8 essential questions to decipher if you’re in a Toxic relationship.

There is no bigger compliment than someone who choses you. None. It feels great,
it leaves us feeling light headed and happy. Life couldn’t be better. We are the one for someone!

On the other hand, rejection, is one of the most painful blows you can take without it being physical. You can know your value, you can see the silver lining, the benefits from the rejection…

But if you really care, there’s something painful, it becomes about the letting go of outdated ways.

Though, recently something I didn’t want to see popped up out of the blue. A voice message.
I wasn’t ready for it… I wasn’t prepared at all.

An old relationship which had all the signs of Toxicity, appeared as if some sort of magic trick. “POOF”! I hadn’t yet put it to bed correctly for some reason. I wasn’t able yet.

I’m an optimistic person, I have hopes for brighter days and have the understanding that everyone has flaws and difficulties to get over. Though, I am blindsided by people who prey on these traits. They immerse themselves through the cracks and leech on to my need to see the brightside in them. It gives them a breath of fresh air, for once they’re not defined as the “BAD one’s”. They get to experience the sunshine of my none-judgemental gaze…

Looking back though, I decided to enumerate all the traits of this person, all the things I found weird, or simply a little off.. and little did I know my list quickly became a page… This is when I started to worry. Was I putting this person on a pedestal? Was I enabling their sick behaviour?
Worse yet, was I feeding their deluded sense of grandiosity?

I was… Sadly. Though, let’s get back to my reaction of Not being ready.
I listen in, wondering who left the message and I hear her voice.
My body, in instant recognition recoils and tenses up…

Like an earthquake, my walls started to shake. Like every time an earthquake Quakes,
I stopped everything and hid under the table, emotionally.

In situations where people don’t tend to behave in a loving respectful way occur, I often go into a sort of paralysis. It becomes an energy leak, a pain point. A poison of my well-being. I become intently focussed on them like a spaceship sucked into a blackhole. No matter how much throttle I add, I have no traction to get away.

My heart starts beating faster, my mind can’t concentrate well at all, and as if I was poisoned all I can do is lie down and breath with an elevated heart-rate, while I focus on my screen.

Last seen 10 minutes ago… – Online. – Last seen 5 minutes ago…” Ad infinitum.

Someone who feigns interest and then lingers you on until you figure out they’re not interested is a seriously toxic trait. Not only it will give you the illusion that you’re not good enough, you’ll invest countless stretches of time staring into the abyss waiting for something to happen. Your brain, half melting while your lungs are heavy and the air is thick… Or so it seems..

You feel lost and can’t put your finger on what it is, but you know deep down they’re doing wrong somehow. It’s a visceral gut feeling, your intuition tells you something is off. In all circumstances they’re speaking nice words to your face and putting on a nice little show, but their actions tell another story. They won’t tell you about their actions unless you confront them with specific questions. Even then you need to build a baseline to figure out if they’re lying or not…

What a waste of energy!

Though, the best way to get over this is to decide to bring the conversation to an end,
block the contact, delete the number and move onwards to better things, NOW.

The best solution I’ve found is the mental step of burning the bridge.

1) Define if that person values you and makes you feel valued.
2) Define if you’re the only one who’s making the effort or if its mutual.
3) Are you a priority in their life? Do they treat you like a priority? Or not?
4) What is your core feeling? That gut feeling? Is your nervous system tightening up?
5) Are your thoughts focussed on justifying, describing, proving, arguing?
6) What mental space do you allow them to have? Are they living in your head?
7) Do they make you feel Free? Or do they leave you feeling depressed?
8) Do they elevate you? Or do they reduce you?

Immerse yourself in a project, a constructive project which demands that you use your mind to focus on solving something.

Go for a walk, with a podcast or music. Or a run, or cycle, or anything to get you out of your “RUT”.

It’s not about the activity its self, because you might find yourself thinking about the person.
But it about creating experiences, and compounding them up. You’ll find that if you experience a few situations where you’re forced to get out of your head, you’ll quickly forget.

It’s as if, until we compound the experiences, we’re allowing ourselves to mope and sit around feeling sorry for ourselves, victims of some rotten behaviour. Though, we’re losing precious time, precious energy and life. While they’re out there doing god knows what after having used you as a stepping stone to get to where they wanted to go. – Ok ok, I know this might not help, bear with me.

The point is this, we need to forget all about them. When we get a thought about what could be,
what should be, or what might happen if. We’re envisioning THEIR potential through our minds.
We’re living in a bubble of imagination. Nothing bad will happen by Forgetting them.
And you need to do this until you’re confident in your own shoes again. It’s about building yourself up. If you’re focussed on them, you’re not giving yourself your own sunlight to grow, you’re growing that idea which then eats away at you.


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Social ponderations

We all know that how we see others is related to how we see ourselves internally. What if,
others are simply materialisations of our most current inner beliefs, or our distant inner beliefs? Reflections of our current emotional evolution mirrored back to us through distortions of our internal values, like the carnival mirrors. They’re sending us back our intentions x feelings x beliefs x magnified by our confidence or lack thereof. All this through the prism of how clear they are in conscience and mind.

Maybe the way the universe works around us is like magnet frequencies, attracting and repelling energies which are equal or opposite in value? Whether we are open minded towards the futur potential someone presents to us, or a past which we now see clearly in someone else represents a sense of flow. While being closed minded to past and futur meaning we’re in a state of ebb, fear, unable to let go or unable to accept thus rejecting the concept we perceive.

Maybe people, are simply like firmware updates, testing what works better for us and what works less well. Reflecting a mirror of an energy we no longer wish to portray or carry with us as part of our tapestry.

When we encounter an ex for example, oftentimes all we can perceive about them is the emotion they left us with, or the vision and emotion we’ve had to create and accept in order to move forward since we last exchanged with them, or how we feel about them mixed in with a degree of self-esteem.

When we meet someone new, generally we don’t get the time to really delve into what they’re interested, vulnerable and resilient about, it’s all about first appearances. So when meeting someone new, first impressions are important because they give way to then having access to meeting that person again or being very clear about not wanting to at all. Though, first appearances define essentially how we see someone, they’re mainly based upon the social superficial front one has created and how practiced they are at showing you what they want you to see and know about them. This can become stagnant and lack depth. Though, very important, energy isn’t seen but felt. Its how we make the other feel in our presence, the intertwining of essence over each other’s reality.

Often times, people with beautiful fronts have very little depth to share as they don’t have the same search for meaning, as they believe it lies in their looks and how others perceive them. Seemingly or for some reason, as the external front has already been covered, they don’t have to search for internal meaning as much as someone who’s forced to rely on inner confidence, charm, experience etc. The latter takes a longer time to develop but ultimately cannot be taken away once achieved.
Rather than being vulnerable and having transparency as to what difficulties they are going through or have overcome they simply can’t relate to anything which will seemingly weaken them in the eyes of their peers. The power game is simply too strong.

Incorrect Power games are achieved by those who don’t or can’t achieve inner power over themselves. This form of Power is thus exerted over those who have less boundaries or less need to seek power over others as they don’t derive their sense of esteem from others but from their own accomplishments or in minute details of everyday life. Power games generally arise for those who haven’t yet taken the time to develop their core center. Instead of the grounding benefits, they experience a gaping hole which disables the individual from staying still and appreciating the details of their life.
Gratitude is thus a state less accessible as they depend on external circumstances instead of envisioning and then materialising. They function as leeches to external conditions, instead of organic growing beings. They cannot take from within because that would mean all they have to offer is the impossible feeling which they have to live with. Thus promoting either taking and using others, or dispensing a form of negativity. Power comes from feeling powerless.

Success, I have found is really being able to be at peace with myself, contemplating my surroundings, feeling grateful for what I have, having the opportunity to share my findings,
the process of ideas. Success is really something which I don’t show but a feeling. Success is the empowerment and magnification of a graceful overcoming, the experience of being exactly where I need to be to do and achieve what I enjoy. The capacity to evolve and progress towards higher levels within the practices of my focus. Seeing my skills flourish and grow, while enjoying every second of the process from start to finish. Success then becomes a secret garden, impossible to replicate for others, which the fruits beared aren’t produced, nor forced in a mechanical fashion. The process is pure creation. A unique mind, expressing it’s difference through the artistic abilities, supported by infinite time and space, needs met and wants fulfilled, empowered by curiosity, magnified by intelligence, undisturbed by an external noise produced from a world of lost souls craving always more of something they aren’t producing. The freedom to reply to no one but our highest potential. The secret, then becomes teaching others how to achieve their success and empowering them to stand on their own two feet so they don’t depend on us. The paradox of money making…

The paradox of money & Freedom making is achieving our own success while maintaining our own freedom. The balance is a fragile point between depending on others for our material freedom, and being invisible and free to act and be as changeable as we wish without any accountability. The two opposites, freedom and creativity. Creativity cannot be produced under pressure or with expectancies, while freedom can be achieved in our mind while sitting in a cave. Creativity is then something that should ensue as a process to enjoy. Then productised through a unique brand which clearly empowers one to take one’s time to create and report only to one’s need to produce at their own rythme. Otherwise, the creative becomes a factory worker producing in a Fordism-like manner. The complexity of human based productivity, especially in relation to creativity and inspiration based activities cannot be forced. This is where discipline and lack there-of clash. The disciplined worker will get up and squeeze out anything going on at the detriment of brilliant ideas. While the inspiration based creative will function depending on the energy at their disposal. We’re not machines. Especially taking into account Allostasis (the budgeting of our energy), and creating respectfully to what we’re able to save and cultivate. The idea that we’re to sit and force out everything and anything we can think of in a rigid manner isn’t human.
The strict need to sit in an army like manner and produce without any freewill or variabilities to what we experience or feel is lacking in human vulnerability and without vulnerability there is no courage. He who forces his productions doesn’t allow himself to have the courage needed to experience the ups and downs of creativity. “An artist is a person who performs any of the creative arts. This can range from painting to music. An artisan, on the other hand, is a skilled worker who makes things by hand.” Steven Pressfield for example is an artisan inducing artists to behave like artisans.

Regarding how we see society. It is often very clear that those who look at society and describe their hatred for it are actually projecting the hatred of their own flaws upon it. We only see the world as we are. For this reason alone, someone who see’s the world a specific way is only describing his own state through his detailed descriptions of it. Someone who points a finger at the corrupt are projecting what they would be if they were in someone else’s shoes with the same level of “corruption”. A scientist may see the world through the results he produces, but to be a negative scientist disregarding his emotions, his data will be flawed by his capacity to produce. Take the Emoto experiment for example, simply thinking negative thoughts on one glass of water opposes thinking positive thoughts on another glass. The results of this test are crystal clear. Our intentions projected on external matter distort the results. This is why even if factual responses like 2+2=4 for everyone apply, the “Factual” findings which apply to the world around are firstly far too many to take into account, but secondly matter around us changes with our outlook upon it. If that isn’t enough, we cannot see the good aspect in someone unless we appreciate it within ourselves on some level. We simply project the inner empires of our inner worlds. We’re conscious of the creation, or they’ve been forced upon us by mental heritage, either way, they’re within and we see the world in relation to our “IN-Formation”. The formation we’ve created within.

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Perspective on confidence

In Audio, often we hate our voices. 

Though, if we practice enough, we learn to control our voices and we learn to love how we sound. We also learn to love how we sound, once we learn to love the inspiration and content which comes from our mouths.
We love ourselves a little bit more, the less we compare to others.

By coming back to the drawing board. We hear our voice in relation to how we feel.
Just as when we have an idea, and feel we are entirely inspired by the idea, we are in transcendence, and we are transfixed by the pure genius which flows through us.

We feel great while in the state of flow and inspired only to wake up with “No surge of genius” and we are back to the “normal” feeling which is our bodies reposing standard in order to maintain energy. 

We are in lesser states of being because to be in the enlightened state of creative genius would require a whole lot more energy.
Hence why, when we come out we are often famished, or we are thirsty. 

We love and accept everything when we are in flow, we’re more discriminatory when we’re not.

So wouldn’t we assume that the software, when used correctly, functions well. And when we’re not adding clear lines of code(/directions) our minds seem like a jumble and so do we?

We could also assume that with time we experience more success’s, and we get more confident over a long period simply because we witness that somehow we’ve made it this far, had x amount of success and see things in a different way.

So by practicing life by living, experiencing, making mistakes, failing, practicing compassion, learning to relax, learning to achieve etc, its easy to assume that our earthly experience compounds up and equates to confidence.

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Waiting and Time.

Patience is simply learning to love your own presence enough to take care of your time. 

If you take care of your time, you can be as patient as you want. You won’t have the impression your time is fleeting, as you’ll be in possession of it.

If your time is diverted towards an outcome of your choosing, your life becomes wealthy and full of life and joy. 

If your time is allocated and directed by others, you simply forget the idea that anything is yours. 
Because your effort, attention, and time are spent living up to external references instead of coming from within.

Control your time, and your life becomes yours. When your time is controlled by others, your body, attention, finances, energy and patience depend on someone else’s decision. Your patience thus becomes what you are willing to endure while not on your path. Patience while on your path, is simply a matter of time allocation into your actions and focus.

When Time is given to others, it is wasted. Where we could be using our time for creative, productive, inspiring, pursuits which would benefit others far more than your time. People benefit more from your actions than they do by you not doing anything.


Playing with the oppositions of experience, doing things we don’t want to do, makes the times where we do what we want to do more valuable. Giving our time away, is the equivalent of wasting it on trivial pursuits which don’t empower us. 

We see how willing and patient we are with ourselves to give away such a precious commodity,
when we allocate our time and attention to other people. While its noble to focus on others,
being fulfilled is a far better example than not and the way to achieve this is by being productive and focussing our intent on a constructive building process (tangible or intangible).

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My take on brain food?

Food, is fuel. 

Though, we also have brain food, such as inspiring information, knowledge and facts. 

The more natural, unstressed, qualitative types of food we provide our bodies, the better the outcome. 

We imbibe energy, which is converted into thoughts. Our thoughts combine and like a painting, transposed upon a canvas, our thoughts transcribe the subtle, the strong, the intensive and powerful frequencies which are expressed through our inspirations.

The better the quality food, the better our bodies will react and conduct themselves.

The better the quality of literature we imbibe, the more inspiring the thoughts. To discover what quality means for us, is to understand what and how we aspire to produce. 

When we produce thoughts, if we consume anything relating to noise, fear,
violence, disharmonious, uninspiring, dull. We essentially put processed foods inside our mind. Our digestive systems digest the dull, processed food and our physical quality is also disqualified.
It is important to chose quality, always. Not letting money or popularity chose the quality of your life. But letting the quality of your life be more important than it.

When we chose quality, I have often had the unfortuitous disadvantage to meet people who’d favour money above quality, in many domains. From an observational point, their lives also transpire those choices, so do the fruits bared by their minds. 

It is of utmost importance to chose people of quality who inspire us and pull us
upwards and inspire us to do better. I’m not talking about snobbish tendencies to
discriminate financially how someone looks, but to simply observe where peoples minds are, and what their habits are, as well as how developed their minds are and the words they chose to share.

We’re talking about people who live near us and have the same advantages as us, yet cannot see how wealthy they are with what they have. These people, like leaches, will suck the energy from your inspiration and leave you feeling empty and dull as they are questioning the quality of your choices, the quality of your mind, and the value of who you are. They bring you down to their level and make you doubt everything about yourself. 

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How do I stay consistent in changeability?



What is consistent is my soul, which I have developed my relationship with.

My soul has become more and more distinguished for me as I have evolved through pain over the years. As if cracking the eggshells away from the white egginess of our souls, we discover an intangible yolk. The white, is more like our mind which is capable ofexpanding as far as its content. 

The Yolk is our soul, which fragile, remains under the surface of a thin membrane, yellow like the sun, with a satin like texture which, like the moĂ«lle of spine is cultivated over time in such detail and accumulation. Like Shilajit it is essential, thousands of years of crushing elements together, making the most essential edible content which is so compact, yet so dense, yet ever so rich. We stay consistent when we are guided by our soul purpose. 

Our soul purpose transpires as:
 
Passion (physical energy for what we are doing. engaged.)
+ Progress (for what we are doing)
+ Inspiration (the soul must be enlightened by the
activity. We must be all absorbed!)

= Soul purpose.

The soul purpose, is our personal interest, (what we have most worked on in our life), combined with what we share with the world to help and uplift. 

It’s a combination of what turns us on, keeps us focussed, what we would do if we didn’t get payed for it, what we’d continue doing anyway and what we’d do even if we hit the jackpot. 

Our soul purpose, is the middle ground between our curiosity, inspiration, expression and our capacity for refinement (making it palatable for others to comprehend – choosing a way to express/share with others).

If we are following our soul purpose, we remain consistent while the world around us changes. It is the only thing which cannot change, because it is our CORE. It is the work of our lifetime. The accumulation of all the hardships and goals we strive for.

Our circumstances will change, our finances will change, our looks will change,
our voice will change, as well as our interests, our capacity will change as will our
relations. But as long as we remain loyal and consistent to our soul purpose, our life
remains somewhat consistent. And everything has a purpose and sense and,
in the words of Napoleon Bonaparte.

“A superior power pushes me towards a goal of which I know nothing; as long as it has not been attained I am invulnerable, unshakeable; as soon as I am no longer necessary for it, a single step(fly) will suffice to topple me.”

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Perspective on consumer mindset and independant leaders.


How much of a consumer are you? Or put another way, what do you desire most? Freedom or other people’s acceptance?

Funnily enough, desiring freedom will give you other people’s acceptance and being free. While chosing other people’s acceptance will enslave you and they most likely won’t care anyway… So double loss.

Most people are governed by their desires, and because their desires control their actions, they become instant gratification zombies.

It starts with the dopamin hits from social media, overuse of sex and lack of control over the primary creative energy. They engage in drinking, eating, smoking, drugs… anything which will numb the pain they feel. They’re enslaved, and they’re not searching for solutions, they just take life as if its a given and they don’t have any effect over its quality. Arguably, these are the same rigid minded chumps who believe solely in working like a slave for 20 years to get a diploma and who then piss on your dreams with the self-hatred they’ve accumulated by following what they’re told to do like lapdogs. They end up resent-full. Just being in their proximity is toxic for your vibe.

They go along with these debilitating practices which destroys their health, their energy, their clarity of mind, they become sex workers (The world is rampant with sex workers, its damn nasty…), they become alcoholics, they become dependant on external substances in order to numb their internal conflict.

The poor thing is, they haven’t developped their Emotional intelligence. This in its self portrays them as following sheep.

While times are unclear, a leader will know to follow their intuition even if that means seemingly going in the wrong direction in other peoples perception. They’ll engage in the fog of war without knowledge of what is ahead. They engage, because they know that doing nothing will lead to defeat. They take the course of action a coward would back away from, because they have courage and internal belief in themselves.

I say this, because I don’t know an inspiring leader who isn’t qualified in fully accepting who they are deep down. On the contrary, anyone who doesn’t know who they are become the products of the social trends happening around them, they conform, they become consumers in order to become of the latest trend. Hoping that if they follow the trend, people will believe they are avantGard and pioneers, because “if they wear and have products created by pioneers” they will be associated as if they are them selves.

This couldn’t be any further from the truth. They’re just pain based entities who can’t accept themselves, let alone sit alone with themselves long enough to reap the benefits of thinking and feeling for themselves.

Are you a conformist, or are you a leader? Do you believe in yourself enough to know you’re creating the world around you? Or are you simply a numbed product of society, spending to conform and be accepted by others, be loved by others? (Hint: You don’t even love yourself, why do you think others should love you?)

What is the reason people give up after trying a few times?

I suppose Lack of pleasure in the doing of, lack of results in the achievement, 
or simply ‘lacking in faith’ that things will get better. 

I believe that if people give up after a few times, its mainly because they don’t find an accessible foothold in order to start climbing that mountain. 

They may get overwhelmed by the idea or the implications.

It could also be because of the people around them. Criticising where they should be in support. Or voices inside their heads telling them that they are at risk. Telling them that they won’t make it. This is a fear of death or the unknown. Which isn’t really valid, because if we sit with it, it vanishes…

Maybe there has been an instance of repeated pain. And they have defined that situation, through the perception of a mindset which was biased with pain.
It’s important not to write something off simply because we had a bad experience. 
But to observe if what we believed was written in stone a long time ago.
Is it still valid? Has a door opened for us in the meantime, so we can explore it anew?

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What is the main reason people don’t try?

People don’t try because they don’t believe in themselves or are in fear of the outcome. Better yet, they may have a fear of success and the Trying of X or Y creates a sense of paralysis. 
People may not try for many reasons. Not believing in themselves or their skills, or their capacity to overcome obstacles. 

It can also be environmental, the people around us influence us much more than we know. Our entourage can make or break our belief and vision. It’s essential, if we want to achieve anything, to find a space to think and convince and confirm that what we are doing, we’re doing for the right reasons.
Stepping away from people who don’t believe in your projects or ideas is essential, for your creativity as well as your wellbeing, and that of your ideas. 

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Jobs vs Purpose

How many years are you supposed to study to get a job? 
How many years are you supposed to invest into your studies in order to land a job? 

In my view, the easiest way to get a job is to work on social skills like retail and jobs alike. 

I studied for 2 years to understand how sales worked, before then studying for 3 years to get A levels in french litterature and philosophy. 

Then I was pretty much set to get any entree level job I wanted. Before graduating sales, I had read “The Game” by Neil Strauss, in which the author talks about approaching as many girls as possible to get over the fear of rejection and potentially expose yourself to more people, which in proportion helps to achieve adding more phone numbers to your contact list and potentially getting more girls in your life. 

Though, I had already mastered that while I was in high-school and spent most of my time chatting up birds. On recess, lunch breaks etc. 

Then later in life I simply applied the same principle to work, print out a tone of cv’s and apply the same mechanism, walk in with a big smile like with the birds. 

Have a confident tone, like with the birds. Eye contact, like with the birds.
Dress well and be well groomed, like with the birds… 

Having a sales degree made things pretty easy, and being a salesman also proved to ease things. Though, getting a job wasn’t difficult for me, so I could simply apply my ambition and aim for higher and better if I didn’t like where I was. Which I did.  I was also limited to the job function though.

Had I studied for 10 years to become a doctor or a lawyer or an engineer,
the doors wouldn’t have been open to me to do job hoping to the same degree.

I wouldn’t have noticed how boss’s functioned and how they exploited their employee’s to make money for them. I wouldn’t have had the freedom to jump from one job to another, or land communication jobs. The thing with a job is that it is like a lillypad, it helps us to get from where we are to where we are going. Jobs are perfect for anyone who has entrepreneur ideas. The difficulty with jobs though, is that you don’t have infinite energy or health.

You can work as hard as you want to land the job, but once you have the job it becomes difficult to sustain that same level of intensity. 

As for a career, you study for a long while in order to become a cog in someone else’s system, only to then wear yourself out but have no other options because you’ve clogged your mind up so much with your learning mechanisms that it becomes very difficult to then switch to anything else.

When you are endocrinated with studies, your mind tends to pick up information differently. You’re okay with force feeding yourself. Though, you’re doing it, most of the time, because that is the only choice. Work your head off to get a diploma, and then get a job according to what you have studied. 

This is very limiting, for a few reasons. 

1) You cannot switch, your diploma stunts your ability to get do anything else.
You’re stuck self identifying with your diploma. 

2) You haven’t learn’t to think outside of academic spaces, which is limiting in the real world. Where in school, you learn facts by heart, your mind becomes a warehouse of dusty encyclopaedic facts, which is useful if … you’re passing an exam. 

Though, your mind functions differently. In the real world, our minds pick information, based upon our curiosity. We then dig in, sift and sort the information. Pass on to something else, etc. Only to then conclude with Eurika moments when your brain has finished processing all the information. 

Your mind has been taught to think in a way which doesn’t equate to finding solutions you need, but solutions you’re required to find for someone else. You’ve been taught to retain information or methods in order to apply them later. You haven’t been taught how to think or how to use your brain to its full potential. 

3) You don’t have any real world experience. This doesn’t help your confidence or your capacity to believe in yourself. And you often get used in the business world.

4) You don’t work your EQ, which becomes inherantly more important than any IQ. Your IQ is solely there for you to figure out problems. Your EQ is there to help you go through problems. It’s your sticking power.

5) You don’t learn risk. You’re coddled in a little world of privilege inside of academic structures. You don’t go through difficulties. Infrastructures protect you from risk by providing a lush environment of academic pretention. 

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