The thing is we’ve become accustomed in society, to drink coffee. It’s one of those things which no one really questions. Though its a trap, and it has profound implications on your well-being.
We get accustomed to the high coffee produces, because it stresses the nervous system. And so, we get into the habit of associating coffee to a ‘pick me up’ to ensure ability to produce. Mainly this is a fundamental error. When you’re tired, you need to rest or recover. Using cafein to force results is the best way to get strained results. And the most beneficial way of obtaining incredible energy is to gradually grow our energy to the point where we have the surplus of energy readily available for when we need it. Not by creating an artificial stressor in order to produce an outcome because we need to jump through a hoop to do something we dislike in order to achieve a result.
In order to be soul driven, we must stay away from coffee, because it creates a forceful mechanism for our energy. It produces forced output over a period of time, rather than from our emotional and spiritual highs through hard work, inspiration, curiosity, creativty, and so on. When we experience a high from accumulated quality input (such as reading…) the output of that is High natural value.
When we experience a high from a forced ouptut, the output is strained, our body is strained, our nervous system is strained. It’s not a natural way of producing energy. So when you drink coffee, on a habitual basis, you are creating the habit of
1) Needing to depend on external stimulus.
2) Percieving the world froma strained dependant perception.
3) Shaping your mindset from the pattern of using forced stimulus to force create a state in order to produce output.
When in actuliaty, you want natural, unstrained, creative flow, in proportion to a lifestyle that creates daily joy. And the highs you get, come from natural enjoyment. And your lifestyle, relationships, health, mindset, work, become based on what you enjoy doing, rather than focussed on the forced productive results you are Squeezing out of yourself with the coffee stimulus.
Here’s a trick I discovered a long while ago. When I was younger, I used to play soccer. Fine enough, everyone else did. Though, for some reason I played soccer and I was good at it, and I had explosive energy, I had explosive output and here’s what I did and didn’t do:
What I didn’ t do:
I did NOT drink coffee.
I did NOT abuse my sex life
I did NOT reside in anger
I didn’t listen to other people
What I did do:
I drank a ton of water every day
I would listen to my energetic high’s and lows
I would wait until my body had recovered to exercise
I found fun in my exercise
I sprinted a lot
I would eat raw Carrots daily
I wasn’t controlled by my emotions
I was mentally in control by listening to what ‘Felt right’
“Don’t quit. Never give up trying to build the world you can see, even if others can’t see it. Listen to your drum and your drum only. It’s the one that makes the sweetest sound.” —Simon Sinek
The reason we get into burnout is two fold. Our future is taken away from us, or turned transformed into something limiting. Or we push so much we don’t recover. Eitherway, we end up in burnout. While I’m not going to talk about the future here. I will talk about an energetically sustainable path to riches.
While the whole world fights for scraps of attention or money. I can’t help but ponder.
We’ve essentially removed ourselves from the phyiscal ratrace to put ourselves in a never ending mental ratrace, which is worse because at least when we were working 9-5’s we could disconnect at the end of the day or on the weekend. Now, we’re plugged in 24/7 365.
We’re no longer in a ratrace, we’re in a consensual human pods, just like in the matrix. We consent to spending all our time in front of our screens as we’ve been sold on the idea that working to get financial freedom is okay so long as we give up our mental space and every second of our time to empower social media platforms with our creative genius.
Now, don’t get me wrong, these platforms are great. And if we have the right systems in place, to remove ourselves from the equation so we can experience freedom, these platforms are amazing. BUT, and I say this with emphasis, if we don’t have our own specific systems in place, we’re stepping away from jumping through hoops for a boss, and volontarily jumping through hoops to have financial freedom while empowering social media platforms, no code websites, and so on.
Whats the solution then? Well it’s pretty much in the title isn’t it.. Being self governed by our higher self. Pursuing our northstar, not our goals, but pursuing ‘the thing’ / ‘the state’ in which we shine. You know the one where we become hyper attractive. When we become so magnetic with our presence that the whole world turns to see who’s walking by.
No, I mean, that state of pure internal bliss which comes from following what makes sense to us and empowers us.
A while back, I talked about how our imposter syndrome came from doing what we actually didn’t want to do, but were doing because we were selling ourselves for the money. Well, here’s the thing, as much as money is all nice and good, the great state we pursue isn’t money. It isn’t even what money can offer. It’s purely an outcome we can achieve from anywhere in the world, even in a damp cave if we put in enough effort…
And I believe the recipe, for reaching that higher state of being, the high we get from flow, the feeling of alignment we get from deep work, the high we get from ideation… I believe the framework, is Going at our own speed, abiding to the beat of our own drum, Doing what fulfils us while we advance towards our horizon, and having a clear positive horizon to go towards. I believe that if we have The fuel (what fulfills us), we have the vehicle (what we pour our fuel into. A canvas, Social media, art, music, code…), the speed to maintain quality output without deterioration (going at our own speed/ following our own rythme), and a clear positive horizon to go towards (the desired destination from the accumulation/compounding of our output) then, without a shadow of a doubt, we will have Bliss of journey, bliss of being, bliss of gift to others, and blissful destination.
Fuel x Vehicle x Speed x Destination. = Successful outcome
Our burnout and stress, comes from jumping through hoops to please others, or to abide to market conditions, or to do things for clients without having any personal boundaries, or simply being a slave to money. But the solution, I don’t think, lies in externalities dictating what works and what doesn’t. I believe we have to optain that inner centeredness, our inner compass before striving for anything. Because, its our inner compass which will direct us in the direction of feels best to compound.
Our energetic networth is an accumulation of energy, of inspiration, of trust in the process of life, trusting in one’s self, and flowing with what feels right. It’s the subtle perception and understanding that we’re on the right path and that we have empowered that state over time, so that we develop confidence in our ability to atain it and access it over and over. A sense of emotional confidence, knowing that one is on the right path. Knowing that one is fulfilled and taken care of. A buffer of deep trust. Emotional networth is a reserve of emotions created as a result of being aligned with one’s self. It’s a state of faith and well-being that we are employing the right process which sustains our energy and grows it.
The value of what you put in your mind and who you spend time around on a daily basis defines the energy, beliefs, and state of well-being you ultimately end up with. Not to mention the vibrational frequency of the words you repeat on a daily basis. It all affects the quality of people and circumstances you attract to you on a daily basis.
Energetic networth, is knowing how valuable your energy is compared to someone who hasn’t developed that energy.
Christiano Ronaldo’s energetic networth is vastly different from the person who is a fat sofa slob, who doesn’t grow his energetic output, endurance, and overall emotional well-being and spends time numbing their senses with alcohol and numb tv programs which dull the mind’s ability.
But energetic networth isn’t solely our physical capacity, although it does participate in our ability to feel, and a healthy body is the key to feeling everything. Energetic networth stems from a mindset being constructed around the souls purpose, around what lights up the soul. Its an accumulation of what turns the soul on and lights the body up. It’s an accumulation of right choices of self love, and of being Heartfelt and aware about what is best for us.
Energetic networth is also a form of momentum in pursuing our bliss, which over time creates an ease in taking that internal direction.
We develop it by pursuing the emotional highs we get from going in the right direction, by pursuing the bliss which comes from being emotionally tuned in to yourself and what feels ultimately heavenly to you.
Energetic networth is compounded interest of self-love from the daily investment of loving ourselves and doing what is right.
Knowing the value of your energy, and who you let near it. Just like high net worth investors such as Buffet, they won’t go near someone who has a low net worth. It’s the same for energy, you need to be around people who boost your energy and give to you on the same level of energy that you give. If you’re around people who either have negative or lesser value, you are influenced by that. When you Share with other people, you exchange content/energy and you end up taking on what it is that they brought to the discussion. So when you spend time around people with negative energy, guess what… it rubs off on you.
When you grow your awareness around your energetic networth, you start to comprehend the importance of what you spend your time focussing on, thinking about, how you spend your time feeling, and the quality of your ‘being time’ which is all related to the decisions you make on a day to day basis.
When we decide for example to do things for money, we decide to put ourselves on hold while we exert and output results which will render a specific desirable reward for us in the future. This is problematic because it depleats our wellbeing as the process we enact isn’t fulfilling. In fact I’d associate unfilliling to dereliction (the state of having been abandoned and become dilapidated). So in a sense, doing unfulfilling work, for me as I understand it, is abandoning one’s self, or stepping away from our alignment with our highest self.
Okay, so you’ve probably already heard of how the concept of investing in yourself leads to growing your value. Well, when we decide to live a fulfillment lifestyle vs a reward lifestyle, we grow our value as we advance. And while we progress towards a virtuous future purpose, every step fortifies and empowers us, rather than depreciates or empties us. Reward is momentary, while fulfilment is a constant growth of our personal value.
When we make the absolute decision to focus on what is Good for us now (fulfillment), as opposed to what will be nice in the future(reward based), we grow our stores of wellbeing, we fortify states of emotion which are present rewarding, and we actually enjoy our life a lot more than if we have some future based reward which will –potentially, because its not writen in stone- make our life better.
In the last two years, I decided to go back to school to learn full stack development (coding), because I was insecure as to my ability to make money with my talents. Here’s why this was a mistake… I decided to learn to code, while I was at the hight of my ability to ideate and create valuable ideas, but also when I had reached a super positive internal state of being, I had developed me EQ to a point where I was happy and feeling fulfilled and well, I had reached a point of optmism and well-being. Then I decided to code, and I noticed a lot of problems starting to occur, as if my entire universe had decided to conspire against me. Suddenly shocks started to happen, fear started to occur, I somehow developed dyslexia and my ability to write and ideate flowingly became ebb’ing and dry, I stopped focussing on my emotional wellbeing, and started to obsess over the outcome of becoming a full stack developer, which would then give me financial freedom and so on. I also started to feel uhappy, and became hyper-sensitive and also angry (because I had filled my mind up with content which prevented me from being able to translate the subtle states of emotion I was experiencing). In other words, filling my mind up with code created a state of emotional illiteracy which prevented me from being able to deconstruct, describe, and process what I was feeling.
Why is this a problem? When you go through events in life, but you’re unable to cope with what you’re feeling, you’re at a severe disadvantage, especially as a writer. I need to be able to put my finger on emotional states which are intangible to most people because they are numb to how they feel, but more importantly, I need to put my finger on these states for myself, because these states of emotional depth are what allow me to remove the onion skins from my heart and feel more aligned and in tune with it. Which, surprise surprise, allows me to feel more in tune.
These are states or ressources which are external to us, which means that if we attribute our self-value or well-being to these things, we have to have them as a pre-requisit in order to access states of wellbeing and self-value. Which actually prevents you from obtaining them in the first place. Because if you don’t have self-value or wellbeing without them, you feel terrible, and doubt yourself because you’re looking at your life from a place of lack. In addition, if you do actually attribute these to self-value and well-being, but you end up loosing your success or money, you will most likely end up hating yourself and feeling the need to punish yourself. Which could end up costing you your life.
When you attribute your self-worth and well-being and tie them to what is in your control, you find peace with where you are. And this is the key to developing a succesful life and potentially creating a rich life. Because if you can accept your present circumstances and where you are, you accept ‘the present‘, and its only when you can open the present by ‘accepting’ it that you can access its gift, the ability to take action towards a future you desire. In other words, if you reject your present life, you feel bad, and if you feel bad, how can you see a positive future, let alone go towards one?
When you choose your journey, you can afford to be curious, you can afford to follow your interests, and you can afford to take a detour, because you’re not on a schedule for a boss who wants you to jump through hoops to create results so that he can then sell his company for a massive profit later on.
In addition, when you’re engaged with your own journey, and you decide to trust it, you can let go of ‘what other people think, want, and have’, because you can ultimately focus all your attention upon yourself and your journey. You can emotionally afford to detach from others because you no longer depend upon them for your well-being. Which you end up doing when you’re not aligned with your purpose, because you feel terrible and by consequence end up looking to others for constant confirmation for what you feel… Which means you’re looking outside of yourself for what should be inside from the start, your own validation of state and action.
We look to others to validate if pursuing money over well-being is okay. Why? Because pursuing money for money depleats us, and we know it deep down, that emotionally we are sabotaging our well-being for the future approval of others ‘I’m rich so you must love me’ which results in fat 40 year olds buying red convertibles syndrome. ‘You see, I have all this money, but I eat like shit because I feel terrible, because I do stuff I hate for the big bucks’ A red convertible is redflag for a failure to meet our purpose as a unique human-being.
I know this for a fact now. Pursuing things which will make me money rather than en-lifen me an enlighten me, results in self-sabotage, self-destruction, and ultimately wanting to kill one’s self. I’m a free agent who loves to be free, who lives for the high of being himself, who lives for his soul, who follows his heart and who strives to be in tune with himself as much as possible. Work for works sake is not it chief. And the reason I know this, is that I am unique, and I am different (as we all are) and my purpose here on earth is to expand as much as possible as myself, which takes tremendous self knowledge, Emotional understanding and internal fortitude, but also courage, self-belief, and hope. Pursuing what everyone else is doing to get money, to be loved for having money, to buy a house and car to be loved or accepted or to fit in… that is a recepie for disaster.
You end up diminishing your soul and wellbeing, and life force and sense of freedom, all that to possess stuff that no one gives three fucks about anyway.
‘I have a house!’ … ‘yeah so do I, and?’
‘I have bitcoin, love me…’ ‘yeh so do I, and no’
‘I have a car, I can drive you places’, ‘yeh I have a car too, I can drive myself thanks..’
The truth is, we only have a limited time here on earth and if we spend it doing things which numb our senses and make us want to self-destruct, there isn’t much point in being here at all so we may as well make the decision to end it now if we’re not going to do what makes worth living. Every single person I’ve met who is money focussed is also EQ depleated and ends up sucking the living daylight out of you, because they have little to no clue about what they feel. So long as they can buy things and circumstances… they may as well buy a gun and end it. Because they’re living in a fear based control of life, living through the need for money.
Every time you realise and make a step in the right direction a powerful surge of energy shifts through you and makes you feel like the most powerful human being on earth. It makes you feel alive, enlightened and in tune with your highest self. You could be God in that moment. And because you have this massive enlightening feeling which consequently also helps you feel weightless, you are drawn to things which make you feel good, and you step towards virtuous ascent towards your own personal heaven.
Our energetic networth is built on growing our emotional well-being. I’d say that we grow our emotional networth through a series of events. These events come from our mental perspective and decision to go in the right direction. And because we are going in the right direction, everything fits into place and makes sense.
Life flows, not because we’re trying to control every single detail out of fear and perfection (which is a form of fear about nothing ever being good enough), but because we’re able to flow easily with it, and everything which is proposed to us in its perfect way, we are able to be in sync with what is proposed to us confidently, not because we have the support-feeling of being in control, but because we are able to be fully in trust of it and abandon ourselves to the process of life fully.
Our energetic networth is an accumulation of endurance/stamina and emotional joy and happiness, the deep deep feeling that we’re on the right path, and that everything is happening for us rather than against us. That we’re being perfectly guided by life towards exactly what we need to be doing. We are where we are because of who we are. And everything we have and are able to do, is precisely for us to use it at some point in time for the greater good. We are to find out what the highest version of ourselves is, and let go of forms of fear and control we believe will get us there.
Our emotional networth is built on the foundation that we are following ‘the right path’, not the path that is more secure or more lucrative, but the path which turns our heart on, the path that leads us to expand and grow towards the happier, more interesting, more life-full, adventurous, exciting type of option.
Here’s another thing, FORCE can never get us where we want to go. Essentially its a God’s journey, and we’re just here for the ride. Forcing God to go where we want to go, out of fear and all base states and emotions, we inevitably fall into the trap of thinking we’re in control, like a father watching their child grab the steering wheel thinking they’re driving, but then starts to panick when they grasp the responsiblity of ‘being God’. The good thing is that, we humans don’t need to have that responsibility, so long as we’re following what feels absolutely best to us.
In order to build an emotional wellbeing, one must build a clear understanding of how their EQ functions, and especially what feels empowering and practice that on a daily basis. There is a daily work of micro choices which feel best and one has to grasp what those are.
I’d say that, our emotional networth is the accumulation of thoughts, feelings which create a positive Karma Reserve. A reserve of confirmations and highs. Practicing what turns our dopamine on in the right way (not instant gratification), taking leaps of faith, having the courage to experience life with hope and optimism, and growing our access to that gracefully upbeat perspective.
But also, a crafting of our emotional sensitivity around good things and allowing ourself to be hyper sensitive. Because the hyper-sensitivity leads us to become hyper perceptive. But also leads us to have a more refined experience because we are aligned with the subtle states that we can only access from the perspective of being in tune and vulnerable to life. We can’t be vulnerable emotionally, when our job numbs us and gives us money as a recompense. The security of that recompense prevents us from being atuned to that super sensitive state in which everything is possible for us to experience.
When I was younger, I noticed something which shifted the way I functioned as an individual. When someone was popular, everyone ‘loved’ them and congregated around them. It was to a degree “I know I’m the best” energy. It was a certain energetic accumulation between knowing one had everything, and didn’t have to worry about ‘having’. Quite similar to the energy one associates to Maslow’s pyramid scheme when one has all the primary and secondary needs taken care of.
Once you have something, you don’t have to worry about not having it. This happens with money, women, and many things which seem ‘scarce’ but really aren’t. It’s the same thing that happens when you have something, suddenly that thing becomes abundant or accessible to you. When you have a girlfriend, suddenly women throw themselves at you. And it’s the same with popularity, when you know you’re the popular kid (because somehow I figured out how to be), you’re not worried about being unpopular, you’re mindset is in a very different place to the kids labeled as ‘loosers’ (who aren’t actually losers but have a hard time living under that heavy definition).
Matthew 25:29 “For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. But the one who does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”
This starts in the mind, with what we are grateful for, what we appreciate on a daily basis. We grow what we appreciate, and we reduce what we depreciate / denigrate.
When we focus on what is wrong and what we don’t have, we focus our energy on making ‘what we do have’ and grow our perspective of lack. And the more we grow our perspective of lack, the more it materializes within our life. Funnily enough, when we focus on what we are grateful for, what we have, and what we love and enjoy, we grow our mental references to those things, which enables us to percieve these things materialize in our life.
We all know the spoilt kid who had everything we could possible dream of when we were growing up. We didn’t have what they had, and we envied what they had. And to make matters worse, they didn’t care much about what they had while we would have given anything to have the same context of ‘ease’ and ‘abundance’. Well guess what, they couldn’t see the value in the thing when we could, and that’s what made it valuable to us.
When you decide to invest in yourself the right way. When you decide to invest in the direction you’re going in, it somehow gives you an increased feeling of validation, but also fulfilment because you’re doing what is right for you right now.
You only see life from the vantage point of where you are and what you’re aware of. You don’t see life from the vantage point of where you’ll be in 10 years. You see life from the perspective of where you are right now, with what you know right know, with what you’re aware of right now and with the advantage of your experience.
But here’s the thing, you can’t possibly imagine what things will be like in the future. Which is why you have to have a firm grasp of where you are right now and what feels good right now. And keep on doing what feels right. When you follow what feels good right now, you know exactly what you need to do, and you path opens up to you because you suddenly see the options and see what feels good right now. You have to embrace HERE, and emphacize how good and be convinced of being grateful for everything which is here and now.
Last summer I went to a tropical paradise myself, I was invited, but when we reached that island, the person I was with hated it. And here’s what I retain, I wasn’t focussed at all on the down side of the stay on the island, I was perceiving the upside of being there. Where they saw the flaws, I was given the grace and bliss to see the beauty of being there.
Paradise is not an island with clear blue waters. Paradise is not a place, it’s an internal state through which we see that island. Paradise is within us, and its only when we can access that internal paradise can we see and experience fully the state of paradise on earth. It’s a doorway we open with a fully open heart. And which is more, not something you can buy. You can buy your way to a tropical location, but if within you’re nasty, you’ll hate your stay and won’t experience the full bliss of being where you are. But developing that internal E N will lead you to percieve even the worst of conditions as a blessing, to see Gold where others see ruin, to see beauty where others cannot, and above all to appreciate the ride.
We’re chasing bliss…
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