Finding a peaceful balance between what’s going on in the world and where you are inside of yourself



It is important to be in harmony between how we feel inside and how we are outside.
This isnโ€™t always possible, if so we must learn to love ourselves, and accept it from the inside out.ย 

Hence why we strive for perfection. People will qualify us through how they see us first and foremost. Which is distressing for anyone who isn’t picture perfect in today’s society. How can we possibly keep up with the constant update of knowledge?trends, tips, articles, news outlets, podcast shows and live to be as great as everyone else? How can we like anything we are, when we consistently compare ourselves with “everyone else”?

We simply cannot keep up. We can’t, even if we wanted to keep up with everything that is happening on a daily basis all around the world. There are way too many people and events occurring.

It is then wise to go in the opposite direction and disregard everything and everyone.
It becomes essential, in order to focus on the one most important ingredient in the recipe known to date, to neglect anything and everything but ourselves, how we’re feeling, what we’re thinking, how we function etc. I’d say the COVID is a blessing, but I already lived like this pre-covid. It’s very much so a blessing for everyone else, whether they can see it or not.

The contrast of one’s objective and virtual presence, is an extension of self. It’s very easy for everyone to get caught up in the illusion that How we are seen by others, How we perform in video games, or media covered games, or any other sort of exposure through a screen. It simply isn’t Who we are, nor is it What we are. It is but an intention, a role we play well, a placement of our time and effort in projecting something for others to relate to.

Take it all away, and all you have is yourself. Have you ever tried sitting in the dark with one candle, with no screen, no book, no kindle or music or anything. Just you and the candle? I bet you’ll get a little anxious at a certain point. Truth is, at first it might seem uncomfortable, maybe even anxiety producing… But by staying with it, we get to experience ourselves, what we’re feeling, why we’re feeling that way and so on… A vital road, in taking time out for us.

In todays world we need to perfect our camera presence in order to feel confident with others.ย If we are critical of ourselves, we cannot feel confident entirely with others.ย Weโ€™ll often have illogicisms, and discrepancies we need to overcome.ย Looking at myself through the camera, I see my critical self come out and poke holes at what I am doing as well as how I am corresponding with myself, the camera, and others around.ย When speaking on camera, I discovered that I was highly self critical.ย The process of overcoming the camera’s perception, isn’t the camera, but how I’m seeing myself through the lens.ย 

Have something to say, an exercise to follow. A guide-line and rules to follow in order to overcome and progress.ย Once we have the rules of the game, we can test, go through trial and error until we become perfect with the camera “in our own perception of perfect”. Above all, we see our flaws. They’re highlighted and in our face. They’re big and bright in contrast to what we’re normally aware of. When other people see us, they take it as a given “This dude has x, y or z… that’s just normal.” But what if, on that day the “Dude” in question had something which wasn’t normal to his everyday settings of normality?

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Jobs vs Purpose

How many years are you supposed to study to get a job? 
How many years are you supposed to invest into your studies in order to land a job? 

In my view, the easiest way to get a job is to work on social skills like retail and jobs alike. 

I studied for 2 years to understand how sales worked, before then studying for 3 years to get A levels in french litterature and philosophy. 

Then I was pretty much set to get any entree level job I wanted. Before graduating sales, I had read โ€œThe Gameโ€ by Neil Strauss, in which the author talks about approaching as many girls as possible to get over the fear of rejection and potentially expose yourself to more people, which in proportion helps to achieve adding more phone numbers to your contact list and potentially getting more girls in your life. 

Though, I had already mastered that while I was in high-school and spent most of my time chatting up birds. On recess, lunch breaks etc. 

Then later in life I simply applied the same principle to work, print out a tone of cvโ€™s and apply the same mechanism, walk in with a big smile like with the birds. 

Have a confident tone, like with the birds. Eye contact, like with the birds.
Dress well and be well groomed, like with the birds… 

Having a sales degree made things pretty easy, and being a salesman also proved to ease things. Though, getting a job wasnโ€™t difficult for me, so I could simply apply my ambition and aim for higher and better if I didnโ€™t like where I was. Which I did.  I was also limited to the job function though.

Had I studied for 10 years to become a doctor or a lawyer or an engineer,
the doors wouldnโ€™t have been open to me to do job hoping to the same degree.

I wouldnโ€™t have noticed how bossโ€™s functioned and how they exploited their employeeโ€™s to make money for them. I wouldnโ€™t have had the freedom to jump from one job to another, or land communication jobs. The thing with a job is that it is like a lillypad, it helps us to get from where we are to where we are going. Jobs are perfect for anyone who has entrepreneur ideas. The difficulty with jobs though, is that you donโ€™t have infinite energy or health.

You can work as hard as you want to land the job, but once you have the job it becomes difficult to sustain that same level of intensity. 

As for a career, you study for a long while in order to become a cog in someone elseโ€™s system, only to then wear yourself out but have no other options because youโ€™ve clogged your mind up so much with your learning mechanisms that it becomes very difficult to then switch to anything else.

When you are endocrinated with studies, your mind tends to pick up information differently. You’re okay with force feeding yourself. Though, youโ€™re doing it, most of the time, because that is the only choice. Work your head off to get a diploma, and then get a job according to what you have studied. 

This is very limiting, for a few reasons. 

1) You cannot switch, your diploma stunts your ability to get do anything else.
Youโ€™re stuck self identifying with your diploma. 

2) You havenโ€™t learnโ€™t to think outside of academic spaces, which is limiting in the real world. Where in school, you learn facts by heart, your mind becomes a warehouse of dusty encyclopaedic facts, which is useful if โ€ฆ youโ€™re passing an exam. 

Though, your mind functions differently. In the real world, our minds pick information, based upon our curiosity. We then dig in, sift and sort the information. Pass on to something else, etc. Only to then conclude with Eurika moments when your brain has finished processing all the information. 

Your mind has been taught to think in a way which doesnโ€™t equate to finding solutions you need, but solutions you’re required to find for someone else. Youโ€™ve been taught to retain information or methods in order to apply them later. You havenโ€™t been taught how to think or how to use your brain to its full potential. 

3) You donโ€™t have any real world experience. This doesnโ€™t help your confidence or your capacity to believe in yourself. And you often get used in the business world.

4) You donโ€™t work your EQ, which becomes inherantly more important than any IQ. Your IQ is solely there for you to figure out problems. Your EQ is there to help you go through problems. It’s your sticking power.

5) You donโ€™t learn risk. Youโ€™re coddled in a little world of privilege inside of academic structures. You donโ€™t go through difficulties. Infrastructures protect you from risk by providing a lush environment of academic pretention. 

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What motivates you to think outside of the box?

What motivates me to think outside the box is the crowd.
The IQ of the group, is equivalent to the LOWEST IQ in the group.
Let me say that again : The lowest IQ in the group equals the IQ of  the group.

What does that say for trends in collective society? Think tiktok… 

I hate being told what to do, and following my intuition and going against the current is something I aspire to. Simply because the decisions I make for myself are better when I’m not influenced by the mob.
Thinking outside of the box in the context of life is simply a question of survival. 
There are structures which I find important, but following the rules everyone else has setup, I have found to prove unfruitful and counter productive when I have a vision.

Forging my own path and believing in myself is my way of thinking outside of the box. Because, contrary to popular logic, following what others tell me makes no sense to my life purpose. Though, it is useful to sometimes use paths which have been blazed before you. That’s just working smart.

Over all, it’s a question of adapting to what is RIGHT for you.

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