What affirmations did you use to overcome Imposter Syndrome, Limiting beliefs, and Achieve Success?

These questions are the result of a podcast I was invited on a few weeks ago.
I decided to share my answers in this PODCAST SHOW-NOTES Exclusive.

1. Did you have any limiting beliefs or imposter syndrome? 

Growing up, I’ve had many limiting beliefs, and I’ve experienced imposter syndrome. Though, I have found that imposter syndrome came from me not being where I needed to be. You know, there’s an article by Gary V which talks about how entrepreneurs ARE BORN, NOT MADE. Which explains the 5 main points of what entrepreneurs have within which are natural to them. Or at least they’ve been exposed to it enough to bring out what is inside of them.

So, These 5 traits are:

  • Salesmanship. 
  • A chip on your shoulder. 
  • An independent spirit
  • Understanding consumers and consumer attention
  • and Patience


When reading this article, I understood, I had all of these traits, and my cv underlined it, just as Steve Jobs said that it’s by looking backwards that we connect the dots. 

That’s when we see what our purpose is!

 1st Salesmanship. 

I went to sales school and it confirmed what I was, though I wasn’t any good with the academic aspect of it. I had a deep rebellious streak, which most entrepreneurs also have. It’s a childhood thing. Childhood experiences of a Father being away on business or starting business, but also experiencing the effects of their stressed characters while being behind scenes, which has effect on the way they treat those around them…

My father also has the ability to talk his way into and out of paper bags. Which I’d later confirm for myself on the field while working for a Jeweller selling Swarovski and Pandora to clients: I had the same gift of the gab too.

2nd Having A chip on your shoulder.  

I cannot remember a time where I didn’t have a chip on my shoulder. I’ve Aways had a deep need to prove I’m better. NOW This is early, I remember when I was 5 at the playground, asking my mum if I was the best. I was born into a certain amount of luxury, though only to the outside eye. On the inside, at home, we’d have to experience pain and cold, and struggle. So, I grew up believing that we had money, when we didn’t. Which was a real blow to the ego when I found out:  I was in fact poor. My mother fought tooth and nail for us to have what we wanted, despite having close to nothing herself. Which also gave me a deep need to succeed in life. I owe it to her, not like a debt, but like a mission. It’s like being part of the aristocracy with the people around you, yet living like paupers behind closed doors! I was also exposed to wealthy families along the way.my best friends would always have some amount of wealth or at least some sort of power in the world.So, I’d always have a sense of competitivity with my friends which wasn’t so healthy, despite having a good time….

Also, Simply the need to prove it to everyone, to stick it to those who didn’t believe in me, or who made me feel as if I wasn’t good enough from early adolescence onward. Its all an expression of childhood anyway.  But it all mounts up… 

3rd: An independent spirit.  

As for independence, I’ve always had the need for freedom. I’ve always and I mean Always needed to be an independent thinker. My mother told me I was running at the age of 11 months, and climbing up dangerous walls. 

She thought I’d be some sort of mountain guide in extreme situations. Because of all the situations I’d been in physically over the course of my life. Basically, it was just me searching for limitations, searching to push further, searching to do better. 

Later on in life there was only so much I could discover in the material tangible world, so I went inside. Luckily I am an introvert, so that helped. I’d search for the masculin structure a father could provide, or at least it was absent and so I’d push as far as I could go as a result to find limits. Distance, situations, anything… My father wasn’t home much, he was mainly at work. I’d always push everything to the extreme.
No father, means no identity. For a guy at least. Push that further and you’ll find that it’s a lack of reference. And you build your identity on your own. 

4 Understanding consumers and consumer attention

Understanding consumers is something I’ve done since the age of at least 16 while going into sales courses for example. Though understanding consumers on a deeper level, as well as their attention, I’ve always been pretty deep into psychology, as well as understanding others. This mainly started after I read The Game by Neil Strauss when I was 17. 

I started to dig into mentalism and, Ericksonian hypnosis and other techniques and methods. All in the name of love and understanding how to get a girlfriend. Of course, with age you understand that you don’t need to force interactions, they occur naturally…. Though, mainly understanding customers and their desires.This started to occur when I worked at victoria Magdalena for a year while selling jewellery, and then on a much deeper level when I worked at Apple in customer service. These two jobs alone gave me more than enough understanding of how customers functioned and why they’d buy such and such products. Of course there would be influence to take into account too.

 5 Patience 

And of course, patience. This is something life puts you up to. It puts you in many situations where you’re continually tested. Of course, seeing the grander scheme of things, having patience is how you survive. Because if you make a false move, act too soon, or like in sales rush to see the customeror force them to buy. You’ll end up blowing any possible deals for them or for yourself.  


In retrospect, I’ve done a lot of work on myself to undo limiting beliefs. Why on earth would I’d feel paralysed, when time came to take action. I did have one massive limitation to get over despite having imposter syndrome. The Fear of Success. And for me it was very real. It was Crippling even. And before understanding why…. It made no sense at all, that I’d have such a fear within. Especially that I am success orientated, I am driven to succeed, I have an internal Drive for success. I need success’s in my everyday life…. I need to be proud of myself

Well, in moments where I’d feel completely paralysed by any possible action:
publishing my ideas, expressing myself in public, or simply being in collective settings…I’d somehow freeze.

Now, take into account that I’d had sales training, I’d applied “The Game”, I had success with girls, and I was pretty outgoing in high-school. Let’s say I wasn’t much of an introvert back then, go figure…

Fear of success comes from childhood situations with strong causation from parents over the effect of our mind long term. In other words, your parents affect your outlook.

Parents can be critical, get angry if you don’t live up to their unpronounced expectations and could shout out of the blue. Maybe they’re not very patient with you, and could project their fears and experiences (what doesn’t work for them, surely won’t work for you – in their perception). Obviously, in their own way they are just trying to protect you the best they can, because those situations didn’t work out for them. So, it’s only naturel that they’d want to protect you with all they have from experiencing pain and hardship.

This produced in me the fear of people criticising me, the fear of exposing myself or my ideas, or I’d get angry with myself if I didn’t live up to what I set out to do. I’d put a lot of pressure on myself due to that. And in combination all these things would become a sort of paralysis On the road to aspire to one’s father,— As all kids do —.

I’d put the Hand-breaks on so to speak,  which would halt my course of action. This would leave me going round in circles.

In terms of imposter syndrome, I’ve found that what I am doing needs to be in sync with what I am thinking and aspiring to inside. If I am not aligned within and without, I will have the impression that what I am doing doesn’t correspond to what I am. My inner beliefs need to be translated into reality. That’s actualisation. It’s about my expectations. If you are engaged for a specific role, and you don’t have enough internal confirmation you’ll end up firstly doubting your actions, but also doubting everything you attempt.
Imposter syndrome — for me at least…—  vanished the second I started to strive towards my purpose and ambitions and taking matters into my own hands. Focussing on what you need to be doing stops imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome arises when you’re not on the right path and you’re simply pursuing money for money’s sake. 

2. How did you overcome those false beliefs?

Coaching and following my intuition.

Coaching helped me have an unemotional mirror which would send me clear feedback as to what I was projecting, and unbiased information in order to evolve on specific topics. 

Developing my intuition — on the other hand— came from trial and error, testing my intuition over and over. Making mistakes over and over, just to see if I was right.
Just to confirm the feeling I had in my gut beforehand. 

3. What affirmations did you do to overcome those beliefs?

I haven’t found that Affirmations are entirely useful for me.


THOUGH…

I believe we are more like Onions unravelling, and with proper information we chose roles which are more adapted to who we already are. It’s a little like Simon Sineks golden circle in “Start with Why”. We go from inside to outside, not outside to inside,
with our why. 

Our lives have already been created and the pains we experience are already in us,
we’ve already experienced them, we just have to trigger them and let go in order to heal. Once we heal those pains, those hurts don’t make sense anymore, so we don’t repeat them. We’re not controlled by them.

We become free once we become conscious of something. You’ll find that you’re more of a consumer than a leader if you spend all your time taking from outside rather than giving from inside. And for this reason, you’ll find that if you are consuming all information, coming from outside of your own convictions and confirmations, you’ll be living through others instead of on your own volition. 

For me, life is a series of confirmations, when situations arise, It’s simply a matter of confirmation and observation. For the work I’ve done prior to the situation.

4. How helpful were those affirmations? 

I have found that writing what I envision and then coming back to it from time to time as a reference to remind myself has helped me enormously in becoming who I am. 
But that’s more like a map, a plan of where you want to go or what you want to achieve.

5. When people break down their limiting beliefs, they become unstoppable, more creative. Therefore, how do you define creativity? How creative are you in your business or life?

I define creativity as an energy, for me its a state of flow where what I envision comes out in writing, in speaking, in music, in ideas and visions or what I can draw or paint. 

I would say I am very creative. There’s a difference between creative for productive. These are two different things. Creative is the capacity to come up with ideas, to be stimulated and curious and driven to take action upon them. It’s like an energy switch. Like turning on a light bulb. The energy behind the switch is something you cultivate and then allocate to whatever outlet,- just like electricity.- I practice energetic transmutation, which is harnessing my sexual energy and focussing it towards my creative pursuits, or physical exercise like running or cycling. Productive on the other hand is execution, this depends on your state of health and your discipline to apply your creativity through one outlet or another.

6. Why some people lack in creativity while other don’t.

I believe that it’s something you confirm for yourself and then you practice or cultivate. It’s a little like your name. For example You’re called Dave since you’re young, therefore, your name isn’t up for question. You have confirmed it for yourself, you’re confident that your name is Dave. Creativity is a little similar. You harness it while young and continu to believe in your creativity. You’ve ticked off that box. Now, I’ve had a long moment in life where I wasn’t being creative, though I wasn’t seeing it as creative. 

Everyone is creative, just differently. Some people make visual art like paintings or writing, sculptures for example. Others have an art which is more subtle,
like speaking or carrying themselves a specific way, or sports. Think about rappers for example. It’s an art and lifestyle. You have energy, let’s say you have 100 tokens of creativity per day. What do you invest those tokens in? You could either use your creative energy to produce art, and you’d be considered an artist or a painter for example. Or you could use that same energy and apply it to more left brained activities like maths, science or physics. And you’d be considered a physician, a mathematician, or a scientist… Your creativity would be considered the results of your equations and conclusions. I believe that it is part of how you define yourself while you’re young too, and what you fortify through repeated confirmations over the course of your childhood and adolescence. So, I believe people lack in creativity, because they’ve maybe not developed that side of themselves. Or simply they don’t lack in creativity at all, because the creativity we’re seeing isn’t expected as creativity. 

Writing a 12 page essay every week -for example- for a law student,-Law students aren’t considered artists, but they practice their art.- that’s creativity, they’re creating a 12 page essay, they’re formulating structure and being creative in their capacity to visualise and translate their thoughts on to paper. 

7. Creativity means thinking outside of the box! is it True? or else what is your opinion on creativity?

Creativity can be thinking inside of the box. Parameters vary. You can be creative within a certain structure, or limitation which gives you the possibility to create with X or Y outcome. Say for example I want to paint a painting, and the settings with which I’m aloud to create that painting are only black and gold paint.
That is the box I’m aloud to create in. That is creativity. 

It is also true for the contrary, say you’re not aloud to use the colour gold or the pigment black, but you’re aloud to use all the others, That is thinking outside of the box for example. Or simply using other types of materials in order to produce an outcome. Creativity when applied to business is problem solving at its finest. Having a Box is like having a plan. I think it was Eisenhower who said, 

“No battle was ever won according to plan, but no battle was ever won without one.” 

I believe this applies to creativity. We can either chose to paint within the box, or like rules we can disregard them… and simply create on inspiration. It depends on the means of expression.

8. How do you push yourself to think outside of the box?

Well, I’ve experienced being a rebel, and I’ve experienced being a rule follower. I believe pushing myself to think outside the box is Having a vision and wanting to achieve it, no matter what. I suppose, it’s caring to follow the imposed rules or structure, or not .. .

9. How often do you think outside of the box?

I’d say nearly everyday, though I don’t really have a box. I have visions. I actually enjoy parameters to think in. I believe I have achieved a pretty nice degree of freedom within my mind, which allows me to dream and drift. So, I don’t really have any limitations except for the rules on earth and society and of relations which are heavily important. If it comes to beliefs which I find limiting when I catch myself thinking them. I immediately ask myself if its true or if I can create a better belief for myself.

10. What motivates you to think outside of the box. 

What motivates me to think outside the box is the crowd. The IQ of the group, is the LOWEST IQ in the group. Let me say that again : The lowest IQ in the group is the IQ of  the group. What does that say for trends in collective society? Think tiktok… 


I hate being told what to do, but following my intuition and going against the current is something I aspire to. Simply because the decisions I make for myself, are better when I’m not influenced by the mob.Thinking outside of the box in the context of life
is simply a question of survival. There are structures which I find important, but following the rules everyone else has setup can prove to be unfruitful. Forging my own path and believing in myself is my way of thinking outside of the box. Simply because, in contrary, following what others tell me, that makes no sense to my life purpose.
Though, it is useful to sometimes use paths which have been blazed before you.
Over all, it’s a question of adapting to what is RIGHT for you.

11. When you think outside of the box, do you get the desired results you expected?

Life provides me with multiple special moments of subtle lucidity. But I know I can only get these moments, if I follow my intuition and my higher judgement. I haven’t yet been disappointed by life. Only by my own expectancies. Because I want it to happen now, instead of going through the process. And that comes down to the development of patience and not expecting, but doing your best in the present moment.

12. Do you get frustrated when your creative ideas don’t work? 

So far, I’ve found that I am an optimist. in this regard. I cannot remember any ideas which haven’t taught me something. I love to learn, and setbacks always have a silver lining. When I was younger, I’d get angry at myself for not living up to my standards and my expectations. But with time, I see that’s wasted energy– in that –its bad for one’s health. It’s just unproductive. So by finding a more harmonious  way of living and accepting myself, life has become fluid instead of forced. Therefore, frustration seeps away. 

13. What is the main reason people don’t try?

People don’t try because they don’t believe in themselves, or are in fear of the outcome. But better yet, like myself they may have a fear of success and the Trying of X or Y creates a sense of paralysis. People may not try for many reasons. Not believing in themselves, or their skills, or their capacity to overcome obstacles. Though, it can also be environmental; the people around us influence us much more than we know. Our entourage can make or break our belief and vision. It’s essential, if we want to achieve anything, to find a space to think and convince and confirm that what we are doing, we’re doing for the right reasons. Stepping away from people who don’t believe in your projects or ideas is essential, for your creativity as well as your wellbeing, and that of your ideas. 

14. What is the reason people give up after trying a few times?

Lack of pleasure in the doing of, lack of results in the achievement, or simply ‘lacking in faith’ that things will get better. I believe that if people give up after a few times, its mainly because they don’t find an accessible foothold in order to start climbing that mountain. They may get overwhelmed by the idea, the implications. It could also be because of the people around them. Criticising where they should be in support. Or voices inside their heads telling them that they are at risk. Telling them that they won’t make it. It’s a fear of death or the unknown. Which isn’t really valid, if we sit with it, it vanishes… Or there has been an instance of repeated pain maybe. 

And they have defined that situation, through the perception of a mindset which was biased with pain. It’s important not to write something off simply because we had a bad experience. But to observe if what we believed was written in stone a long time ago, is it still valid ? Or if a door hasn’t opened for us in the meantime, so we can explore it anew.

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How to Create the ultimate 5 – 10 people list of people you admire and aspire to be around.


“You know how they say
“the 5 people you spend your time with influences who you become” ?”


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You know how they say “the 5 people you spend your time with influences who you become” ?
Well, we don’t always have the possibility to chose the people we want to have around us. Right?

Wrong!

Until recently, the idea that my fate would be tied to my location, the people around me (whether I like them or not, or even if I aspire to them or not…) as well as their minds, was something which created a specific amount of anxiety for me. Not that I fear the people around me or my circumstances, nothing could be further from the truth. Although, I am particularly picky about the time I spend, the attention I give and the subjects I want to devote my time to…
Though, the idea that my life is influenced by those around me and I have no control over those around me can produce a specific amount of worry. I really don’t want to pick up on certain habits, certain mind process’s or ways that don’t suit who I am developing myself to be.

On the one hand, picking people for your life is essential. In the doing we underline the examples we wish to copy. Like monkey’s we pick up on speech patterns, body language and other such subtleties which have made an impression on us because we have either liked the person or disliked them.

Csikszent Mihaly explains in his book Flow that “attention is our most important tool in the task of improving the quality of experience.“. And deciding who and what we give our attention to influences our lives in many subtle and important ways!

If you live in a town, going out and meeting someone specific to spend time with might be a bit of a challenge. Although not impossible, the chances are slim that the exact right people you need will be on your path with the same distinct reasons as you.

In fact, you’d probably waste more time and energy out and about than you would proactively getting done everything on your Important x Urgent list.

Pam Thomas a high end mindset coach describes the concept of energy leakage in his article https://thriveglobal.com/stories/are-you-leaking-energy/

“Depending on how we spend our $100 of energy it’s possible to expend it in ways that create an energetic deficit. When we become energetically deficient we then have to borrow that energy from somewhere…maybe from our own cells (making us tired and susceptible to fear, self-doubt, etc.) or from someone else (making us needy or dependent).”. In understanding that we only have a finite amount of energy per day, it becomes very clear that the attention we have (i.e. 100$ of energy) is better invested in activities which give back to us, individuals who are going in the same direction, or in something with a good ROI. (Sport, Education, meditation, personal development, healthy food, clear uplifting thoughts etc…)

In a recent GQ article on neuroscience, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett explains that our minds don’t function the way we think they do. How do we think our minds work? And with such a a variety of answers, how do we go about our everyday lives? On first hand, I’d bet that most people believe that the mind is made for thinking, stocking information… and alternatively the others don’t really wonder what the brain does at all… Though Dr.Barrett’s findings changes our understanding of how it functions and ultimately leeds us to driving our vessels in a more responsable and even more careful way. The concept of allostasis was proposed by Sterling and Eyer in 1988 as a process of reestablishing stability in response to a challenge. Barrett explains that our mind is merely a regulator, a controller to sustain our survival. “Every action you take (or don’t take) is an economic choice. Everything you think, feel, and do is a consequence of your brain’s central mission to keep you alive and well by managing your body budget.

This being said, you’re probably thinking we’re incredibly off topic. We’re not.

Taking in to account that some people leave us depleted and tired after spending time with them.
Some even go as far as saying specific people are “Energy Vampires”, or “Narcissists“.
Though, lets stay on topic, I nearly lost you a few moments ago…
We’d rather leave conversations with people, feeling empowered, feeling confident and bold, ready to take on the world, right?

So how do we achieve that?

How do we find the people we aspire to?

How do we encounter those so-called people we admire?

And how on earth do we create our team of smart, high achieving, high energy people?

  1. It all starts with Self: We start by focussing on ourselves. Focussing on ourselves is the surest of ways to discover what we like, what we dislike, understand how we feel about this or that, as well as discover what we’re curious about. And this takes time, investment, and even going through the nitty gritty emotions. YIKES, I know you’re hating me right about now.. But it’s true. Going through our nitty gritty emotions by ourselves over and over again is how we grow and ultimately overcome them.
    Be patient with yourself!

  2. Procrastination: Having spent a vast amount of time on naval gazing, as you might put it. I’d like to invite you to reconsider your perception of Procrastination. It is there for a reason, so no pressure, embrace it and learn to invite it into your life.
    I generally procrastinate when my energy is saturated, I’m tired or low energy, or I need to breath from the depths I immerse myself with complicated topics.

  3. FocusMate: Okay, this might perhaps be the most important part of this article. The tool which enables you, with the right perception, to network, to grow, to exchange, and also to stay where you are and save your energy for better things. You know, the productivity and creativity in pt.2 and the
    well-being I’m about to express in pt.4? Yes Ladies and Gentlemen, I’m talking about FocusMate.

    Focusmate is an online Website/App which is meant to help you with your productivity and stay distraction free, focussed on your goals. Thats the primary reason we use Focusmate.
    The secondary reason is not what it is programmed to do, but what is most beneficial to everyone you encounter. Smile, be Warm, be Yourself, and share. You might end up meeting some really interesting, upbeat people you’d never get the opportunity to encounter otherwise.

  4. Energy, energy, energy... Yes, we’ve talked about that a lot haven’t I?
    You’ll need energy if you want to produce, work, focus on anything.
    This means you’ll need good healthy food. This also means that you’ll need to channel the energy you do have into meaningful productive practices which give you an ROI. I’ll talk about this in my next article.

  5. Structure. Yes, in order to use everything I’m talking about and something you can rely on, you’ll need a structure a ‘goto’ reference which is tangible and malleable. For this, I use the good old Whiteboard, a written structured list compartmentalised and the help of some tools
    I will add at the end of the article.


By using these 5 points, I get to meet high energy, ambitious people on a daily basis. I attract them because I am myself on that high level frequency ( The exercises, The food help to develop the energy for this). And I’m able to do it often because I’m following a structure I created for myself which allows me to follow it even if I have no clue of what I’m doing that day or even feeling a bit hazy…



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I thought I’d add some goodies:

Here are a Few Tools I like and use on a daily basis which get me to better focus, produce or simply keep track of what I’m doing or where I’m going.

Tools:

Create an Effective todo list: Learning how to create an effective todo list can prove invaluable. This article has been life changing in how it has effected my todo list creation. In that before I actually didn’t know how to create on effectively. I also added the notion of the Eisenhower Matrix in that I will only put what is urgent and important & important and not urgent.

https://www.notion.so/: So you need to go to the Office to have a physical layout of what needs to be done and what has been done? NO NEED! Notion is the perfect app for tracking and organising tasks, for business or simply for home. You can keep track of

https://habitshareapp.com/: You know how I talked about developing habits earlier on in the article, the concept that you can track your actions over the course of time and visualise your progress and
percentage of accuracy.

https://slack.com/: I’ve found that if you want to distribute a research, a message, and target a specific group of people, Slack is the best place to do so. Let me explain before you judge me as someone exploiting the indigenous tribes… While I was working on a startup in Fin-tech I needed to find a FullStack Developer capable of building the App. While I had no clue of how to grasp a developer, especially in the midst of a COVID lockdown, I got creative. Low and behold, I found 35 developers by targeting Digital Nomad slack communities in the space of 1 week! Need I say more?

https://discord.com/ People like to use this for gaming, because that is what it is originally used for.
Though, I use it for the TEAM to talk on in order to get work done without the hassle of planning call’s etc. Once everyone is subscribed, its fairly easy, everyone can have a reachable online office to do their work. And the messaging system is pretty simple.

https://www.focusmate.com/ Conceived as a studying platform, I figured out after a while that it could be a place to network and find likeminded people, according that you do it right and don’t overstep boundaries etc. People are generally open to discussing what they do, they’ll tell you about their goals at the start of every session and you can use it for training your elevator pitch for Work, Social, Partnerships, learning about new tools or insights, hek even relationships why don’t you. But really.. do it correctly, no one wants unwanted harassment in the privacy of their own home!

https://miro.com/: “The online collaborative whiteboard platform to
bring teams together, anytime, anywhere.” The Crema team explain the functioning of the app (in this video) pretty well and while is it still a collaborative online whiteboard, what you can do with it is nothing short of genius.

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8 essential questions to decipher if you’re in a Toxic relationship.

There is no bigger compliment than someone who choses you. None. It feels great,
it leaves us feeling light headed and happy. Life couldn’t be better. We are the one for someone!

On the other hand, rejection, is one of the most painful blows you can take without it being physical. You can know your value, you can see the silver lining, the benefits from the rejection…

But if you really care, there’s something painful, it becomes about the letting go of outdated ways.

Though, recently something I didn’t want to see popped up out of the blue. A voice message.
I wasn’t ready for it… I wasn’t prepared at all.

An old relationship which had all the signs of Toxicity, appeared as if some sort of magic trick. “POOF”! I hadn’t yet put it to bed correctly for some reason. I wasn’t able yet.

I’m an optimistic person, I have hopes for brighter days and have the understanding that everyone has flaws and difficulties to get over. Though, I am blindsided by people who prey on these traits. They immerse themselves through the cracks and leech on to my need to see the brightside in them. It gives them a breath of fresh air, for once they’re not defined as the “BAD one’s”. They get to experience the sunshine of my none-judgemental gaze…

Looking back though, I decided to enumerate all the traits of this person, all the things I found weird, or simply a little off.. and little did I know my list quickly became a page… This is when I started to worry. Was I putting this person on a pedestal? Was I enabling their sick behaviour?
Worse yet, was I feeding their deluded sense of grandiosity?

I was… Sadly. Though, let’s get back to my reaction of Not being ready.
I listen in, wondering who left the message and I hear her voice.
My body, in instant recognition recoils and tenses up…

Like an earthquake, my walls started to shake. Like every time an earthquake Quakes,
I stopped everything and hid under the table, emotionally.

In situations where people don’t tend to behave in a loving respectful way occur, I often go into a sort of paralysis. It becomes an energy leak, a pain point. A poison of my well-being. I become intently focussed on them like a spaceship sucked into a blackhole. No matter how much throttle I add, I have no traction to get away.

My heart starts beating faster, my mind can’t concentrate well at all, and as if I was poisoned all I can do is lie down and breath with an elevated heart-rate, while I focus on my screen.

Last seen 10 minutes ago… – Online. – Last seen 5 minutes ago…” Ad infinitum.

Someone who feigns interest and then lingers you on until you figure out they’re not interested is a seriously toxic trait. Not only it will give you the illusion that you’re not good enough, you’ll invest countless stretches of time staring into the abyss waiting for something to happen. Your brain, half melting while your lungs are heavy and the air is thick… Or so it seems..

You feel lost and can’t put your finger on what it is, but you know deep down they’re doing wrong somehow. It’s a visceral gut feeling, your intuition tells you something is off. In all circumstances they’re speaking nice words to your face and putting on a nice little show, but their actions tell another story. They won’t tell you about their actions unless you confront them with specific questions. Even then you need to build a baseline to figure out if they’re lying or not…

What a waste of energy!

Though, the best way to get over this is to decide to bring the conversation to an end,
block the contact, delete the number and move onwards to better things, NOW.

The best solution I’ve found is the mental step of burning the bridge.

1) Define if that person values you and makes you feel valued.
2) Define if you’re the only one who’s making the effort or if its mutual.
3) Are you a priority in their life? Do they treat you like a priority? Or not?
4) What is your core feeling? That gut feeling? Is your nervous system tightening up?
5) Are your thoughts focussed on justifying, describing, proving, arguing?
6) What mental space do you allow them to have? Are they living in your head?
7) Do they make you feel Free? Or do they leave you feeling depressed?
8) Do they elevate you? Or do they reduce you?

Immerse yourself in a project, a constructive project which demands that you use your mind to focus on solving something.

Go for a walk, with a podcast or music. Or a run, or cycle, or anything to get you out of your “RUT”.

It’s not about the activity its self, because you might find yourself thinking about the person.
But it about creating experiences, and compounding them up. You’ll find that if you experience a few situations where you’re forced to get out of your head, you’ll quickly forget.

It’s as if, until we compound the experiences, we’re allowing ourselves to mope and sit around feeling sorry for ourselves, victims of some rotten behaviour. Though, we’re losing precious time, precious energy and life. While they’re out there doing god knows what after having used you as a stepping stone to get to where they wanted to go. – Ok ok, I know this might not help, bear with me.

The point is this, we need to forget all about them. When we get a thought about what could be,
what should be, or what might happen if. We’re envisioning THEIR potential through our minds.
We’re living in a bubble of imagination. Nothing bad will happen by Forgetting them.
And you need to do this until you’re confident in your own shoes again. It’s about building yourself up. If you’re focussed on them, you’re not giving yourself your own sunlight to grow, you’re growing that idea which then eats away at you.


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Social ponderations

We all know that how we see others is related to how we see ourselves internally. What if,
others are simply materialisations of our most current inner beliefs, or our distant inner beliefs? Reflections of our current emotional evolution mirrored back to us through distortions of our internal values, like the carnival mirrors. They’re sending us back our intentions x feelings x beliefs x magnified by our confidence or lack thereof. All this through the prism of how clear they are in conscience and mind.

Maybe the way the universe works around us is like magnet frequencies, attracting and repelling energies which are equal or opposite in value? Whether we are open minded towards the futur potential someone presents to us, or a past which we now see clearly in someone else represents a sense of flow. While being closed minded to past and futur meaning we’re in a state of ebb, fear, unable to let go or unable to accept thus rejecting the concept we perceive.

Maybe people, are simply like firmware updates, testing what works better for us and what works less well. Reflecting a mirror of an energy we no longer wish to portray or carry with us as part of our tapestry.

When we encounter an ex for example, oftentimes all we can perceive about them is the emotion they left us with, or the vision and emotion we’ve had to create and accept in order to move forward since we last exchanged with them, or how we feel about them mixed in with a degree of self-esteem.

When we meet someone new, generally we don’t get the time to really delve into what they’re interested, vulnerable and resilient about, it’s all about first appearances. So when meeting someone new, first impressions are important because they give way to then having access to meeting that person again or being very clear about not wanting to at all. Though, first appearances define essentially how we see someone, they’re mainly based upon the social superficial front one has created and how practiced they are at showing you what they want you to see and know about them. This can become stagnant and lack depth. Though, very important, energy isn’t seen but felt. Its how we make the other feel in our presence, the intertwining of essence over each other’s reality.

Often times, people with beautiful fronts have very little depth to share as they don’t have the same search for meaning, as they believe it lies in their looks and how others perceive them. Seemingly or for some reason, as the external front has already been covered, they don’t have to search for internal meaning as much as someone who’s forced to rely on inner confidence, charm, experience etc. The latter takes a longer time to develop but ultimately cannot be taken away once achieved.
Rather than being vulnerable and having transparency as to what difficulties they are going through or have overcome they simply can’t relate to anything which will seemingly weaken them in the eyes of their peers. The power game is simply too strong.

Incorrect Power games are achieved by those who don’t or can’t achieve inner power over themselves. This form of Power is thus exerted over those who have less boundaries or less need to seek power over others as they don’t derive their sense of esteem from others but from their own accomplishments or in minute details of everyday life. Power games generally arise for those who haven’t yet taken the time to develop their core center. Instead of the grounding benefits, they experience a gaping hole which disables the individual from staying still and appreciating the details of their life.
Gratitude is thus a state less accessible as they depend on external circumstances instead of envisioning and then materialising. They function as leeches to external conditions, instead of organic growing beings. They cannot take from within because that would mean all they have to offer is the impossible feeling which they have to live with. Thus promoting either taking and using others, or dispensing a form of negativity. Power comes from feeling powerless.

Success, I have found is really being able to be at peace with myself, contemplating my surroundings, feeling grateful for what I have, having the opportunity to share my findings,
the process of ideas. Success is really something which I don’t show but a feeling. Success is the empowerment and magnification of a graceful overcoming, the experience of being exactly where I need to be to do and achieve what I enjoy. The capacity to evolve and progress towards higher levels within the practices of my focus. Seeing my skills flourish and grow, while enjoying every second of the process from start to finish. Success then becomes a secret garden, impossible to replicate for others, which the fruits beared aren’t produced, nor forced in a mechanical fashion. The process is pure creation. A unique mind, expressing it’s difference through the artistic abilities, supported by infinite time and space, needs met and wants fulfilled, empowered by curiosity, magnified by intelligence, undisturbed by an external noise produced from a world of lost souls craving always more of something they aren’t producing. The freedom to reply to no one but our highest potential. The secret, then becomes teaching others how to achieve their success and empowering them to stand on their own two feet so they don’t depend on us. The paradox of money making…

The paradox of money & Freedom making is achieving our own success while maintaining our own freedom. The balance is a fragile point between depending on others for our material freedom, and being invisible and free to act and be as changeable as we wish without any accountability. The two opposites, freedom and creativity. Creativity cannot be produced under pressure or with expectancies, while freedom can be achieved in our mind while sitting in a cave. Creativity is then something that should ensue as a process to enjoy. Then productised through a unique brand which clearly empowers one to take one’s time to create and report only to one’s need to produce at their own rythme. Otherwise, the creative becomes a factory worker producing in a Fordism-like manner. The complexity of human based productivity, especially in relation to creativity and inspiration based activities cannot be forced. This is where discipline and lack there-of clash. The disciplined worker will get up and squeeze out anything going on at the detriment of brilliant ideas. While the inspiration based creative will function depending on the energy at their disposal. We’re not machines. Especially taking into account Allostasis (the budgeting of our energy), and creating respectfully to what we’re able to save and cultivate. The idea that we’re to sit and force out everything and anything we can think of in a rigid manner isn’t human.
The strict need to sit in an army like manner and produce without any freewill or variabilities to what we experience or feel is lacking in human vulnerability and without vulnerability there is no courage. He who forces his productions doesn’t allow himself to have the courage needed to experience the ups and downs of creativity. “An artist is a person who performs any of the creative arts. This can range from painting to music. An artisan, on the other hand, is a skilled worker who makes things by hand.” Steven Pressfield for example is an artisan inducing artists to behave like artisans.

Regarding how we see society. It is often very clear that those who look at society and describe their hatred for it are actually projecting the hatred of their own flaws upon it. We only see the world as we are. For this reason alone, someone who see’s the world a specific way is only describing his own state through his detailed descriptions of it. Someone who points a finger at the corrupt are projecting what they would be if they were in someone else’s shoes with the same level of “corruption”. A scientist may see the world through the results he produces, but to be a negative scientist disregarding his emotions, his data will be flawed by his capacity to produce. Take the Emoto experiment for example, simply thinking negative thoughts on one glass of water opposes thinking positive thoughts on another glass. The results of this test are crystal clear. Our intentions projected on external matter distort the results. This is why even if factual responses like 2+2=4 for everyone apply, the “Factual” findings which apply to the world around are firstly far too many to take into account, but secondly matter around us changes with our outlook upon it. If that isn’t enough, we cannot see the good aspect in someone unless we appreciate it within ourselves on some level. We simply project the inner empires of our inner worlds. We’re conscious of the creation, or they’ve been forced upon us by mental heritage, either way, they’re within and we see the world in relation to our “IN-Formation”. The formation we’ve created within.

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Influence upon action



When you watch youtube videos about some of the most successful people in the world, you are essentially picking up tidbits of information. The information you are picking up is mainly confirming your actions or creating a disengage from them. 

You’re picking up on information confirmations, however subtle they are, as you advance. While you’re comparing with high achieving people you’re ticking what your doing right and what isn’t working, and in minute increments validating your capacity for action. 

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Waiting and Time.

Patience is simply learning to love your own presence enough to take care of your time. 

If you take care of your time, you can be as patient as you want. You won’t have the impression your time is fleeting, as you’ll be in possession of it.

If your time is diverted towards an outcome of your choosing, your life becomes wealthy and full of life and joy. 

If your time is allocated and directed by others, you simply forget the idea that anything is yours. 
Because your effort, attention, and time are spent living up to external references instead of coming from within.

Control your time, and your life becomes yours. When your time is controlled by others, your body, attention, finances, energy and patience depend on someone else’s decision. Your patience thus becomes what you are willing to endure while not on your path. Patience while on your path, is simply a matter of time allocation into your actions and focus.

When Time is given to others, it is wasted. Where we could be using our time for creative, productive, inspiring, pursuits which would benefit others far more than your time. People benefit more from your actions than they do by you not doing anything.


Playing with the oppositions of experience, doing things we don’t want to do, makes the times where we do what we want to do more valuable. Giving our time away, is the equivalent of wasting it on trivial pursuits which don’t empower us. 

We see how willing and patient we are with ourselves to give away such a precious commodity,
when we allocate our time and attention to other people. While its noble to focus on others,
being fulfilled is a far better example than not and the way to achieve this is by being productive and focussing our intent on a constructive building process (tangible or intangible).

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My take on brain food?

Food, is fuel. 

Though, we also have brain food, such as inspiring information, knowledge and facts. 

The more natural, unstressed, qualitative types of food we provide our bodies, the better the outcome. 

We imbibe energy, which is converted into thoughts. Our thoughts combine and like a painting, transposed upon a canvas, our thoughts transcribe the subtle, the strong, the intensive and powerful frequencies which are expressed through our inspirations.

The better the quality food, the better our bodies will react and conduct themselves.

The better the quality of literature we imbibe, the more inspiring the thoughts. To discover what quality means for us, is to understand what and how we aspire to produce. 

When we produce thoughts, if we consume anything relating to noise, fear,
violence, disharmonious, uninspiring, dull. We essentially put processed foods inside our mind. Our digestive systems digest the dull, processed food and our physical quality is also disqualified.
It is important to chose quality, always. Not letting money or popularity chose the quality of your life. But letting the quality of your life be more important than it.

When we chose quality, I have often had the unfortuitous disadvantage to meet people who’d favour money above quality, in many domains. From an observational point, their lives also transpire those choices, so do the fruits bared by their minds. 

It is of utmost importance to chose people of quality who inspire us and pull us
upwards and inspire us to do better. I’m not talking about snobbish tendencies to
discriminate financially how someone looks, but to simply observe where peoples minds are, and what their habits are, as well as how developed their minds are and the words they chose to share.

We’re talking about people who live near us and have the same advantages as us, yet cannot see how wealthy they are with what they have. These people, like leaches, will suck the energy from your inspiration and leave you feeling empty and dull as they are questioning the quality of your choices, the quality of your mind, and the value of who you are. They bring you down to their level and make you doubt everything about yourself. 

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How do I stay consistent in changeability?



What is consistent is my soul, which I have developed my relationship with.

My soul has become more and more distinguished for me as I have evolved through pain over the years. As if cracking the eggshells away from the white egginess of our souls, we discover an intangible yolk. The white, is more like our mind which is capable ofexpanding as far as its content. 

The Yolk is our soul, which fragile, remains under the surface of a thin membrane, yellow like the sun, with a satin like texture which, like the moëlle of spine is cultivated over time in such detail and accumulation. Like Shilajit it is essential, thousands of years of crushing elements together, making the most essential edible content which is so compact, yet so dense, yet ever so rich. We stay consistent when we are guided by our soul purpose. 

Our soul purpose transpires as:
 
Passion (physical energy for what we are doing. engaged.)
+ Progress (for what we are doing)
+ Inspiration (the soul must be enlightened by the
activity. We must be all absorbed!)

= Soul purpose.

The soul purpose, is our personal interest, (what we have most worked on in our life), combined with what we share with the world to help and uplift. 

It’s a combination of what turns us on, keeps us focussed, what we would do if we didn’t get payed for it, what we’d continue doing anyway and what we’d do even if we hit the jackpot. 

Our soul purpose, is the middle ground between our curiosity, inspiration, expression and our capacity for refinement (making it palatable for others to comprehend – choosing a way to express/share with others).

If we are following our soul purpose, we remain consistent while the world around us changes. It is the only thing which cannot change, because it is our CORE. It is the work of our lifetime. The accumulation of all the hardships and goals we strive for.

Our circumstances will change, our finances will change, our looks will change,
our voice will change, as well as our interests, our capacity will change as will our
relations. But as long as we remain loyal and consistent to our soul purpose, our life
remains somewhat consistent. And everything has a purpose and sense and,
in the words of Napoleon Bonaparte.

“A superior power pushes me towards a goal of which I know nothing; as long as it has not been attained I am invulnerable, unshakeable; as soon as I am no longer necessary for it, a single step(fly) will suffice to topple me.”

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Perspective on consumer mindset and independant leaders.


How much of a consumer are you? Or put another way, what do you desire most? Freedom or other people’s acceptance?

Funnily enough, desiring freedom will give you other people’s acceptance and being free. While chosing other people’s acceptance will enslave you and they most likely won’t care anyway… So double loss.

Most people are governed by their desires, and because their desires control their actions, they become instant gratification zombies.

It starts with the dopamin hits from social media, overuse of sex and lack of control over the primary creative energy. They engage in drinking, eating, smoking, drugs… anything which will numb the pain they feel. They’re enslaved, and they’re not searching for solutions, they just take life as if its a given and they don’t have any effect over its quality. Arguably, these are the same rigid minded chumps who believe solely in working like a slave for 20 years to get a diploma and who then piss on your dreams with the self-hatred they’ve accumulated by following what they’re told to do like lapdogs. They end up resent-full. Just being in their proximity is toxic for your vibe.

They go along with these debilitating practices which destroys their health, their energy, their clarity of mind, they become sex workers (The world is rampant with sex workers, its damn nasty…), they become alcoholics, they become dependant on external substances in order to numb their internal conflict.

The poor thing is, they haven’t developped their Emotional intelligence. This in its self portrays them as following sheep.

While times are unclear, a leader will know to follow their intuition even if that means seemingly going in the wrong direction in other peoples perception. They’ll engage in the fog of war without knowledge of what is ahead. They engage, because they know that doing nothing will lead to defeat. They take the course of action a coward would back away from, because they have courage and internal belief in themselves.

I say this, because I don’t know an inspiring leader who isn’t qualified in fully accepting who they are deep down. On the contrary, anyone who doesn’t know who they are become the products of the social trends happening around them, they conform, they become consumers in order to become of the latest trend. Hoping that if they follow the trend, people will believe they are avantGard and pioneers, because “if they wear and have products created by pioneers” they will be associated as if they are them selves.

This couldn’t be any further from the truth. They’re just pain based entities who can’t accept themselves, let alone sit alone with themselves long enough to reap the benefits of thinking and feeling for themselves.

Are you a conformist, or are you a leader? Do you believe in yourself enough to know you’re creating the world around you? Or are you simply a numbed product of society, spending to conform and be accepted by others, be loved by others? (Hint: You don’t even love yourself, why do you think others should love you?)

What affirmations did you use to overcome Imposter Syndrome, Limiting beliefs, and Achieve Success?

These questions are the result of a podcast I was invited on a few weeks ago.
I decided to share my answers in this PODCAST SHOW-NOTES Exclusive.

1. Did you have any limiting beliefs or imposter syndrome? 

Growing up, I’ve had many limiting beliefs, and I’ve experienced imposter syndrome. Though, I have found that imposter syndrome came from me not being where I needed to be. You know, there’s an article by Gary V which talks about how entrepreneurs ARE BORN, NOT MADE. Which explains the 5 main points of what entrepreneurs have within which are natural to them. Or at least they’ve been exposed to it enough to bring out what is inside of them.

So, These 5 traits are:

  • Salesmanship. 
  • A chip on your shoulder. 
  • An independent spirit
  • Understanding consumers and consumer attention
  • and Patience


When reading this article, I understood, I had all of these traits, and my cv underlined it, just as Steve Jobs said that it’s by looking backwards that we connect the dots. 

That’s when we see what our purpose is!

 1 Salesmanship 

I went to sales school and it confirmed what I was, though I wasn’t any good with the academic aspect of it. I had a deep rebellious streak, which most entrepreneurs also have. It’s a childhood thing. Childhood experiences of a Father being away on business or starting business, but also experiencing the effects of their stressed characters while being behind scenes, which has effect on the way they treat those around them…

My father also has the ability to talk his way into and out of paper bags. Which I’d later confirm for myself on the field while working for a Jeweller selling Swarovski and Pandora to clients: I had the same gift of the gab too.

2 Having A chip on your shoulder.  

I cannot remember a time where I didn’t have a chip on my shoulder. I’ve Aways had a deep need to prove I’m better. NOW This is early, I remember when I was 5 at the playground, asking my mum if I was the best. I was born into a certain amount of luxury, though only to the outside eye. On the inside, at home, we’d have to experience pain and cold, and struggle. So, I grew up believing that we had money, when we didn’t. Which was a real blow to the ego when I found out:  I was in fact poor. My mother fought tooth and nail for us to have what we wanted, despite having close to nothing herself. Which also gave me a deep need to succeed in life. I owe it to her, not like a debt, but like a mission. It’s like being part of the aristocracy
with the people around you, yet living like paupers behind closed doors! I was also exposed to wealthy families along the way.my best friends would always have some amount of wealth or at least some sort of power in the world.So, I’d always have a sense of competitivity with my friends which wasn’t so healthy, despite having a good time….

Also, Simply the need to prove it to everyone, to stick it to those who didn’t believe in me, or who made me feel as if I wasn’t good enough from early adolescence onward. Its all an expression of childhood anyway.  But it all mounts up… 

3rd: An independent spirit.  

As for independence, I’ve always had the need for freedom. I’ve always and I mean Always needed to be an independent thinker. My mother told me I was running at the age of 11 months, and climbing up dangerous walls. 

She thought I’d be some sort of mountain guide in extreme situations. Because of all the situations I’d been in physically over the course of my life. Basically, it was just me searching for limitations, searching to push further, searching to do better. 

Later on in life there was only so much I could discover in the material tangible world, so I went inside. Luckily I am an introvert, so that helped. I’d search for the masculin structure a father could provide, or at least it was absent and so I’d push as far as I could go as a result to find limits. Distance, situations, anything… My father wasn’t home much, he was mainly at work. I’d always push everything to the extreme.
No father, means no identity. For a guy at least. Push that further and you’ll find that it’s a lack of reference. And you build your identity on your own. 

4 Understanding consumers and consumer attention

Understanding consumers is something I’ve done since the age of at least 16 while going into sales courses for example. Though understanding consumers on a deeper level, as well as their attention, I’ve always been pretty deep into psychology, as well as understanding others. This mainly started after I read The Game by Neil Strauss when I was 17. 

I started to dig into mentalism and, Ericksonian hypnosis and other techniques and methods. All in the name of love and understanding how to get a girlfriend. Of course, with age you understand that you don’t need to force interactions, they occur naturally…. Though, mainly understanding customers and their desires.This started to occur when I worked at victoria Magdalena for a year while selling jewellery, and then on a much deeper level when I worked at Apple in customer service. These two jobs alone gave me more than enough understanding of how customers functioned and why they’d buy such and such products. Of course there would be influence to take into account too.

 5 Patience 

And of course, patience. This is something life puts you up to. It puts you in many situations where you’re continually tested. Of course, seeing the grander scheme of things, having patience is how you survive. Because if you make a false move, act too soon, or like in sales rush to see the customeror force them to buy. You’ll end up blowing any possible deals for them or for yourself.  


In retrospect, I’ve done a lot of work on myself to undo limiting beliefs. Why on earth would I’d feel paralysed, when time came to take action. I did have one massive limitation to get over despite having imposter syndrome. The Fear of Success. And for me it was very real. It was Crippling even. And before understanding why…. It made no sense at all, that I’d have such a fear within. Especially that I am success orientated, I am driven to succeed, I have an internal Drive for success. I need success’s in my everyday life…. I need to be proud of myself

Well, in moments where I’d feel completely paralysed by any possible action:
publishing my ideas, expressing myself in public, or simply being in collective settings…I’d somehow freeze.

Now, take into account that I’d had sales training, I’d applied “The Game”, I had success with girls, and I was pretty outgoing in high-school. Let’s say I wasn’t much of an introvert back then, go figure…

My fear of success came from childhood situations with my father. He would criticise me harshly, get angry if I didn’t live up to his unpronounced expectations (SHOUTING OUT OF THE BLUE) and didn’t seem to be very patient with me, and would project his fears and experiences (what didn’t work for him, would surely not work for me – in his perception) .
This produced in me the fear of people criticising me, the fear of exposing myself or my ideas, or I’d get angry with myself if I didn’t live up to what I set out to do. I’d put a lot of pressure on myself due to that. And in combination all these things would become a sort of paralysis On the road to aspire to one’s father,— As all kids do —.
I’d put the Hand-breaks on so to speak,  which would halt my course of action. This would leave me going round in circles.

In terms of imposter syndrome, I’ve found that what I am doing needs to be in sync with what I am thinking and aspiring to inside. If I am not aligned within and without, I will have the impression that what I am doing doesn’t correspond to what I am. My inner beliefs need to be translated into reality. That’s actualisation. It’s about my expectations. If you are engaged for a specific role, and you don’t have enough internal confirmation you’ll end up firstly doubting your actions, but also doubting everything you attempt.
Imposter syndrome — for me at least…—  vanished the second I started to strive towards my purpose and ambitions and taking matters into my own hands. Focussing on what you need to be doing stops imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome arises when you’re not on the right path and you’re simply pursuing money for money’s sake. 

2. How did you overcome those false beliefs?

Coaching and following my intuition.

Coaching helped me have an unemotional mirror which would send me clear feedback as to what I was projecting, and unbiased information in order to evolve on specific topics. 

Developing my intuition — on the other hand— came from trial and error, testing my intuition over and over. Making mistakes over and over, just to see if I was right.
Just to confirm the feeling I had in my gut beforehand. 

3. What affirmations did you do to overcome those beliefs?

I haven’t found that Affirmations are entirely useful for me.


THOUGH…

I believe we are more like Onions unravelling, and with proper information we chose roles which are more adapted to who we already are. It’s a little like Simon Sineks golden circle in “Start with Why”. We go from inside to outside, not outside to inside,
with our why. 

Our lives have already been created and the pains we experience are already in us,
we’ve already experienced them, we just have to trigger them and let go in order to heal. Once we heal those pains, those hurts don’t make sense anymore, so we don’t repeat them. We’re not controlled by them.

We become free once we become conscious of something. You’ll find that you’re more of a consumer than a leader if you spend all your time taking from outside rather than giving from inside. And for this reason, you’ll find that if you are consuming all information, coming from outside of your own convictions and confirmations, you’ll be living through others instead of on your own volition. 

For me, life is a series of confirmations, when situations arise, It’s simply a matter of confirmation and observation. For the work I’ve done prior to the situation.

4. How helpful were those affirmations? 

I have found that writing what I envision and then coming back to it from time to time as a reference to remind myself has helped me enormously in becoming who I am. 
But that’s more like a map, a plan of where you want to go or what you want to achieve.

5. When people break down their limiting beliefs, they become unstoppable, more creative. Therefore, how do you define creativity? How creative are you in your business or life?

I define creativity as an energy, for me its a state of flow where what I envision comes out in writing, in speaking, in music, in ideas and visions or what I can draw or paint. 

I would say I am very creative. There’s a difference between creative for productive. These are two different things. Creative is the capacity to come up with ideas, to be stimulated and curious and driven to take action upon them. It’s like an energy switch. Like turning on a light bulb. The energy behind the switch is something you cultivate and then allocate to whatever outlet,- just like electricity.- I practice energetic transmutation, which is harnessing my sexual energy and focussing it towards my creative pursuits, or physical exercise like running or cycling. Productive on the other hand is execution, this depends on your state of health and your discipline to apply your creativity through one outlet or another.

6. Why some people lack in creativity while other don’t.

I believe that it’s something you confirm for yourself and then you practice or cultivate. It’s a little like your name. For example You’re called Dave since you’re young, therefore, your name isn’t up for question. You have confirmed it for yourself, you’re confident that your name is Dave. Creativity is a little similar. You harness it while young and continu to believe in your creativity. You’ve ticked off that box. Now, I’ve had a long moment in life where I wasn’t being creative, Though I wasn’t seeing it as creative. Everyone is creative, just differently. Some people make visual art like paintings or writing, sculptures for example. Others have an art which is more subtle,
like speaking or carrying themselves a specific way, or sports. Think about rappers for example. It’s an art and lifestyle. You have energy, let’s say you have 100 tokens of creativity per day. What do you invest those tokens in? You could either use your creative energy to produce art, and you’d be considered an artist or a painter for example. Or you could use that same energy and apply it to more left brained activities like maths, science or physics. And you’d be considered a physician, a mathematician, or a scientist… Your creativity would be considered the results of your equations and conclusions. I believe that it is part of how you define yourself while you’re young too, and what you fortify through repeated confirmations over the course of your childhood and adolescence. So, I believe people lack in creativity, because they’ve maybe not developed that side of themselves. Or simply they don’t lack in creativity at all, because the creativity we’re seeing isn’t expected as creativity. 

Writing a 12 page essay every week -for example- for a law student,-Law students aren’t considered artists, but they practice their art.- that’s creativity, they’re creating a 12 page essay, they’re formulating structure and being creative in their capacity to visualise and translate their thoughts on to paper. 

7. Creativity means thinking outside of the box! is it True? or else what is your opinion on creativity?

Creativity can be thinking inside of the box. Parameters vary. You can be creative within a certain structure, or limitation which gives you the possibility to create with X or Y outcome. Say for example I want to paint a painting, and the settings with which I’m aloud to create that painting are only black and gold paint.
That is the box I’m aloud to create in. That is creativity. It is also true for the contrary, say you’re not aloud to use the colour gold or the pigment black, but you’re aloud to use all the others, That is thinking outside of the box for example. Or simply using other types of materials in order to produce an outcome. Creativity when applied to business is problem solving at its finest. Having a Box is like having a plan. I think it was Eisenhower who said, 

“No battle was ever won according to plan, but no battle was ever won without one.” 

I believe this applies to creativity. We can either chose to paint within the box, or like rules we can disregard them… and simply create on inspiration. It depends on the means of expression.

8. How do you push yourself to think outside of the box?

Well, I’ve experienced being a rebel, and I’ve experienced being a rule follower. I believe pushing myself to think outside the box is Having a vision and wanting to achieve it, no matter what. I suppose, it’s caring to follow the imposed rules or structure, or not .. .

9. How often do you think outside of the box?

I’d say nearly everyday, though I don’t really have a box. I have visions. I actually enjoy parameters to think in. I believe I have achieved a pretty nice degree of freedom within my mind, which allows me to dream and drift. So, I don’t really have any limitations except for the rules on earth and society and of relations which are heavily important. If it comes to beliefs which I find limiting when I catch myself thinking them. I immediately ask myself if its true or if I can create a better belief for myself.

10. What motivates you to think outside of the box. 

What motivates me to think outside the box is the crowd. The IQ of the group, is the LOWEST IQ in the group. Let me say that again : The lowest IQ in the group is the IQ of  the group. What does that say for trends in collective society? Think tiktok… 


I hate being told what to do, but following my intuition and going against the current is something I aspire to. Simply because the decisions I make for myself, are better when I’m not influenced by the mob.Thinking outside of the box in the context of life
is simply a question of survival. There are structures which I find important, but following the rules everyone else has setup can prove to be unfruitful. Forging my own path and believing in myself is my way of thinking outside of the box. Simply because, in contrary, following what others tell me, that makes no sense to my life purpose.
Though, it is useful to sometimes use paths which have been blazed before you.
Over all, it’s a question of adapting to what is RIGHT for you.

11. When you think outside of the box, do you get the desired results you expected?

Life provides me with multiple special moments of subtle lucidity. But I know I can only get these moments, if I follow my intuition and my higher judgement. I haven’t yet been disappointed by life. Only by my own expectancies. Because I want it to happen now, instead of going through the process. And that comes down to the development of patience and not expecting, but doing your best in the present moment.

12. Do you get frustrated when your creative ideas don’t work? 

So far, I’ve found that I am an optimist. in this regard. I cannot remember any ideas which haven’t taught me something. I love to learn, and setbacks always have a silver lining. When I was younger, I’d get angry at myself for not living up to my standards and my expectations. But with time, I see that’s wasted energy– in that –its bad for one’s health. It’s just unproductive. So by finding a more harmonious  way of living and accepting myself, life has become fluid instead of forced. Therefore, frustration seeps away. 

13. What is the main reason people don’t try?

People don’t try because they don’t believe in themselves, or are in fear of the outcome. But better yet, like myself they may have a fear of success and the Trying of X or Y creates a sense of paralysis. People may not try for many reasons. Not believing in themselves, or their skills, or their capacity to overcome obstacles. Though, it can also be environmental; the people around us influence us much more than we know. Our entourage can make or break our belief and vision. It’s essential, if we want to achieve anything, to find a space to think and convince and confirm that what we are doing, we’re doing for the right reasons. Stepping away from people who don’t believe in your projects or ideas is essential, for your creativity as well as your wellbeing, and that of your ideas. 

14. What is the reason people give up after trying a few times?

Lack of pleasure in the doing of, lack of results in the achievement, or simply ‘lacking in faith’ that things will get better. I believe that if people give up after a few times, its mainly because they don’t find an accessible foothold in order to start climbing that mountain. They may get overwhelmed by the idea, the implications. It could also be because of the people around them. Criticising where they should be in support. Or voices inside their heads telling them that they are at risk. Telling them that they won’t make it. It’s a fear of death or the unknown. Which isn’t really valid, if we sit with it, it vanishes… Or there has been an instance of repeated pain maybe. 

And they have defined that situation, through the perception of a mindset which was biased with pain. It’s important not to write something off simply because we had a bad experience. But to observe if what we believed was written in stone a long time ago, is it still valid ? Or if a door hasn’t opened for us in the meantime, so we can explore it anew.

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