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When things are falling apart, your life is supposed to be a mess.

When you’re going through a transformation, a transitory phase where nothing makes sense anymore, and you have no clue what you’re doing, or where you’re going, and you overhear some random preachy youtuber telling you that you need to ‘stop living in mess’. Take it as a pinch of salt. You’re life isn’t supposed to be picture perfect right now, because you’re going through unknown states that most people would probably repress.

Take consolation in the fact that in the midde of a storm, there will be wind and stuff gets blown all over the place. So, while you’re going through this transitory period where nothing makes sense, nothing feels clear, and your life seems to be falling apart, let go.

Accepting, and letting go, is probably the best you can do, because its being mature enough to see that you don’t have control over what is going on right now and acknowleging that no matter how much you clean your room or the dishes, your mind will still be a mess, until you let go of the material reality you’re fighting against and start to make internal shifts towards cleaning up, organising, spring cleaning what you don’t want, and amplifying what you would love to have more of.

Your life is supposed to be messy, until you get it together. The only notion of control you need is the ability to accept yourself, and making yourself your top priority. You get to shine your full attention on yourself, healing yourself, taking care of yourself, Loving yourself, and building yourself.

When life falls apart, and the way you were living needs to crumble, the more you hold on, the worse it gets. In fact, being rigid and not letting change occur is probably the best way to end up hurt.

‘BUT…’, we say, ‘I need to be in control’.

In control of what? One responds.

The only thing we can control is where we place our attention, how we choose to think about what we percieve, how we interpret the information and … that’s about it really.

We are here for the ride, God is in the drivers seat, we are but co-pilots giving indications to God about where to go, what to do, and so on. We are but children sitting in the passenger seat, observing the adult ‘do what we want’, except for when we’re wrong, the adult will continu to guide us towards a better circumstances.

You can have whatever you want in life. You really can. Absolutely anything. But you can’t have it, if the foundation of your Wanting it is based in lack, fear, pain, confusion etc.

Most of the time, we want things because of feelings we aren’t allowing ourselves to feel. Rejecting our circumstances, rejecting our body, jealousy because ‘others have and we don’t’ frustration ‘because things don’t workout the way we want’, self-hate ‘because we don’t comprehend what it is that we’re doing that is holding us back, fear ‘because we don’t know how x, y, z will turn out..’. And so, what do we do? We run towards the exact opposite, we run towards the contrast of what we are feeling in order to ‘balance out’ what we are experiencing. As a way of escape, because we ‘can’t accept’ the way we feel about our present circumstance.

In truth, the answer is Acceptance, letting ourselves take inventory of what is currently going on, what we have or don’t have, where we are, and how we feel about it. Most important, is the internal narrative going on, and the emotions we’re feeling about said experience. Very clearly, what will stick out is our rejection of what it is that we don’t want.

We are holding on, and fighting what it is that we don’t want, as if it will bring us back to ‘when things were good’ or bring us to ‘where we want to be’. This is erronious thinking, because essentially, we’re holding onto a piece of concrete in the middle of a house on fire because that concrete is cool and provides a ‘momentary relief’ to the situation we’re in. Holding on won’t help us go back in time to prevent the fire, and it won’t put out the fire and save us or take us to a nice new home. (Perhaps we might have a home in heaven if we hang on too long, but that’s another conversation…). The only solution, is to let go of that fixed solid thing that can’t change, accept that we need to look at our ‘flamboyant’ emotions that are getting out of control, and perhaps call the firebregade, or even get the hosepipe and start putting the fire out…

So, your life is mess right now. Great! That means, that you get the chance to arrange it the way you want it. It means, you have the liberty to re-create, to re-craft, to re-brand, transform, look back on eveything that you’ve done, all that you’ve accomplished. You can take stock of what you’re capable of, what you’ve learned, what you no longer want, and also you have an excuse to actually change. This is a good thing, it’s freeing.

You don’t have to always see the downside, sometimes you can see the brightside, be optimistic about how everything is going to hell.

When I was in university, I had a superb racing bike, just perfect. Carbon frame, super light, it felt like an exercise Ferrari. It was snappy, it was fast, it was light. And it turned heads. I was really proud of it. I’d worked hard at my first job, and when I left, I decided to reward myself with a beautiful roadbike. But then, one day, the gearbox had a problem, so I had to get it fixed. I took it to the bikeshop, and was told to comeback a week later. I left the bike with the new piece I had ordered, and left the bike guy do his thing. A week later, I get a call. ‘Your bike is ready, you can come and get it.’ Yey! So, I go in to town to pick it up. Everything flows perfectly, it no longer makes the ‘clunk’ noise it did the week before. So, I happily cruise through town on my incredible mecanical steed. Proudly, I accelerate to see if everything was ‘not too good to be true’, and it wasn’t, it was perfect. I then decided to pop into the library to say hello to a friend, so I attach the bike to the bikerack, and walk in to the establishment feeling carefree and renewed. 5 minutes after meeting up with my friend, I decide to go for a coffee, so I head out and to my internal bewilderment, my bike was gone. I looked around, just incase, but it was no where to be found. In that instant, I had been robbed blind. And my tendency to get infuriated would normally have risen to Vesivius Volcano level anger, but in that instant, I just chose to let go and move on. I had a few moments of confusion pop up, but I didn’t even engage the feeling of anger, I just let go and my day went on as if nothing happened.

I say all this, because, it illustrates the fact that some things aren’t in our control, and choosing to get angry would have actually hurt me after something bad happened. By letting go, I actually got to experience a feeling of freedom and release which would then open the door for me to move on flowingly and happily, because it was all outside of my control.

It’s freeing, because it allows you to go towards new things. It allows us to evolve.

We’re not here for the material, we’re here for our internal evolution, our internal experiences, and these experiences help us to shape who we become. From the vantage point of this perspective, we are on a journey to personal evolution towards better internal states. And truth be told, I was always super conscious of that bike, Godforbid I get a scratch or anything… Just like my parents sports car when I was younger, we had this red convertible, and the only thing which became apparent was the rarity and price of the car and how my mum was always worried about not damaging it…

Sometimes an old banger is enjoyable, because we get to be carefree. It’s that sense of freedom which is appealing, not the self-conscious, over-alert, inability to relax because we ‘might’ make a mistake, that’s a form of imprisonment, that’s not libertating, that’s fear inducing. What we want is to feel free, to feel joyful, to feel spontaneous, to be fully in the present moment, in flow with who we are, not one step removed thinking about what-ifs.

We search for things which we believe will give us forms of pleasure, as a contrast to the fears and pains we experience within. Instead of deciding to find internal harmony, to let go and be in peace, we’d rather take action and force our way towards a fickle and temporary solution.

When it comes time to let everything fall apart, sometimes its painful. And so, what do we do? We cling to ‘what is familiar’, what made us feel a certain way, what comforts us, because of Fear of the unknown. And that’s okay, it’s okay. Because it’s a temporary phase which we pass through, as we become aware of our internal courage, or that by letting go we can feel lighter or freeer, or a tamporary moment in time where we use this ‘crutch’ as a contrasting experience on which we can decide to turn East, North or West. Our experiences provide directional knowledge while we’re grasping in the dark for what lights up our soul. We’re kind of like a ball in a pinball machine, and we bounce of things that aren’t for us, we tense up when we think the ball is about to fall, and we relax when we know the ball is on the right trajectory towards it’s winning horizon.

Letting things fall apart, means that they were put together at some point in time. While asking one’s self, why things are falling apart, one might repond with a ‘perhaps, I didn’t put things together consciously and just accepted to live life, and be as I was told because I didn’t know any different‘. Perhaps, it’s time to let the storm happen, see that the storm is happening because we have expanded and grown out of the previous shell we ‘lived in’ and that we need to now rearrange our life so that we can continu expanding rather than fighting our previous limiting beliefs, lifestyle, life…

It’s a chance, because, we get to look back at all the things we have learned, all that we have done, and build back from the vantage point of having had a vast amount of wisdom and experience. Now we get to build a house and we get to choose every square inch, every color, every scent, every feeling … We get to now play the masters of our universe from the hight of our experience and we don’t have to make hasty decisions based on the outside world, fears, not knowing, and so on. We get to create freely who want what we want to be.

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Self-sabotage is actually an act of Love and self-fortification.  

I think that on some level, as human’s, we’re addicted to pain and struggle. It’s so hard to get to the point where you reject where you are. Especially when you’ve fallen so low because you took ‘the wrong path‘.  

But falling is part of life. You do it, because you already know how to get back up. I think, we just enjoy the journey of overcoming. Because, finding ways of expanding and breaking through stuff is what we enjoy most.

There are no wrong paths though, because the man who has to hike the mountain from the bottom again gets stronger legs and gets to see the beautiful scenary again from a wiser perspective.

We hate it, we hate it, we hate it, because it feels so painful. BUT! That pain is what pushes us to search for answers, it’s what pushes us to become wise. And, don’t we just absolutely Love to share our hard-earned wisdom?

When we feel we’ve somehow obliterated all our hard work, and we absolutely hate ourselves for having taken the wrong turn. It means that with all the hard work we’ve done, we’ve somehow managed to forget to Love ourselves.

Starting again, even if it seems like the absolute end of the world, is actually a chance to be more aligned and more loving with ourselfs this time.

Here’s the trick to this:

  • Accept where you are and take inventory(what do I have? what am I capable of? ‘How bad is it? How can I repair the current state of affairs?’, what do I know?…)
  • Once you’ve accepted where you are and what’s what. And you’ve listed what’s what. You can start to improve yourself by being loving and patient with yourself. See it as a challege, not a problem.
  • Make a clear goal regarding your current struggle and then start chipping away at your ‘mountain’ of work again. Before you know it, you’ll be back near where you were.
  • Cut off from ‘comparison’ and ‘what the others are doing’. That’s fuel for misery.
  • Give your attention to yourself, and only yourself. You are your absolute best friend. Your attention is like spotlight to the seed of your wellbeing.
  • Start from where you are. And let go of the past. You can’t start from the top of the mountain again if you fall down.
  • Do the best you can, with what you’ve Got.

A quick Tid bit of information:

– The original condition or worship, is a « state or condition of worth ».
When you embrace worship, then, your aim is to embrace your real worth :
the divine perfection that resides within you. With a path, we are no longer afraid or worried.  –

So, here’s a few question for you:

  • What is my northstar?
  • What does that northstar feel like?
  • How can I empower/abide by my internal feeling of bliss and grace ?
  • How can I best accept where I am?
  • How can I use my current journey to help other people?

When we fall low, it’s actually so we can rectify, or lead others back up our mountain, because we didn’t lead well the first time. Like a sherpa, you’re called to come back down to base-camp so that you can heal yourself and lead others back up to where you were going to, minus the excess bagage you thought you needed the first time.

All the best,

Cherokee Goldberg

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Ideation frequency

It’s the night before my 33rd birthday and I’m experiencing a shift.

I already knew that the quality of the content that we absorbe defines the quality of the output of thoughts that we then produce.

What I didn’t see, was that the elevation of the vibration of the content we consume, in addition with the intention of that content, defines the level of frequency with which we emit our ideation.

Another thought that comes to mind is that, the quality of frequency we consume, creates the quality of frequency of thoughts we produce. This leads us to share that frequency with others. Which in turn elevates and inspires and the universe then magnifies the intention and frequency we put out to the world back to us.

In addition, when we conclude that we are simply the observer to the thoughts and emotions that we experience, and that where we decide to place our attention creates the frequency of our thoughts and emotions, and like in the Dr.Emoto water study, our thoughts and emotions emulate the frequency of that which we observe. Which is why, we become what we continually observe.

Like a butterfly, when you realize that flying is faster than crawling along the floor, you will realize that the quality of frequency (be that of people, thoughts, content, spaces, food…) you imbibe defines the speed at which you’re able to vibrate, which impacts the quality of what you’re able to attract.

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Your energetic networth

Our energetic networth is an accumulation of energy, of inspiration, of trust in the process of life, trusting in one’s self, and flowing with what feels right. It’s the subtle perception and understanding that we’re on the right path and that we have empowered that state over time, so that we develop confidence in our ability to atain it and access it over and over. A sense of emotional confidence, knowing that one is on the right path. Knowing that one is fulfilled and taken care of. A buffer of deep trust. Emotional networth is a reserve of emotions created as a result of being aligned with one’s self. It’s a state of faith and well-being that we are employing the right process which sustains our energy and grows it.

The value of what you put in your mind and who you spend time around on a daily basis defines the energy, beliefs, and state of well-being you ultimately end up with. Not to mention the vibrational frequency of the words you repeat on a daily basis. It all affects the quality of people and circumstances you attract to you on a daily basis.

Energetic networth, is knowing how valuable your energy is compared to someone who hasn’t developed that energy.

Christiano Ronaldo’s energetic networth is vastly different from the person who is a fat sofa slob, who doesn’t grow his energetic output, endurance, and overall emotional well-being and spends time numbing their senses with alcohol and numb tv programs which dull the mind’s ability.

But energetic networth isn’t solely our physical capacity, although it does participate in our ability to feel, and a healthy body is the key to feeling everything. Energetic networth stems from a mindset being constructed around the souls purpose, around what lights up the soul. Its an accumulation of what turns the soul on and lights the body up. It’s an accumulation of right choices of self love, and of being Heartfelt and aware about what is best for us.

Energetic networth is also a form of momentum in pursuing our bliss, which over time creates an ease in taking that internal direction.

We develop it by pursuing the emotional highs we get from going in the right direction, by pursuing the bliss which comes from being emotionally tuned in to yourself and what feels ultimately heavenly to you.

Energetic networth is compounded interest of self-love from the daily investment of loving ourselves and doing what is right.

Knowing the value of your energy, and who you let near it. Just like high net worth investors such as Buffet, they won’t go near someone who has a low net worth. It’s the same for energy, you need to be around people who boost your energy and give to you on the same level of energy that you give. If you’re around people who either have negative or lesser value, you are influenced by that. When you Share with other people, you exchange content/energy and you end up taking on what it is that they brought to the discussion. So when you spend time around people with negative energy, guess what… it rubs off on you.

When you grow your awareness around your energetic networth, you start to comprehend the importance of what you spend your time focussing on, thinking about, how you spend your time feeling, and the quality of your ‘being time’ which is all related to the decisions you make on a day to day basis.

When we decide for example to do things for money, we decide to put ourselves on hold while we exert and output results which will render a specific desirable reward for us in the future. This is problematic because it depleats our wellbeing as the process we enact isn’t fulfilling. In fact I’d associate unfilliling to dereliction (the state of having been abandoned and become dilapidated). So in a sense, doing unfulfilling work, for me as I understand it, is abandoning one’s self, or stepping away from our alignment with our highest self.

Okay, so you’ve probably already heard of how the concept of investing in yourself leads to growing your value. Well, when we decide to live a fulfillment lifestyle vs a reward lifestyle, we grow our value as we advance. And while we progress towards a virtuous future purpose, every step fortifies and empowers us, rather than depreciates or empties us. Reward is momentary, while fulfilment is a constant growth of our personal value.

When we make the absolute decision to focus on what is Good for us now (fulfillment), as opposed to what will be nice in the future (reward based), we grow our stores of wellbeing, we fortify states of emotion which are present rewarding, and we actually enjoy our life a lot more than if we have some future based reward which will –potentially, because its not writen in stone- make our life better.

In the last two years, I decided to go back to school to learn full stack development (coding), because I was insecure as to my ability to make money with my talents. Here’s why this was a mistake… I decided to learn to code, while I was at the hight of my ability to ideate and create valuable ideas, but also when I had reached a super positive internal state of being, I had developed me EQ to a point where I was happy and feeling fulfilled and well, I had reached a point of optmism and well-being. Then I decided to code, and I noticed a lot of problems starting to occur, as if my entire universe had decided to conspire against me. Suddenly shocks started to happen, fear started to occur, I somehow developed dyslexia and my ability to write and ideate flowingly became ebb’ing and dry, I stopped focussing on my emotional wellbeing, and started to obsess over the outcome of becoming a full stack developer, which would then give me financial freedom and so on. I also started to feel uhappy, and became hyper-sensitive and also angry (because I had filled my mind up with content which prevented me from being able to translate the subtle states of emotion I was experiencing). In other words, filling my mind up with code created a state of emotional illiteracy which prevented me from being able to deconstruct, describe, and process what I was feeling.

Why is this a problem? When you go through events in life, but you’re unable to cope with what you’re feeling, you’re at a severe disadvantage, especially as a writer. I need to be able to put my finger on emotional states which are intangible to most people because they are numb to how they feel, but more importantly, I need to put my finger on these states for myself, because these states of emotional depth are what allow me to remove the onion skins from my heart and feel more aligned and in tune with it. Which, surprise surprise, allows me to feel more in tune.

These are states or ressources which are external to us, which means that if we attribute our self-value or well-being to these things, we have to have them as a pre-requisit in order to access states of wellbeing and self-value. Which actually prevents you from obtaining them in the first place. Because if you don’t have self-value or wellbeing without them, you feel terrible, and doubt yourself because you’re looking at your life from a place of lack. In addition, if you do actually attribute these to self-value and well-being, but you end up loosing your success or money, you will most likely end up hating yourself and feeling the need to punish yourself. Which could end up costing you your life.

When you attribute your self-worth and well-being and tie them to what is in your control, you find peace with where you are. And this is the key to developing a succesful life and potentially creating a rich life. Because if you can accept your present circumstances and where you are, you accept ‘the present‘, and its only when you can open the present by ‘accepting’ it that you can access its gift, the ability to take action towards a future you desire. In other words, if you reject your present life, you feel bad, and if you feel bad, how can you see a positive future, let alone go towards one?

When you choose your journey, you can afford to be curious, you can afford to follow your interests, and you can afford to take a detour, because you’re not on a schedule for a boss who wants you to jump through hoops to create results so that he can then sell his company for a massive profit later on.

In addition, when you’re engaged with your own journey, and you decide to trust it, you can let go of ‘what other people think, want, and have’, because you can ultimately focus all your attention upon yourself and your journey. You can emotionally afford to detach from others because you no longer depend upon them for your well-being. Which you end up doing when you’re not aligned with your purpose, because you feel terrible and by consequence end up looking to others for constant confirmation for what you feel… Which means you’re looking outside of yourself for what should be inside from the start, your own validation of state and action.

We look to others to validate if pursuing money over well-being is okay. Why? Because pursuing money for money depleats us, and we know it deep down, that emotionally we are sabotaging our well-being for the future approval of others ‘I’m rich so you must love me’ which results in fat 40 year olds buying red convertibles syndrome. ‘You see, I have all this money, but I eat like shit because I feel terrible, because I do stuff I hate for the big bucks’ A red convertible is redflag for a failure to meet our purpose as a unique human-being.

I know this for a fact now. Pursuing things which will make me money rather than en-lifen me an enlighten me, results in self-sabotage, self-destruction, and ultimately wanting to kill one’s self. I’m a free agent who loves to be free, who lives for the high of being himself, who lives for his soul, who follows his heart and who strives to be in tune with himself as much as possible. Work for works sake is not it chief. And the reason I know this, is that I am unique, and I am different (as we all are) and my purpose here on earth is to expand as much as possible as myself, which takes tremendous self knowledge, Emotional understanding and internal fortitude, but also courage, self-belief, and hope. Pursuing what everyone else is doing to get money, to be loved for having money, to buy a house and car to be loved or accepted or to fit in… that is a recepie for disaster.

You end up diminishing your soul and wellbeing, and life force and sense of freedom, all that to possess stuff that no one gives three fucks about anyway.

  • ‘I have a house!’ … ‘yeah so do I, and?’
  • ‘I have bitcoin, love me…’ ‘yeh so do I, and no’
  • ‘I have a car, I can drive you places’, ‘yeh I have a car too, I can drive myself thanks..’

The truth is, we only have a limited time here on earth and if we spend it doing things which numb our senses and make us want to self-destruct, there isn’t much point in being here at all so we may as well make the decision to end it now if we’re not going to do what makes worth living. Every single person I’ve met who is money focussed is also EQ depleated and ends up sucking the living daylight out of you, because they have little to no clue about what they feel. So long as they can buy things and circumstances… they may as well buy a gun and end it. Because they’re living in a fear based control of life, living through the need for money.

Every time you realise and make a step in the right direction a powerful surge of energy shifts through you and makes you feel like the most powerful human being on earth. It makes you feel alive, enlightened and in tune with your highest self. You could be God in that moment. And because you have this massive enlightening feeling which consequently also helps you feel weightless, you are drawn to things which make you feel good, and you step towards virtuous ascent towards your own personal heaven.

Our energetic networth is built on growing our emotional well-being. I’d say that we grow our emotional networth through a series of events. These events come from our mental perspective and decision to go in the right direction. And because we are going in the right direction, everything fits into place and makes sense.

Life flows, not because we’re trying to control every single detail out of fear and perfection (which is a form of fear about nothing ever being good enough), but because we’re able to flow easily with it, and everything which is proposed to us in its perfect way, we are able to be in sync with what is proposed to us confidently, not because we have the support-feeling of being in control, but because we are able to be fully in trust of it and abandon ourselves to the process of life fully.

Our energetic networth is an accumulation of endurance/stamina and emotional joy and happiness, the deep deep feeling that we’re on the right path, and that everything is happening for us rather than against us. That we’re being perfectly guided by life towards exactly what we need to be doing. We are where we are because of who we are. And everything we have and are able to do, is precisely for us to use it at some point in time for the greater good. We are to find out what the highest version of ourselves is, and let go of forms of fear and control we believe will get us there.

Our emotional networth is built on the foundation that we are following ‘the right path’, not the path that is more secure or more lucrative, but the path which turns our heart on, the path that leads us to expand and grow towards the happier, more interesting, more life-full, adventurous, exciting type of option.

Here’s another thing, FORCE can never get us where we want to go. Essentially its a God’s journey, and we’re just here for the ride. Forcing God to go where we want to go, out of fear and all base states and emotions, we inevitably fall into the trap of thinking we’re in control, like a father watching their child grab the steering wheel thinking they’re driving, but then starts to panick when they grasp the responsiblity of ‘being God’. The good thing is that, we humans don’t need to have that responsibility, so long as we’re following what feels absolutely best to us.

In order to build an emotional wellbeing, one must build a clear understanding of how their EQ functions, and especially what feels empowering and practice that on a daily basis. There is a daily work of micro choices which feel best and one has to grasp what those are.

I’d say that, our emotional networth is the accumulation of thoughts, feelings which create a positive Karma Reserve. A reserve of confirmations and highs. Practicing what turns our dopamine on in the right way (not instant gratification), taking leaps of faith, having the courage to experience life with hope and optimism, and growing our access to that gracefully upbeat perspective.

But also, a crafting of our emotional sensitivity around good things and allowing ourself to be hyper sensitive. Because the hyper-sensitivity leads us to become hyper perceptive. But also leads us to have a more refined experience because we are aligned with the subtle states that we can only access from the perspective of being in tune and vulnerable to life. We can’t be vulnerable emotionally, when our job numbs us and gives us money as a recompense. The security of that recompense prevents us from being atuned to that super sensitive state in which everything is possible for us to experience.

When I was younger, I noticed something which shifted the way I functioned as an individual. When someone was popular, everyone ‘loved’ them and congregated around them. It was to a degree “I know I’m the best” energy. It was a certain energetic accumulation between knowing one had everything, and didn’t have to worry about ‘having’. Quite similar to the energy one associates to Maslow’s pyramid scheme when one has all the primary and secondary needs taken care of.

Once you have something, you don’t have to worry about not having it. This happens with money, women, and many things which seem ‘scarce’ but really aren’t. It’s the same thing that happens when you have something, suddenly that thing becomes abundant or accessible to you. When you have a girlfriend, suddenly women throw themselves at you. And it’s the same with popularity, when you know you’re the popular kid (because somehow I figured out how to be), you’re not worried about being unpopular, you’re mindset is in a very different place to the kids labeled as ‘loosers’ (who aren’t actually losers but have a hard time living under that heavy definition).

Matthew 25:29
“For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance.
But the one who does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

This starts in the mind, with what we are grateful for, what we appreciate on a daily basis. We grow what we appreciate, and we reduce what we depreciate / denigrate.

When we focus on what is wrong and what we don’t have, we focus our energy on making ‘what we do have’ and grow our perspective of lack. And the more we grow our perspective of lack, the more it materializes within our life. Funnily enough, when we focus on what we are grateful for, what we have, and what we love and enjoy, we grow our mental references to those things, which enables us to percieve these things materialize in our life.

We all know the spoilt kid who had everything we could possible dream of when we were growing up. We didn’t have what they had, and we envied what they had. And to make matters worse, they didn’t care much about what they had while we would have given anything to have the same context of ‘ease’ and ‘abundance’. Well guess what, they couldn’t see the value in the thing when we could, and that’s what made it valuable to us.

When you decide to invest in yourself the right way. When you decide to invest in the direction you’re going in, it somehow gives you an increased feeling of validation, but also fulfilment because you’re doing what is right for you right now.

You only see life from the vantage point of where you are and what you’re aware of. You don’t see life from the vantage point of where you’ll be in 10 years. You see life from the perspective of where you are right now, with what you know right know, with what you’re aware of right now and with the advantage of your experience.

But here’s the thing, you can’t possibly imagine what things will be like in the future. Which is why you have to have a firm grasp of where you are right now and what feels good right now. And keep on doing what feels right. When you follow what feels good right now, you know exactly what you need to do, and you path opens up to you because you suddenly see the options and see what feels good right now. You have to embrace HERE, and emphacize how good and be convinced of being grateful for everything which is here and now.

Last summer I went to a tropical paradise myself, I was invited, but when we reached that island, the person I was with hated it. And here’s what I retain, I wasn’t focussed at all on the down side of the stay on the island, I was perceiving the upside of being there. Where they saw the flaws, I was given the grace and bliss to see the beauty of being there.

Paradise is not an island with clear blue waters. Paradise is not a place, it’s an internal state through which we see that island. Paradise is within us, and its only when we can access that internal paradise can we see and experience fully the state of paradise on earth. It’s a doorway we open with a fully open heart. And which is more, not something you can buy. You can buy your way to a tropical location, but if within you’re nasty, you’ll hate your stay and won’t experience the full bliss of being where you are. But developing that internal E N will lead you to percieve even the worst of conditions as a blessing, to see Gold where others see ruin, to see beauty where others cannot, and above all to appreciate the ride.

We’re chasing bliss…

Aloha

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The right way, or the optimal way

What if we didn’t do things the “Right way”, but instead, did things the most optimal way?

Our body doesn’t come with an instruction manual. Oh but wait it does. Only, no one has taught us about it… (I’ll come back to this in a moment).

I’ve been thinking, I haven’t been very present on my blog in the last year. I do appologize. I’ve been working hard to aclimate myself to the new dynamics of my life. Having lost my father last April, my personal dynamic has been out of whack.

Not only that, I’ve been pretty lost, because I spend the better part of 2023 learning Programming languages. I’ve been lost, because when you do something you’re not supposed to be doing, you end up cloging up your way of thinking. You end up going against what works for you and you end up creating problems.

As a writer, learning to ingest code and then output code, has been like putting mud into my verbal flow. Rather than flow, I’ve experienced a bit of ebb. Rather than experience the subtle and intangible whispers of my soul, I’ve been quite insensitively laying down logical bricks of code. Rather than the refined and light caress of words and ideas under my breathe, I’ve been forcefully producing code, mentally hammering it into it’s functional and pragmatic place.

There is nothing so deadening for the soul than to consume something as a computer language. Perhaps finance, I wouldn’t know as I’m purely soul driven.

Anyway… I’ve been thinking lately, since I got into code, I started to neglect myself, I wasn’t listening to how I felt. And because of this dynamic, I ended up feeling incredible fomo, because I wasn’t producing anything from the soul, I wasn’t able to express myself clearly, and I was stuck in a numb wordless state, unable to put words on what I wanted. Though, I did become incredibly aware of what I wanted suddenly. All the things that money can buy, to fill the internal abyss which had been created due to lack of respect for my gifts and optimal ways of functionning.

I ended up wanting to travel, things that money can buy, things I didn’t have. All of this started to arise, because I wasn’t able to accept, embrace, or even value what I had and everything surrounding that. I was focussed on filling the mind with functional logic understanding. I wasn’t able to access any form of acceptance for the perfectly optimized life I already had.

You see, I’ve been a writer for a long time, my mind favours words [in the VAKOG I’m an audiory 1st, then visual, then kinesthetic]. but also, I’ve never had a thing for maths as a kid. I was always an ideas kind of person. I’ve always been hyper aware of my soul, and its fine expression. What I already knew before learning code, is that my life is taylor made for me, and everything I have at my disposition is perfect for my purpose in life. The parents I had/have, my interests, my friends, my awareness, my understanding, my mindset, my mental process’s, what lights me up, the gifts I’ve recieved, the things I’ve been proud about. Even my date of birth resonates with expression [21 = 3]. I’ve studied literature and philosophy, I’ve also studied law, I’ve been in sales, and in customer care, I’ve written a few books, and this blog for a while.

Looking back at my life, I wanted to understand what I could do, and if I could push my ability to expand a little. And I have expanded, and even grown, but there’s a fine line between growth and stress, once we step over growth and stumble into forced action, we’re no longer growing, we’re saturating to the point where we’re not able to recover the same.

So, as I said, I’ve been thinking.

Instead of functionning from a place of lack, from a place where we need something external as a compensation for our not paying attention to what we’re feeling. Instead, if we decide to focus on what we have, and what our gifts are, suddenly we access a degree of wealth no money can buy, and what’s more, we’ll do a far better job/work because we do what we love, so we’ll get recompensation for our ability.

When we function from the inside out, rather than the outside in, we fill ourselves up, we heal, we grow, we feel good. When we live from the outside in, striving for goals, wanting externalities, and so on, we’re in a state of lack, so we’re at a disadvantage. Instead, it’s important to see how what we do, what we have, and our purpose all align. When we look at our purpose and our gift, we realize we have abundantly more than we know what to do with.

I did say, I’d talk about the right way and the optimal way, so here goes.

As a man thinketh, so is he. But something is missing. I can’t simply cut out my emotional intelligence. My heart is my spiritual guidance. And if I am not attuned to how I feel, I will simply become beligerant with my words and actions, and by extension with those around me.

For better or for worse, my mind is a tool which serves my spirit. My spirit talks trhough my EQ and my mind serves my spirit. Not the other way around.

My spirit needs to be lit up, it needs to be inspired. My spirit is inspired by the fuel I feed my mind. Not the other way around; my soul is not fuel for results, results are output of my souls process.

My soul dictates the way, my mind is in service to that way. And my body is here to house my soul and mind for their journey. My emotions are indicators, like lights on a dashboard, to indicate whether I am hot or cold in “doing” my life purpose.

I am supposed to create, to write, to output, to express my soul. I am supposed to listen to my emotions, not make them scream at hyper intensity and take that out on my body through the need to “channel” my energy.

I am supported by angels for my mission. My words are translations of my subtle essence. I cannot force my body or soul, only my mind. So why let the mind think it can force the soul?

If we reverse what we normally do, what society has taught us, we may get a path that works, one that’s functional for us.

  • Instead of letting the mind use our soul and body, let the soul use the mind. Which will then empower the mind to empower the body, able to listen to it.
  • Listen to your emotions, they’re the guiding lights in your present moment to clarify if you’re on the right path.
  • Cherish your body as a temple for your soul.
  • Obey your soul.
  • Go at your own rythme.

Shut out the world, and the noise; and learn to accept your heart. As, you will find there the door to your soul.

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Put a bit of Heart in your Head.

I want you to remove from your head the belief that you have little time. I want you to remove the pressure from your heart. I want you to embrace that you have all the time in the world and that the dream you so desire is unfolding as you let it.

Your deepest desires are not too far from reach. It is the fear, it is the doubt, it is the frustration and the external pressure that everything must happen NOW, and that a sense of external urgency force-fed to you over and over prevents you from actually being able to appreciate your present moment enough to build with it or even trust in it, that the life you so desire is only around the corner.

You are wonderful, maybe no one has told you today. And the idea that you are somehow lacking in some foreign way prevents you from sitting in the hot water of your hearts bath.

Immersed in love you are my friend, and yet you are blind to the abundant and limitless bliss that surrounds you.

If you could only remove the contrast and comparison of the the agressive perfection you are attacked by day by day; could you fully embrace the wonders of your graceful heart.

I want you to see the good, to see the well of goodness that surrounds you, and which emanates from within you. For you are different, you are special, you are here on a mission, and your sole purpose is to shine from within that incredible heart.

You are here to serve others, not as a slave, but as a master of your ship. You are here to serve others by being in service to your good heart. By being loving, and warm, and patient with yourself, and by allowing yourself to believe that the beauty you envision and so hope for is waiting for you behind that dreadful wall you distrust so much; the fearful future who holds over you what you want not, dictating the miseries of all the world.

Step aside, there is another path; faith. Have faith, and even if you don’t believe in some higher force, in yourself, and that for all the goodness that resides within you the world will somehow try to pull that out of you and bring it to the surface. Trust, that your good heart only has one purpose; to live within Love (to love and be loved).

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You are a heavenly soul

To live a life worth living doesn’t seem like a life you can replace or sometimes even envy. Because to the outside eye, living a life of internal bliss doesn’t equate to being externally attractive, because we don’t live abiding to the rythme of the corporate result oriented or the profit driven salesmen… We live abiding to the musings of our abundant but quiet soul.

We don’t jump through the hoops to entertain, we silently sidestep them on our way towards that quiet café on the riverbank. Where the wind whistles, and the reeves dance.

Rather than a circus freak performing for the everyday townsman, I am a lover of nature and a romantic enjoyer of spontaneous subtleties. The silent observer and soulful witness to Gods perfect manifestation around me. Can I transmit and describe acurately, no.

But I can strive to feel as aligned as possible to the finite and intangible benevolent forces, of course. This means I am more aligned with the real world which embraces me in my current circumstance.

Let the breeze caress your skin on this warm lighted, candle sented, sunny morning. The air is cold and cool, the tree’s are crisp, and the sunlight envelops their tiny leaves and branches while the birds chip and sing their fragrant melody and call out across this early spring.

Balm for my spirited soul, is my observance of such a quiet peace.

I hope not to replace it, with the brute-force presence of fearbased material driven people.

So I sit, and shun my work and write to you in the hopes my morning description kisses your heart and uplifts your feelings. Hopefully giving you an awe induced morning awakening.

Heaven is here on earth, heaven is here within, heaven is you; and you offer heaven to the world.

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18 useful points (and a tiny smiley face)

New year, same me, different perspective, new goals.

Before reading anything:

Feel free to interpret this however it will serve you. I’m not a dictator. I don’t impose what I write as a cookie-cutter solution for everyone. What you perceive in this may resonate, it may not. Read between the lines. Take things with a pinch of salt. And if you like something, leave a comment or a thumbs up so I know that I did something to good for someone.

I’ve decided to start documenting my journey, and build openly from 0€ to 1M, so that I can provide value for anyone who is struggling to make money and create actual value online. As well as keep trace of my journey. It’s also good because it give me a form of accountability. 

So far I’ve found these points to be of use to me.

Driving factor

This being said, there are many ways to make money online, though it is brought often to my attention through the people I encounter, and through my reading, that attempting anything solely for money just does not work. In fact, whenever money is the driving factor, I most always obsessively burn myself out because nothing else matters. And ‘else’ does matter. 

I confirm this through my own experience; over and over I’ve encountered failure after failure. Not because I’m not hard working, but because after a while, I lose interest, I lose the drive, and my focus fizzles out. I move on to the next, and lose interest all together in anything related to the project. Why? Because money isn’t fulfilling, it’s rewarding, and reward doesn’t fill you up, the fulfillment you get during your process does. And I believe it’s Steve Jobs who said that ‘the only way to do great work, is to Love what you do.’

Some people can do things solely for money, though I’ve found that money can never be a decision factor for me. I like money, I enjoy using money, and I enjoy all the things I can do with money. Though, at the end of the day, it is a tool, something to help you (be, do, achieve, render service, have… etc). Money doesn’t fulfill you, especially during the process of acquiring it. At least it doesn’t for me. 

I’ve found that, if money is at the top of my decision pyramid, all of my core values aren’t as important as money and I become corrupted (corps-rupture = cut off from the intelligence of my body) and end up going down silly paths. In fact, without values, one becomes a wh*re for money (excuse my French) and all of our important values get thrown out of the window. Hence why we live in a society where most of our social media is based on hype and click bait. 

Define Values

So, it becomes increasingly important that one define their values first and foremost and then strive with the framework of those values as invisible guiding forces. If we stray away from our values, we most often find ourselves doing anything, and anything doesn’t necessarily allow us dignity, or a constructive lifestyle. 

I’m a big believer that the process and standards we impose on ourself is what we impose on others. So, if we stress ourselves out and whip ourself into action; guess what, we’ll most likely do that to others. So, self-love becomes quite important too in the achievement of one’s financial success. 

And come to think of it, I can’t allow myself to start this journey with you by saying — as I said earlier on — I’m going from 0 to 1M. Sure, that’s a nice vision to have. But it doesn’t drive my actions, and it can’t drive my actions. It does give me an indicator of scale, of importance, of the value of my work, and impact I have on helping others. This is what I can see within the 1M reference. 

Process

The larger the number, the more pressure I put on my creative process. But, we human-beings are not coal, we don’t transform into diamonds. I’m all for pressure and steel forges steel and all that but, when it comes to quality, I like the approach of a local butcher my father introduced me to many years ago. Let’s call him Mr.D.

Mr.D was a butcher and farmer who believed that the quality of the meat he sold to his clients was directly affected by the quality of the lives his animals lead. A stressed cow produces stressed meat. An unstressed cow however would produce a tender meat. So Mr.D decided to let his cattle roam free the entirety of their lives, right up to the very last second where he’d drive one up to the back of the shop only a few hours before displaying it to customers. 

What I take from this, I apply to my creative process. The quality of the input of information I consume, is defined by the intention and quality of my state and mental process, and the result is that a quality input, and a quality process produce a highly valuable output of information/solution/production that has served me well. And this, I intend to continue doing. 

What the 1M reference doesn’t take into account is personal fulfillment, enjoyment, the quality of the journey, the value of my work, attention to detail, how much effort will go into providing something that people want. The personal side of the venture. The joy I take in discovering a new fact, or ideate a new solution. 

When people lose interest and / or fulfillment on a job, they move on. This is why, being aligned with what we enjoy is of utmost importance. Which brings me to my last year. 

Understand your nature.

Since September 2022, I decided to go back to school to become a Full stack developer. And since this period, I have spent the majority of my time reading, testing, applying code. While it does have upside, and it can be helpful to produce solutions. I also saw a lot of downside to learning code. 

I saw my mental clarity become scattered, my handwriting started to slant backwards, my ideation flow became ebbed and because I’m an auditive primary (vakog) less words = less expression, my thought process became less fluid, and I became less and less clear about how I am feeling, what my intuition is telling me, as well as losing interest in being in front of a computer screen at all. 

And for a writer, or at least a creative dreamy ideator like me, this means feeling dead. Sure, I could write code, implement control structures, automate outcomes and add Api’s to things. But at what cost?! Because, my sole purpose to learn code was to get a job that could provide a stable income, I was doing it for money. Not necessarily because I ‘loved it’. 

Straying from your nature will produce anti-productive outcomes

Another thing I’ve observed with ‘doing something we don’t like’ is that when our daily process is spent doing something we don’t enjoy for the purpose of money, we end up seeking forms of pleasure and instant gratification that we wouldn’t normally have to if we were fulfilled by a work well-done. I believe the quote is to ‘live a life we don’t want to escape from’. 

We can’t live a life we don’t want to escape from, if we spend the majority of our day focused or thinking about something which isn’t what we truly want. And so, the inevitable solution is to find what we love to do. 

Connect the dots.

In order to succeed, I’ve found that we must connect the dots looking back and define a theme. My theme is [Ideation, writing, speaking, creativity] verbal expression/ communication. If I disconnect from that, I will feel a lack of enlightenment. I must read every day in order to write every day, and I must write in order to have clarity of mind. And in order to speak well, I must have clarity of mind and references of ideation, which come from reading and writing. 

This is the paradigm I must live in. If I don’t apply it, it becomes my prison. If I do apply it, it becomes my liberation. But either way, it seems to be the only path which I can travel which fills my soul, and gives me the clarity and energy to do anything and everything else. 

Without food and words, life isn’t really worth living. Love comes and goes apparently, but food and words must be daily. 

Deliver Value to others

I’ve found also that in order to succeed and do well in business, one has to wrap the entire business around two points. The first is to make that business customer centric. The second is to be in love with the process of delivering results to that specific customer. And I believe that if we have both ingredients, it hightens the probabilities of achieving a successful business. 

Use contrast to understand yourself and see life more clearly. 

Over the last few years, I decided to go experience as much contrast, difficulty, and even pain and embarrassment as possible. (Bear with me, there is a method to my madness). In order to create the fuel which would propel me towards achieving the pleasure I wanted. 

When I left high-school (2012, a good number of years ago now..), I observed that I was ambitious, but I had no drive, no motivation to make money. I was good at everything else in life, but money was not my strong suit. And I needed money to afford living a lifestyle that would attract the woman I’d want to be with. So, I devised of a plan to suffer and create references that I’d never want to ever experience again, in order to fuel me towards the desired outcome I dreamed of having. Drive is defined by an axis of Pain and Pleasure. 

Now, enough about me already.. How do I intend to succeed? 

Discover your zone of Genius / Strength

When I was younger, I noticed that I could do really well in one specific area; sports. I hated school, mostly because I rejected all authority (as an aftermath of rejecting the example my father lead), but I had a lot of energy to apply. So, I became the football captain and striker, I worked obsessively to run faster, and I’d train over and over until I could put the ball where I wanted. And so on… Okay, nothing special yet.. Then, I started to notice that because I was doing well on the team, I started to do well with the guys on the team. And because I did well with the guys on the team, this transfered to my social too, so I started to do a lot better with women because I could lead men. (I think lead is a strong word for a kid who could put a ball in a net, influence might be more appropriate). 

Doing well, and focusing on my strong suit, allowed me to develop confidence. This confidence allowed me to become more popular. And that popularity, allowed me to shine who I was. Now, I all of that was based on physical prowess and the fact I peaked in high-school and seemed to have some sort of a clue of how the world worked. I didn’t, I simply understood how to work social situations to my advantage, like most students in school… Doing what was trendy, standing out, and being loud somehow, but also a little vulnerable. but I digress.. 

Focusing on my strong suit, allowed me to Shine. And in my ability to shine, I became attractive, outgoing and popular. So, that is a success for a student, who wants to be liked by his peers.

Focussing on my strong suit / what comes naturally to me, and going all in on what only I can do, in addition to finding a pain point to provide a solution only I can provide due to my strong suit, will allow me to produce a high output of value overtime, without too much fatigue. Because at the end of the day, its all about consistency and compounding of value. 

Be the Master your own narrative. Be selective of who puts what in your mind. Define your own future.

Which brings me to determining, What empowers you the most in the world? The information related to solving your present/current pain point. The one which will enable you to 10x yourself. The insight that will help you define the next clear step and direction you need to take.

As human beings, we are interested and curious about the future, but we’re not able to determine it clearly. We love predictions and astrology and even the doomsday theories we imbibe when we listen to .. any random youtuber today, about “how the end of the financial market..” or how “AI will put an end to.. and you’ll get left behind…”. The point is, we focus on these ‘alert’ messages, because we want information about how to go towards the future without encountering death. We need to prevent death. 

Though, when we’re preventing death, we’ve already lost the game. 

Hone the present day

You see, the most important thing to note is that, if someone else is telling you how the future is, they are dictating not only the future you will go towards, but they are robbing you of the power to take action in the present. Without a compelling future to go towards, we are robbed of the gift within the present moment: the possibility to take inspired action to build towards that future. 

So, it’s my understanding, that if we reject the future, we will also reject our present, which prevents us from doing anything of value. 

In contrast, I’ve understood through my own experience, that we must START where we are. When you choose the state you are currently in, and accept it. You can start working towards where you want to go with the thing you want to evolve.

  • Start where you are mentally, find where you are on your internal path.
  • Start where you are physically, what weights can you lift and grow your muscle with here, not the heaviest you can lift, but what can your muscle comfortably support.
  • Start with where you are emotionally, what are you feeling right here and don’t repress it.
  • Start where you are financially, what do you have and how can you BEST use those finances for the best impact Right now? Instead of wanting more to do what you can already best start.
  • Start out where you are health-wise
  • Start out where you are relationship-wise.
  • Start-out where you are business wise, start with what you’ve got and do the best you can.
  • Start out where you are spiritually.
  • Start out where you are habit-wise.

When we can accept where we are, first and foremost, we can decide to empower what we have and appreciate what we have. When we reject where we are, what we have, we can’t use it to our advantage, we can’t build on it, we can’t grow it. We must start from where we are. If you can start from where you are, you have control. You don’t have control or power over something that is out of your reach.

Community

I’ve gone at it alone, a lot. Simply because I needed to make a lot of mistakes, and test a lot of things quickly. Though, once those things are over, one tends to feel somewhat isolated. And success isn’t supported by isolation, its supported by networking. We succeed as part of a community we participate in. Even if its simply being seen, witnessing someone elses presence can be a huge determiner of how well you perform. Being around other entrepreneurs and solopreneurs is a massive game-changer, and saves you a tremendous amount of time. Not to mention that it keeps you accountable to live up to your word.

Join a club, have a team

When, I was younger, I played soccer on the local team. I didn’t think much of it back then. All I knew was that I practiced a lot, and put in a lot of personal hours on the side. Though, with retrospect, being a part of a whole like a soccer team is valuable. It gives you a standard to perform at. On your own, you are at the mercy of even the wind blowing in a direction. When you’re surrounded by a team, you are within a structure which imposes a certain form of conduct, and expects you to live up to the same goals. So it’s important to be around other people, even if you don’t necessarily have the same values, who have a a similar goal to you. You’ll become alies in mutual success.

Having a clear and meaningful vision.

Lack of vision is probably the most painful state. Because nothing is clear and everything is anarchy. In order to make sense of anarchy, one must have a point to aim for, otherwise one gets swayed and caught within the disorder of what is passing at that moment.

Having a clear vision is also motivational. It helps give meaning to the actions and process we enact while going towards it. If the outcome is a meaningful vision, then the journey towards that vision will be all the better. Taking action, simply because it fulfills the steps layed out to achieve an outcome which has no meaning to us is worthless. And what is more, detached from our internal journey we travel while we work. So a meaningful vision is fulfilling as much as it is useful.

Enjoy the journey.

For the past 10 years, I’ve killed myself to produce outcomes, reach achievements and so on. But.. Living in a future which would never come. This is a draining way to live life. And what’s more, we miss out on the present life we have, while waiting for a better situation which could potentially never arrive. That, in my view is a waste, and I suppose I could say its ungrateful to God for the present circumstances given to us. If we truly appreciate what we have, then we also appreciate our present moment and time enough to optimize how we experience them and what we do with them. Living for the future is ungrateful of the present, and also if that future is taken away, your sense of meaning goes too.

Another thing; when you enjoy the journey, you are in joy. And when you enjoy yourself, it makes your experience worth living. Being in stress all the time wrecks havoc in your health, or at least your health takes a toll. Having faith in the journey and enjoying what is in front of us is beneficial.

Choose appreciation and Gratitude over impossible standards and complaints.

When we appreciate what we have, just like in trading when an asset appreciates, we grow what we have. Or at least we grow the reference of what we have within our internal kingdom; the mind. Being grateful for what we experience, for what we have, and for those around us, grows the amount of references/seeds we have within.

Embrace what is in front of you.

For the longest time, I rejected what was in front of me. The people, the environment, pretty much everything which wasn’t what I didn’t want. And so, I disempowered myself as a result of rejecting what was around me. Everything around us can be considered a block to build with, and if we’re so stubborn as to believe that the grass is greener somewhere else, then you never water your own circumstances. Its with gratitude that we grow our current circumstance, and we’re able to make use of everything that is around us.

Ex: I need to go to silicon valley in order to be around the best in the world. But, if I actually look around, there are startup incubators around where I am. There are successful people here too. There are opportunties here, and great people to network with. And whats more, if I don’t succeed here, why do I expect to succeed there? I’m simply saying I need a better looking building and people in order to be able to achieve what I can achieve here anyway if I put my limitations and blockages to bed.

I think its Walter Wattles, in The Science of being Great, who said that: one must do a great job where one is, and only with a certain frame of mind can one grow out of ones circumstance.. That one will find ones personal mediocrity in every circumstance, until one becomes great where he already is. — I hope I’m correct, although I’m quoting from memory, I read the book a long while ago…

Breathe.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. There’s no point getting yourself into a heart-attack by trying to have over night success, because everyone else is applying this AI tactic… Your boat won’t leave without you. Or as is said in Conversations with God, you can’t fail. You may take a detour, but you will get there at some point. Just don’t give up.

Take a break and breathe from time to time. Contemplate everything you have achieved. Witness the beauty around you, or if it is lacking, imagine something beautiful. Turn on some classical music, or a tune that elevates the mood.

Sometimes, doing more work isn’t the solution. Taking a step away to see the picture clearer later on is.

You aren’t subject to VC’s, no one is on your back expecting an elevated return (hopefully). March to the sound of your own drum, and listen to your own rythme. After all, we’re not in school anymore, the only person who takes care of us, is us. And if you don’t respect yourself enough to slow down once in a while, no one else will.

If you don’t have a plan for yourself care, someone will have a plan for you, and that doesn’t look healthy.

🙂

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Our ascent starts the moment we let go of the weight

It all starts in the mind. With a decision.

Up until now, I’ve learned to listen to my higher self, or to a degree what I thought was my higher self. I’ve observed and strived to be in alignment with myself. And so, despite my fathers indications I followed my higher-self and wrote a blog. This felt right. It felt good. Maybe I was simply caressing my ego, maybe I was giving myself a boost of self-confidence, by taking time out from ‘real life’, maybe… It then lead me to publish a book, then a second, then a third, a blog, a newsletter, and then go back to school to learn how to code.

Then, my father passed away. I had no one to fight against. All of my habits had been in contrast to something / a point of view, in opposition to someone. Then, there’s no one there to rebel against, the invincible rock I spent my life verbally pounding against, was no longer.

In many respects, I believe that my opposition was justified. Not because my father was a bad person, but because of some of the points of views and beliefs he held. These didn’t sit well with me and I found them to be contrary to what I was striving for. Though, his opinions did not necessarily represent him underneath. We got along in many ways. Though, we didn’t get along when it came to what I wanted to do. I’ve never liked being told what to do, or even influenced in anyway. As if I’ve been striving to follow some divine internal guidance. And perhaps I have been guided all the while.

I’ve become accustomed to a way of life, and I’ve created the habit of functionning within certain parameters, only to be destabilised when faced with a deep challenge & change.

I’ve overcome a good number of personal issues in my life and the, in a moment of folly, I saw my vulnerable fragilities exposed. I say folly, I was hurting because my dad had just died and the grief ate me from the inside. As I observed this grief cause internal pain, I observed myself seek ways to numb the pain. Feeling powerless as to the depth and intensity, but also how scattered I had become in contrast to who I was only a few months prior.

So I began my downfall, only to observe that since I’d already overcome my issues, and had already built an interesting toolkit to do so, I was able to halt my fall before I went too far down the hill.

I am able to start my ascent back up my personal mountain, except this time I know where I am headed with more clarity. I’ve already been up and down these paths.

This time I get to fortify and solidify the points of weakness I didn’t address in my first ascent.

This time I get to do it better. This time I’m doing it for me.

Before we build a good life, we must first start with the foundation and I believe that is the mind. Everything starts in the mind.

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Start where you are. (The key to success)

The greatest of understandings I’ve understood through my own experience is, START where you are. When you choose the state you are currently in, and accept it. You can start working towards where you want to go with the thing you want to evolve.

  • Start where you are mentally, find where you are on your internal path.
  • Start where you are physically, what weights can you lift and grow your muscle with here, not the heaviest you can lift, but what can your muscle comfortably support.
  • Start with where you are emotionally, what are you feeling right here and don’t repress it.
  • Start where you are financially, what do you have and how can you BEST use those finances for the best impact Right now? Instead of wanting more to do what you can already best start.
  • Start out where you are health-wise
  • Start out where you are relationship-wise.
  • Start-out where you are business wise, start with what you’ve got and do the best you can.
  • Start out where you are spiritually.
  • Start out where you are habit-wise.

When we can accept where we are, first and foremost, we can decide to empower what we have and appreciate what we have.

When we reject where we are, what we have, where we are, we can’t use it to our advantage, we can’t build on it, we can’t grow it.

You must start from where you are.

If you can start from where you are, you have control.

You don’t have control or power over something that is out of your reach.

All the best,

Cherokee Goldberg