’t look healthy.

🙂

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Our ascent starts the moment we let go of the weight

It all starts in the mind. With a decision.

Up until now, I’ve learned to listen to my higher self, or to a degree what I thought was my higher self. I’ve observed and strived to be in alignment with myself. And so, despite my fathers indications I followed my higher-self and wrote a blog. This felt right. It felt good. Maybe I was simply caressing my ego, maybe I was giving myself a boost of self-confidence, by taking time out from ‘real life’, maybe… It then lead me to publish a book, then a second, then a third, a blog, a newsletter, and then go back to school to learn how to code.

Then, my father passed away. I had no one to fight against. All of my habits had been in contrast to something / a point of view, in opposition to someone. Then, there’s no one there to rebel against, the invincible rock I spent my life verbally pounding against, was no longer.

In many respects, I believe that my opposition was justified. Not because my father was a bad person, but because of some of the points of views and beliefs he held. These didn’t sit well with me and I found them to be contrary to what I was striving for. Though, his opinions did not necessarily represent him underneath. We got along in many ways. Though, we didn’t get along when it came to what I wanted to do. I’ve never liked being told what to do, or even influenced in anyway. As if I’ve been striving to follow some divine internal guidance. And perhaps I have been guided all the while.

I’ve become accustomed to a way of life, and I’ve created the habit of functionning within certain parameters, only to be destabilised when faced with a deep challenge & change.

I’ve overcome a good number of personal issues in my life and the, in a moment of folly, I saw my vulnerable fragilities exposed. I say folly, I was hurting because my dad had just died and the grief ate me from the inside. As I observed this grief cause internal pain, I observed myself seek ways to numb the pain. Feeling powerless as to the depth and intensity, but also how scattered I had become in contrast to who I was only a few months prior.

So I began my downfall, only to observe that since I’d already overcome my issues, and had already built an interesting toolkit to do so, I was able to halt my fall before I went too far down the hill.

I am able to start my ascent back up my personal mountain, except this time I know where I am headed with more clarity. I’ve already been up and down these paths.

This time I get to fortify and solidify the points of weakness I didn’t address in my first ascent.

This time I get to do it better. This time I’m doing it for me.

Before we build a good life, we must first start with the foundation and I believe that is the mind. Everything starts in the mind.

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Start where you are. (The key to success)

The greatest of understandings I’ve understood through my own experience is, START where you are. When you choose the state you are currently in, and accept it. You can start working towards where you want to go with the thing you want to evolve.

  • Start where you are mentally, find where you are on your internal path.
  • Start where you are physically, what weights can you lift and grow your muscle with here, not the heaviest you can lift, but what can your muscle comfortably support.
  • Start with where you are emotionally, what are you feeling right here and don’t repress it.
  • Start where you are financially, what do you have and how can you BEST use those finances for the best impact Right now? Instead of wanting more to do what you can already best start.
  • Start out where you are health-wise
  • Start out where you are relationship-wise.
  • Start-out where you are business wise, start with what you’ve got and do the best you can.
  • Start out where you are spiritually.
  • Start out where you are habit-wise.

When we can accept where we are, first and foremost, we can decide to empower what we have and appreciate what we have.

When we reject where we are, what we have, where we are, we can’t use it to our advantage, we can’t build on it, we can’t grow it.

You must start from where you are.

If you can start from where you are, you have control.

You don’t have control or power over something that is out of your reach.

All the best,

Cherokee Goldberg

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The door to Heaven is through the heart.

A matter of heart

Whenever we hear of soulmates, we think love. In movies, all too often, the hero ends up straying from the significant other and getting lost. The guide of the story always steps in at the right moment to say something along the lines of “Follow your heart!”. The hero then gets a moment of enlightenment which gives way to some dramatic running towards the partner who thinks they have to find love in the arms of another.

A special personal frequency

To be in Love, we often think of being in love with someone. But its not about the other person. Its about us. Its about being within the frequency of love in our own heart, and because we’re within that frequency for ourselves, and expand upon it, we match the vibration of our significant other who just so happens to be in that perfect frequency at that perfect moment in time when we happen to stumble upon it.

Everything you want comes through the heart.

To be in Love means, to be the most aligned with the higher nature of your heart. It means, you are in your heart with or without another person. And this one thing, to have the courage to feel fully what your heart feels, and to live by it, is what attracts the amplitude of possibilities; the soulmate, the dreamlife, the dream job, feeling amazing, flowing and feeling abundantly…. you name it. The feelings we all long for, the state of being which transcends poets from all ages, its the stuff of songs and art that elevates you to the point of blissful tears.

Stepping out of the frequency of love causes pain.

It’s the attachment to the physical form which happens to match our heart frequency which is the source of pain. Trying to control a human being by focussing on a material construct such as the body, the person who happens to match our heart frequency.

Which is why I don’t believe that we can ‘have a change of heart’, I believe that people who focus on other things and other people and different belifs, and decide to step out of the frequency of love realize that they want something else. It’s stepping away from the frequency of love in which we are.

The cross is a map to the heart of matter.

Being with God, is being in the heart. Why? Well, if you look at the cross, the cross is a map which represents man, and it points to the heart. X marks the spot. So if you follow the map, to live in the heart, you also find God. In other words, if you follow your heart, you access heaven on earth.

Forcing matters

Drinking coffee, stimulants, even dopamin inducing type activies, all have one thing in common. They are an external substance which have the property for us to force ourselfs into a state. The state isn’t natural to us. The point of being aligned with the heart, is that the body, the nervous system, the mind, the mindset… all align naturally. Otherwise we can do meth or cocain or have abundant sex and just live for the highs. That’s not how it works though, because we need to respect and empower the body to arrive at the destination where the heart and mind are. So, it’s about taking the time, going at our own pace, growing into well-being just in time for Love.

In addition, forcing your way to get what you want is ego. While being pulled toward what you want is heart. When you force the way, you miss out on Gods path. When you follow God’s plan, you don’t have full control, but trust and flow with life in a much more fluid way. And when you arrive, everything works out in a perfect way.

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Maybe it’s time to start anew

In July, I met a woman. It seemed to be one of those delusional love flings where two people meet and fall passionately and deludedly for one another, and then as quickly as they came into each others lives, then the relationship would abruptly end and both would move on as if nothing had happened. Fair enough

Since september 2022 – after publishing my book- I have been studying Coding. I’d reached a point in the road where I’d had enough of not making any money through my writing. It was time to learn a skill that could earn me some money so I could finally be financially independent, so I could finally be free.

As I learned to code, and input logic into my brain, I also observed a strange phenomenon. I’ve always been somewhat interested in the aesthetic, and I’ve always taken great pride in the spontenaity and artistic expression of my hand-writing. Though, as I learned to code, my thought process became ebby, and so did my writing flow. Rather than flowing – as my thoughts would usually be- my thought process had become clumsy and unclear.

I always took great pride in my ideation. Little bursts of brilliance, sprouting grandiosely there in my cerebrum. Like popcorn flowers, poping and blooming after a spring rain.

The lifestyle of a writer, seems to encompass his mind from wake til rest. It tends to take over his entire focus, while walking, while cycling. His ideas tend to be the high part of his day, and his research incorporated in his being. And with every breathing moment, a new idea is another fantastic insight offered off of the tree of his routine.

But although all of this, as fantastic as it may be, the impending sentiment of riding out a never ending prison sentence until one ‘makes it’ and gets to sell his million copies thus delivering a proverbial get-out-of-jail-card. It looms like a heavy cloud on one’s sense of personal freedom. Especially in an era where our social lives tend to be cut short, and we’re somewhat forced to observe while the rest of the world lives a wild and adventurous life of wonder and abundance.

I know, I know… don’t compare, as comparison is the thief of all joy. Perhaps this is true. But on the otherside, I also find that living solely in the world of ideas is etherial and lacks the physical substance a man needs to feel alive. I don’t consider myself to be capable to let go of relationships on a Buddhist level and become fully monk-like.

I don’t believe that one has to be a starving arstist, especially in a day and age where content is king. Solely, I’m not sure how to make my writing interesting for others, or how to live off it.

And so began my journey to become a full stack web developer. I find it thrilling on one hand, because the ability to use technology to automate and build is interesting. Especially for someone like me who, as a kid enjoyed the thrills of Robot wars, lego and mechano. Coding is essentially the equivalent for adults with basic math skills.

At first, and with discipline, I set out boldly to learn how to create a website, an app, an learn the languages. Then I realised that my handwriting started to change, but I gathered that if I was going to become a developer and put money on the table, some things didn’t really matter as much.

I kept reading on the side, and enjoyed posting a weekly newsletter, I found that having balance seemed to be key to keeping ideas flowing through my mind. I spent my days learning about code, my evenings reading, and my weekends writing. This went well for a while, up until my father passed away. Then, I got out of the habit of writing and reading. I simply found it hard to maintain any form of habit to be honest.

A few months later, and after having reached a point of mental stagnation in my code learning, I started to doubt my ability to think in code, or code spontaneously. And although I can put code together like a rudimentary ape puts cube shapes through a toy frame, I felt the need to take a break. And… that’s when I met the woman.

I say this because, at some point near the end of our relationship, I shared my writing and my art, and my mission to succeed as a developer. To which she replied, that my writing is a gift.

Now, this is something I find frustrating. The notion that, because I have a gift, it should take a form of dominence over everything in my life and should dictate what I need to do and what I can’t do. As if the idea of having a gift in writing should prevent me from working as a developer.

In China, there is such a thing as a ‘Zhuazhou’. The Zhuazhou is essentially a form of birthday party focussed around the kid making a choice which will determine its destiny. Among the objects the child will choose between a pen, a paintbrush, a wad of cash, and other such iconic objects which will determine the childs path. Of course, this seems wildly fatalistic. In the book ‘Range‘ by David Epstein, the author talks about a train of thought in which superstars -such as Tigerwoods and other high performers- pick a sport, adapt quickly and then spend the rest of their lives with an advantage over the rest of the world.

What I find difficult to accept with the Zhuazhou ou the early adoption path is that the notion of free will doesn’t seem to enter the picture. For me, I like to toy with the idea of ‘Divergence‘. That our destiny is not set in stone and that we should be able to choose and shift towards what we believe -as conscious adults- is best suited for us.

One side tends to lean towards the idea that ‘the universe’ or ‘God’ has a plan for us, and that we will somehow be guided towards a dream outcome, while the other seems to believe that we create our own luck and outcomes through preparation and hard-work.

So, what does this mean?

On the one hand, if there is some intangible entity which has gifted us with a talent or gift and that gift is to serve us to reach our fullest potential to serve others, shouldn’t it be revealed and clear what path we should take? And on the other, if its simply a question of preparation and hard-work, how come we reach a point of mental stagnation?

Here, I see the fight between Heart and Mind. What we like, and is flowing, and what we know is best, and is enacted through disciplined action. Perhaps there is a perfect balance.

Do what is hard when life is easy, so that when life is hard life will be easy.

I believe the answer lies somewhere between the logical and safe approach to life, getting a diploma and studying well, getting a good job we’re good at and applying our skills. And on the other, doing what enlightens us, doing what brings us energy, having the courage to live in our zone of risk. When we get out of our comfort zone, we are forced to sink or swim. There is something quite energising about the immediacy of having to thrive to survive. It is as if, we become alive with alertness. And if we don’t produce the results, then we sink, so we have to make it work.

When the individual finds his zone of genius, and becomes good at it, there will come a fork in the road where he will be forced to make a decision. To take a leap of faith or to continue to live safely while always wondering what if.

I guess it all comes down to our risk tolerance and ability to embrace failure and the possibility of not succeeding. Do we believe in ourselves enough about the attainment of the vision we are driven by and aspire to? Or do we inherently distrust the process? And if so, why do we distrust the process? What pain does ‘trusting the process’ mean for us? And how can we align ourselves with our highest interest?

For some reason, I always find myself going back to Samuel Beckett’s “Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” . To grow unafraid of the learning process of falling, so much so that we gather momentum in our process, and rather than stumbling on our obstacles, we simply hop over them, sidestep them graciously and carry on unperturbed by the external rain, because within an eternal sunshine shines its warmth and our vision fuels us on like coal in a steame-engin.

Start anew.

*As for the woman? We never spoke again. She was simply there to remind me that I have a gift in my writing. Like an angel passing by, to nudge me along in the right direction. Entering my life to remove my obsolete onion skins of outdated belief and instil new ones. Like winter erases the months before and lets the land lie fallow, all states of mind have an end.

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Burn the boats…

We don’t solve a problem by focussing on the problem, but by focussing on solutions. Better yet, we don’t find the solution by focussing on the problem, but by focussing on new things.

This is easy, its the process of ideation.

  • We start with accumulating new information we want,
  • We then reach a point of saturation,
  • We then step away from our work of accumulation,
  • We finally reach a point of ideation (for example when we step into the shower, or go for a run…)

Thats it. Input, Process, Output.

This is something that took me a while to understand. My younger self would spend his time focussing on the problem, only to find dismayed that he had then compounded the problem and had exacerbated it. A bit like a kid picking a scab and never letting it heal.

We simply cannot find a solution to something if we are hanging on to the problem for dear life. This is what happens when people get addiction or live in fear. Horror vacui, ( ‘Nature abhors a vacuum’). Or in other words, humans will plug a hole with anything possible, they hate open loops.

For example, when someone is struggling, the solution is not to let them obssess over their problem, but to help introduce them to experience new things and focus on something else which might be more fruitful.

I awoke this morning, alarmed, uncomfortable, uneasy, because I had spend the better part of yesterday’s afternoon leaning on a coping mecanism to help me navigate the feeling of powerlessness. I had wanted to numb the numbness. And so, I awoke at 4.44, heart racing, feeling uncomfortable and overwhelmed by this vision I had been focussing on. And wondered if the way I was going was the only way possible. I then remembered a passage from James Allen “Environment is but your looking-glass…” which then prompted me that the contents of what I am envisionning are but the remnants of what I have been putting in my mind.

Which brought me to the understanding that ‘if we don’t take the trash out of our house, our house begins to stink‘. Or in other words, we must let go of the past, and clean out and make space for good fresh things to enter our lives. Keeping old rotting flowers isn’t romantic, and keeps us rooted in the past. We can’t hold on to a rotting piece of meat once its time is gone, if we do we’ll end up with parasites. The same is true of anything in our environment. Which is simply a projection of our internal world.

My father passed away not too long ago, and I’ve found myself imagining him watching down on me from above. This has given me more meaning in our Father above. This has brought the need to strive to build a life that I’m proud of, that I want to talk about. When we do so, we feel pride, not shame.

We build a life we’re proud of by focussing on what we want.

When I was younger and throughout my life, my father gave me gifts. And I now see that these gifts were Gods tests to see if I was ready to recieve material. I wasn’t. I failed, and faltered a few times, and ruined or lost the gifts he gave me, maybe because I felt angry at the time, or unappreciative. I was ungrateful. Ultimately I ruined those gifts. But I see the larger picture, these were trials for me to take care and appreciate what I had, not depreciate them. And only after his passing was I ready to fully appreciate what was his and take care of it. *

God, through my father, had only been preparing me for the times ahead. Shaping me for who I am today and who I am to become. To appreciate who and what I am and have. There are certain things God won’t trust you with if you’re not capable of appreciating them fully. You’d ruin them, which is why you must learn appreciation before you recieve anything.

We must burn the boats to what is holding us back, to our excuses, to our past, to what no longer serves us. We must strive to live up to everything we see and saw in our father. As man under God, our purpose is to create a life we are proud of, to lead by example, to live with courage and compassion. And to enjoy the fruits of our hard work, whatever they may be.

*This also brings me to the concept that a fathers son is a prince in preparation for the throne. Before a boy’s father passes away he cannot fully become a man, he cannot understand fully the responsibility his father carries on his shoulders for his father does it for him. And when the inevitable day comes to pass, the boy who had been in preparation up until that moment has no other path but to ascend to the role of the father. The prince becomes the King.

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To choose what matters. (A matter of heart)

We usually tend to describe what matters as something that has value to us.
What we like, what we think we need, what we want… Our needs are shaped by the world we live in, the societal standards, the social media, the unexpressed desires, and our world of consumption taylored to make us desire…

But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

To choose what matters, is to choose what is in front of you. To choose what God is putting in front of you when you have to make a choice.

To choose what matters, is to be grateful to have something and to embrace it fully. To choose what matters, or materialises in front of you, is to choose to do something good with it, and to water it and cherish it and give it our attention and cut off from all other options and possibilities.

So when you have to ‘choose what matters’ in terms of dating and relationships. Choose the one person who chooses you, and cut off from all other options and possibilities. Choose to embelish and cherish and love that one person who steps out of the crowd and decides to take a chance with you. They have the courage to step towards you, because they see your value from miles away. To them, your value is screaming to be ceased. You are water to the thirsty, food to the hungry, and air to those who can’t breathe.

If you have the courage to take that leap of faith and embrace ‘what matters’ and elevate that which is presented to you, to the highest level you can. God will give you support and momentum. You will feel like the luckiest person on earth. You will inherit the Kingdom of God.

The only way in, is through the heart. And the only key is honest and true Love. Which is only possible, when two soulmates meet with genuin intention.

All the best,

Cherokee Goldberg

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Mistakes early on lead to the divine path

Do you know why you need to make as many mistakes as early as possible?

Aside from the learning experience and entrepreneurial preaching’s spewed from all over the internet to make vain money,

it’s for the self knowledge, how you function, how the world functions, so you can gain a balanced harmony. But it’s also so that you can discover your limitations, so you can get lost and fall down, and in your darkest hour, still have access to who your father is, and uncover a way home through the storm.

Getting lost early on, allows you to access your fathers guidance, to access your fathers care, to see the extent of who he is.

Before that your knowledge of your father its mainly assumptions, and many times false illusions that we never get to revisit.

This is the same for any parent, assumptions are built on childhood distortions without actualization of who parents really are today.

Reactualisation is a beautiful gift one gets to cherish going forward, as are memories. Without it, we run the risk of a life lead by delusion. And to live a life in delusion denotes living an unexamined life: a lie.

Though, to tumble and fall allows us to start from our beginings, to build ourselves up, and witness a fathers greatness in consciousness.

To allow ourselves to be vulnerable and allow a parent a second chance to support us, allows us to go forward in adulthood, to let go of the anger of unmet childish expectations.

To reexperience “helplessness” allows us to reexperience our fathers traits minus unclear mixed up delusions, we get to fortify the truth of who he was.

Without the vulnerability of “Helplessness” one cannot experience the caring nature of one’s father. If we are in control, no one can exert correct control over us.

The “second coming” in the bible, is exactly this, getting to reexperience our actual father after falling and perceiving him for what he is, not our delusional beliefs, or someone we need to use, we get to experience the genuine true love of a father.

One must be willing to go through hell to reexperience this. And hell is created through the thoughts we engage in, as the thoughts we entertain create our emotional state, and our emotional state determines how we feel.

If you cannot go through your own hell, you cannot experience or appreciate or be grateful for any foundation your father has layed before you.

If you cannot witness your fathers caring assistance, while going through a hell of your own making, you will have no real reference as to who he was and if you cannot empathize with your fellow man. One has to shatter one’s false illusions before seeing the truth.

And to be cut off from men is to live in perpetual Hell, limbo.

So, to learn how much your father cares is to learn how to feel, and you cannot access the gates of paradise, which by the way, is right here on earth through the pathway of our own thoughts.

Narnia is not a physical location, its a doorway created by imagination. Equally, paradise is a place that manifests within your life, which you can only see by :

-> Fully embracing one’s father (living or dead) which gives way to fully embracing one’s mind and ability to think.

-> By embracing one’s father and mind, we then get to control our emotional life, which gives way to stability and courage, which gives way to providing safety to the women in one’s life.

And if they feel safe they can provide love and care, which colors the earth we reside on (because the way we ‘feel’ colors our mental experience).

If a woman decides to step into a mans life, she decides to – by her presence and being- color, nurture, provide warmth, etc. to a mans logical and even cold masculine structure.

So, by rediscovering one’s father and embracing him, we rediscover a balanced harmony in our lives.

Now, let me be straight with you, I’ve never read the Bible, I’m not preaching a religion, I’m making observations from my life experiences. But if I’ve never read the bible, how could the bible be false if the information I portray pertains to observations from my experience? And from this statement, I will say that, the way to access God, is through the learning of our biological father, or he who pertains to lead us to Paradise by his example as a man.

No man is perfect, but if he so chooses to live a life according to his higher self, he will lead well. Because to lead with our higher self is Gods will. Danté’s inferno explains the pitfalls to success, and denotes the challenges we face as humans as we strive for paradise. Our higher self is a place from which all those who lead reside and show example from. Just as my father did… he lead by example for me to follow in his footsteps.

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Introverts and others



You know how we tend to want to put a label on ourselves to define who we are so we can be a part of something? It comforts us, it allows us to feel maybe as if we belong.
Well, that label can also be restrictive in fully harnessing our potential.

I’ve concluded that maybe all introverts aren’t necessarily right about being introverts.

Maybe we all have the capacity to be extroverted. Which makes us Ambiverts. I believe it relates to our beliefs about pain and pleasure. Maybe who we are isn’t set in stone; as much as that can provide comfort, it could also provide hope to know change is possible. Maybe there is an underlying fact we’re not acknowledging, maybe the definitions we’ve been given and taken as written in stone aren’t as solid as we think they are.

“When the student is ready, the master will appear. ” – Buddhist saying.

If we associate other people with pain, then being around them will be painful because our mind is set on seeing them as painful. Even if rationally we can see that they’re not actually hurting us. It’s fairly easy to grow up with the belief that others equate pain.
We then experience people as pain. We’d rather hang on to negative beliefs which don’t serve us anymore rather than take a risk to change our beliefs for more positive one’s which could bring a happier existence.

It’s also fairly easy to assume that extroverts to assume that others equate pleasure.
If we look at the difference in their nervous systems, “introverted” people are more sensitive which would lead to feeling the same hurts more intensely. Which could lead to being more responsive and so defensive in the event of a potential hurt.

Ok, fair enough, for this example lets put someone in a box and call them an introvert. It’s convenient. It helps us to define a state, maybe even an expression or a way of interacting or dealing with the world.

If extroverts have less sensitive nervous systems, then it stands to reason that, their senses are less sensitive. If they’re less sensitive, then it also stands to reason that they need to develop and grow their energy a lot more from early on, in order to meet the requirements to feel and sense the world around them, and also interact.

Think about how much volume you’ll need to say something through the base of your audio system. Now think about how easy and how low amounts of volume you need to get a message through a speaker. I’m pretty sure, you’ll hear the highs easier than the lows. It’s just clearer. Then again it depends on the quality of your hearing. Lets assume you do.

In introvert terms, high relates to sensitivity. If some children are more sensitive to the environment around them, it stands to reason that they’ll feel more shocked, more intensely, more fear, more pain… Which means that they’ll regulate themselves from early on instead of intensifying the amount of energy they have in order to get a message out like the extroverts.

One seems to be bold, where the other is refined. At least in terms of nervous system.

All this being said, in the idea that introverts were given the perfect upbringing. Wouldn’t it stand to reason that they’d gain from developing, and growing their energy so they can feel more intensely? To feel is to encompass the pain and the joy, the happiness and the fear, the anger and surprise and everything. So, I can only imagine that the creation of a fearless introvert would be far more effective than an extrovert.

I say this bearing in mind the idea that if we sooth the harsh visions of our childhoods and transform our views about the pains we hold, that maybe we could put aside the notion of introverts and extroverts. That the sensitivities which hold us back, are maybe simply linked to pains we have not yet visited, which we are unaware of, and which keep us viewing the world a specific way, through that “sensitive” lens.

Can we link our pain points to not being heard instead of relating pain to others?
Can we link our pleasure to others and to the spontaneous exchange in civil societies around us? If so, then by linking our internal beliefs to different axes, we’ll end up changing the world around us and the way we see.

Maybe we don’t need to be as sensitive, if we can feel secure? Maybe we don’t need to be blunt if we can be more confident? Maybe soothing each others dramatic points of view could create a more harmonious world around us…