When we feel low, it’s because we’ve been saturating our focus on things that make us feel like shit. Or, we’ve been focussing on how things aren’t working for us. Or, we’ve been focussing on how we never get what we want.
But the thougts we consume, we also tend to think about. If we decide to eat a chestnut, will there be a carrot or an apple in our stomach to be digested? No. Only a chestnut. So, when we place our attention on things which aren’t fully uplifting and inspiring, these ‘reference points’ become – mediocre- because we have decided for mediocre idea food…
We have to accumulate positive, unplifting, beautiful, joyful, beautiful, references which make us feel – the way we want to feel- and accumulate that way of feeling!
We can’t force ourself to do things, by pushing. We can’t ‘just execute’ it’s not all about the execution. It’s about creating the inspiration before the action. Because action comes from thought. And forced action is essentially ‘I have to force myself to do this, otherwise it won’t happen…‘. But inspired action on the other hand is ‘I’m inspired, I’m uplifted, I’m excited to do this thing, because I’ve been given God like power through my imagination...’
We have to compound our wanted ideas. And an idea is a point of inspiration. So, if we compound inspired ideas, we compound energy too. Which is why the Brilliant writer is always full of energy. Because his sails are full of the life force of ideas from consuming content and information he enjoys.
If we fill oour head up from a point of curiosity and interest and joy, and we consume content that makes us FEEL GOOD, we will ideate on the same level. Which will by extent, creates more and more references – thoughts – about that feel good to think !
Don’t do things out of force. Doing things out of force is action from a place of fear. When we are fearful about the outcome of what we’re doing, example: ‘I’m creating a 100000 €!’ but somewhere we don’t believe in our ability to get it. We will force ourself to take action, and the extent of that is: doing what we hate. Sure we might end up with that sum, but at what extent, we just fucked up our entire journey, and our energy, and now we feel like a piece of shit because we’ve just spent all that time miserably in order to ‘feel good’ when the end result comes along.
But instead, if we decide to Do things from a place of power (when we get inspiration), we get an idea, and it gives us energy. We will be inspired to take action, we will be uplifted, we will be optimistic, we will be confident. Because the action we are taking, is from a place of deep emotional confirmation, because the idea stemmed from within us.
When we start taking action – because the internet guru told me! – we miss out on a vital vital piece of data; our own. If we’re taking information from the outside, from other people, and simply being directed by the flux of data being thrown at us by influencers all over the world, we won’t be doing it from a centered place, we’ll be doing it from a place of misalignement with ourself. Because we’ll be taking action from a place of fear of listening to ourself. And we can’t get what we want in life if we spend ourselves doing what other people tell us do to. We can only get what we want, because we create the ideas of what we want first.
How would I go about doing this?
First of all, forgive myself for being so hard on myself and forcing myself to go through everything I’ve been through. Be grateful for all my body has endured in that forceful state, in that it did really well.
Secondly, I’d now let go of that disfunctional way of acting. And implement a new way. I’d spend my time searching for and accumulating amazing content ( thoughts, concepts, things, music, videos, humour, magazines, pictures, …) that make me feel good when I consume them. Spend my time consuming these things until I get an idea, then start taking action on that idea from a place of emotional certainty. Then, I’d go back to the source of my ideas to draw out more inspiration, and continue down that road until I make enough progress.
Don’t just become water my friend. Become love. Become joy, become free, become happiness, become excited, become optimistic. Let these emotions become you my friend, and the world will open up to you …
When you’re going through a transformation, a transitory phase where nothing makes sense anymore, and you have no clue what you’re doing, or where you’re going, and you overhear some random preachy youtuber telling you that you need to ‘stop living in mess’. Take it as a pinch of salt. You’re life isn’t supposed to be picture perfect right now, because you’re going through unknown states that most people would probably repress.
Take consolation in the fact that in the midde of a storm, there will be wind and stuff gets blown all over the place. So, while you’re going through this transitory period where nothing makes sense, nothing feels clear, and your life seems to be falling apart, let go.
Accepting, and letting go, is probably the best you can do, because its being mature enough to see that you don’t have control over what is going on right now and acknowleging that no matter how much you clean your room or the dishes, your mind will still be a mess, until you let go of the material reality you’re fighting against and start to make internal shifts towards cleaning up, organising, spring cleaning what you don’t want, and amplifying what you would love to have more of.
Your life is supposed to be messy, until you get it together. The only notion of control you need is the ability to accept yourself, and making yourself your top priority. You get to shine your full attention on yourself, healing yourself, taking care of yourself, Loving yourself, and building yourself.
When life falls apart, and the way you were living needs to crumble, the more you hold on, the worse it gets. In fact, being rigid and not letting change occur is probably the best way to end up hurt.
‘BUT…’, we say, ‘I need to be in control’.
In control of what? One responds.
The only thing we can control is where we place our attention, how we choose to think about what we percieve, how we interpret the information and … that’s about it really.
We are here for the ride, God is in the drivers seat, we are but co-pilots giving indications to God about where to go, what to do, and so on. We are but children sitting in the passenger seat, observing the adult ‘do what we want’, except for when we’re wrong, the adult will continu to guide us towards a better circumstances.
You can have whatever you want in life. You really can. Absolutely anything. But you can’t have it, if the foundation of your Wanting it is based in lack, fear, pain, confusion etc.
Most of the time, we want things because of feelings we aren’t allowing ourselves to feel. Rejecting our circumstances, rejecting our body, jealousy because ‘others have and we don’t’ frustration ‘because things don’t workout the way we want’, self-hate ‘because we don’t comprehend what it is that we’re doing that is holding us back, fear ‘because we don’t know how x, y, z will turn out..’. And so, what do we do? We run towards the exact opposite, we run towards the contrast of what we are feeling in order to ‘balance out’ what we are experiencing. As a way of escape, because we ‘can’t accept’ the way we feel about our present circumstance.
In truth, the answer is Acceptance, letting ourselves take inventory of what is currently going on, what we have or don’t have, where we are, and how we feel about it. Most important, is the internal narrative going on, and the emotions we’re feeling about said experience. Very clearly, what will stick out is our rejection of what it is that we don’t want.
We are holding on, and fighting what it is that we don’t want, as if it will bring us back to ‘when things were good’ or bring us to ‘where we want to be’. This is erronious thinking, because essentially, we’re holding onto a piece of concrete in the middle of a house on fire because that concrete is cool and provides a ‘momentary relief’ to the situation we’re in. Holding on won’t help us go back in time to prevent the fire, and it won’t put out the fire and save us or take us to a nice new home. (Perhaps we might have a home in heaven if we hang on too long, but that’s another conversation…). The only solution, is to let go of that fixed solid thing that can’t change, accept that we need to look at our ‘flamboyant’ emotions that are getting out of control, and perhaps call the firebregade, or even get the hosepipe and start putting the fire out…
So, your life is mess right now. Great! That means, that you get the chance to arrange it the way you want it. It means, you have the liberty to re-create, to re-craft, to re-brand, transform, look back on eveything that you’ve done, all that you’ve accomplished. You can take stock of what you’re capable of, what you’ve learned, what you no longer want, and also you have an excuse to actually change. This is a good thing, it’s freeing.
You don’t have to always see the downside, sometimes you can see the brightside, be optimistic about how everything is going to hell.
When I was in university, I had a superb racing bike, just perfect. Carbon frame, super light, it felt like an exercise Ferrari. It was snappy, it was fast, it was light. And it turned heads. I was really proud of it. I’d worked hard at my first job, and when I left, I decided to reward myself with a beautiful roadbike. But then, one day, the gearbox had a problem, so I had to get it fixed. I took it to the bikeshop, and was told to comeback a week later. I left the bike with the new piece I had ordered, and left the bike guy do his thing. A week later, I get a call. ‘Your bike is ready, you can come and get it.’ Yey! So, I go in to town to pick it up. Everything flows perfectly, it no longer makes the ‘clunk’ noise it did the week before. So, I happily cruise through town on my incredible mecanical steed. Proudly, I accelerate to see if everything was ‘not too good to be true’, and it wasn’t, it was perfect. I then decided to pop into the library to say hello to a friend, so I attach the bike to the bikerack, and walk in to the establishment feeling carefree and renewed. 5 minutes after meeting up with my friend, I decide to go for a coffee, so I head out and to my internal bewilderment, my bike was gone. I looked around, just incase, but it was no where to be found. In that instant, I had been robbed blind. And my tendency to get infuriated would normally have risen to Vesivius Volcano level anger, but in that instant, I just chose to let go and move on. I had a few moments of confusion pop up, but I didn’t even engage the feeling of anger, I just let go and my day went on as if nothing happened.
I say all this, because, it illustrates the fact that some things aren’t in our control, and choosing to get angry would have actually hurt me after something bad happened. By letting go, I actually got to experience a feeling of freedom and release which would then open the door for me to move on flowingly and happily, because it was all outside of my control.
It’s freeing, because it allows you to go towards new things. It allows us to evolve.
We’re not here for the material, we’re here for our internal evolution, our internal experiences, and these experiences help us to shape who we become. From the vantage point of this perspective, we are on a journey to personal evolution towards better internal states. And truth be told, I was always super conscious of that bike, Godforbid I get a scratch or anything… Just like my parents sports car when I was younger, we had this red convertible, and the only thing which became apparent was the rarity and price of the car and how my mum was always worried about not damaging it…
Sometimes an old banger is enjoyable, because we get to be carefree. It’s that sense of freedom which is appealing, not the self-conscious, over-alert, inability to relax because we ‘might’ make a mistake, that’s a form of imprisonment, that’s not libertating, that’s fear inducing. What we want is to feel free, to feel joyful, to feel spontaneous, to be fully in the present moment, in flow with who we are, not one step removed thinking about what-ifs.
We search for things which we believe will give us forms of pleasure, as a contrast to the fears and pains we experience within. Instead of deciding to find internal harmony, to let go and be in peace, we’d rather take action and force our way towards a fickle and temporary solution.
When it comes time to let everything fall apart, sometimes its painful. And so, what do we do? We cling to ‘what is familiar’, what made us feel a certain way, what comforts us, because of Fear of the unknown. And that’s okay, it’s okay. Because it’s a temporary phase which we pass through, as we become aware of our internal courage, or that by letting go we can feel lighter or freeer, or a tamporary moment in time where we use this ‘crutch’ as a contrasting experience on which we can decide to turn East, North or West. Our experiences provide directional knowledge while we’re grasping in the dark for what lights up our soul. We’re kind of like a ball in a pinball machine, and we bounce of things that aren’t for us, we tense up when we think the ball is about to fall, and we relax when we know the ball is on the right trajectory towards it’s winning horizon.
Letting things fall apart, means that they were put together at some point in time. While asking one’s self, why things are falling apart, one might repond with a ‘perhaps, I didn’t put things together consciously and just accepted to live life, and be as I was told because I didn’t know any different‘. Perhaps, it’s time to let the storm happen, see that the storm is happening because we have expanded and grown out of the previous shell we ‘lived in’ and that we need to now rearrange our life so that we can continu expanding rather than fighting our previous limiting beliefs, lifestyle, life…
It’s a chance, because, we get to look back at all the things we have learned, all that we have done, and build back from the vantage point of having had a vast amount of wisdom and experience. Now we get to build a house and we get to choose every square inch, every color, every scent, every feeling … We get to now play the masters of our universe from the hight of our experience and we don’t have to make hasty decisions based on the outside world, fears, not knowing, and so on. We get to create freely who want what we want to be.
I think that on some level, as human’s, we’re addicted to pain and struggle. It’s so hard to get to the point where you reject where you are. Especially when you’ve fallen so low because you took ‘the wrong path‘.
But falling is part of life. You do it, because you already know how to get back up. I think, we just enjoy the journey of overcoming. Because, finding ways of expanding and breaking through stuff is what we enjoy most.
There are no wrong paths though, because the man who has to hike the mountain from the bottom again gets stronger legs and gets to see the beautiful scenary again from a wiser perspective.
We hate it, we hate it, we hate it, because it feels so painful. BUT! That pain is what pushes us to search for answers, it’s what pushes us to become wise. And, don’t we just absolutely Love to share our hard-earned wisdom?
When we feel we’ve somehow obliterated all our hard work, and we absolutely hate ourselves for having taken the wrong turn. It means that with all the hard work we’ve done, we’ve somehow managed to forget to Love ourselves.
Starting again, even if it seems like the absolute end of the world, is actually a chance to be more aligned and more loving with ourselfs this time.
Here’s the trick to this:
Accept where you are and take inventory(what do I have? what am I capable of? ‘How bad is it? How can I repair the current state of affairs?’, what do I know?…)
Once you’ve accepted where you are and what’s what. And you’ve listed what’s what. You can start to improve yourself by being loving and patient with yourself. See it as a challege, not a problem.
Make a clear goal regarding your current struggle and then start chipping away at your ‘mountain’ of work again. Before you know it, you’ll be back near where you were.
Cut off from ‘comparison’ and ‘what the others are doing’. That’s fuel for misery.
Give your attention to yourself, and only yourself. You are your absolute best friend. Your attention is like spotlight to the seed of your wellbeing.
Start from where you are. And let go of the past. You can’t start from the top of the mountain again if you fall down.
Do the best you can, with what you’ve Got.
A quick Tid bit of information:
– The original condition or worship, is a « state or condition of worth ». When you embrace worship, then, your aim is to embrace your real worth : the divine perfection that resides within you. With a path, we are no longer afraid or worried. –
So, here’s a few question for you:
What is my northstar?
What does that northstar feel like?
How can I empower/abide by my internal feeling of bliss and grace ?
How can I best accept where I am?
How can I use my current journey to help other people?
When we fall low, it’s actually so we can rectify, or lead others back up our mountain, because we didn’t lead well the first time. Like a sherpa, you’re called to come back down to base-camp so that you can heal yourself and lead others back up to where you were going to, minus the excess bagage you thought you needed the first time.
It’s the night before my 33rd birthday and I’m experiencing a shift.
I already knew that the quality of the content that we absorbe defines the quality of the output of thoughts that we then produce.
What I didn’t see, was that the elevation of the vibration of the content we consume, in addition with the intention of that content, defines the level of frequency with which we emit our ideation.
Another thought that comes to mind is that, the quality of frequency we consume, creates the quality of frequency of thoughts we produce. This leads us to share that frequency with others. Which in turn elevates and inspires and the universe then magnifies the intention and frequency we put out to the world back to us.
In addition, when we conclude that we are simply the observer to the thoughts and emotions that we experience, and that where we decide to place our attention creates the frequency of our thoughts and emotions, and like in the Dr.Emoto water study, our thoughts and emotions emulate the frequency of that which we observe. Which is why, we become what we continually observe.
Like a butterfly, when you realize that flying is faster than crawling along the floor, you will realize that the quality of frequency (be that of people, thoughts, content, spaces, food…) you imbibe defines the speed at which you’re able to vibrate, which impacts the quality of what you’re able to attract.
Our energetic networth is an accumulation of energy, of inspiration, of trust in the process of life, trusting in one’s self, and flowing with what feels right. It’s the subtle perception and understanding that we’re on the right path and that we have empowered that state over time, so that we develop confidence in our ability to atain it and access it over and over. A sense of emotional confidence, knowing that one is on the right path. Knowing that one is fulfilled and taken care of. A buffer of deep trust. Emotional networth is a reserve of emotions created as a result of being aligned with one’s self. It’s a state of faith and well-being that we are employing the right process which sustains our energy and grows it.
The value of what you put in your mind and who you spend time around on a daily basis defines the energy, beliefs, and state of well-being you ultimately end up with. Not to mention the vibrational frequency of the words you repeat on a daily basis. It all affects the quality of people and circumstances you attract to you on a daily basis.
Energetic networth, is knowing how valuable your energy is compared to someone who hasn’t developed that energy.
Christiano Ronaldo’s energetic networth is vastly different from the person who is a fat sofa slob, who doesn’t grow his energetic output, endurance, and overall emotional well-being and spends time numbing their senses with alcohol and numb tv programs which dull the mind’s ability.
But energetic networth isn’t solely our physical capacity, although it does participate in our ability to feel, and a healthy body is the key to feeling everything. Energetic networth stems from a mindset being constructed around the souls purpose, around what lights up the soul. Its an accumulation of what turns the soul on and lights the body up. It’s an accumulation of right choices of self love, and of being Heartfelt and aware about what is best for us.
Energetic networth is also a form of momentum in pursuing our bliss, which over time creates an ease in taking that internal direction.
We develop it by pursuing the emotional highs we get from going in the right direction, by pursuing the bliss which comes from being emotionally tuned in to yourself and what feels ultimately heavenly to you.
Energetic networth is compounded interest of self-love from the daily investment of loving ourselves and doing what is right.
Knowing the value of your energy, and who you let near it. Just like high net worth investors such as Buffet, they won’t go near someone who has a low net worth. It’s the same for energy, you need to be around people who boost your energy and give to you on the same level of energy that you give. If you’re around people who either have negative or lesser value, you are influenced by that. When you Share with other people, you exchange content/energy and you end up taking on what it is that they brought to the discussion. So when you spend time around people with negative energy, guess what… it rubs off on you.
When you grow your awareness around your energetic networth, you start to comprehend the importance of what you spend your time focussing on, thinking about, how you spend your time feeling, and the quality of your ‘being time’ which is all related to the decisions you make on a day to day basis.
When we decide for example to do things for money, we decide to put ourselves on hold while we exert and output results which will render a specific desirable reward for us in the future. This is problematic because it depleats our wellbeing as the process we enact isn’t fulfilling. In fact I’d associate unfilliling to dereliction (the state of having been abandoned and become dilapidated). So in a sense, doing unfulfilling work, for me as I understand it, is abandoning one’s self, or stepping away from our alignment with our highest self.
Okay, so you’ve probably already heard of how the concept of investing in yourself leads to growing your value. Well, when we decide to live a fulfillment lifestyle vs a reward lifestyle, we grow our value as we advance. And while we progress towards a virtuous future purpose, every step fortifies and empowers us, rather than depreciates or empties us. Reward is momentary, while fulfilment is a constant growth of our personal value.
When we make the absolute decision to focus on what is Good for us now (fulfillment), as opposed to what will be nice in the future(reward based), we grow our stores of wellbeing, we fortify states of emotion which are present rewarding, and we actually enjoy our life a lot more than if we have some future based reward which will –potentially, because its not writen in stone- make our life better.
In the last two years, I decided to go back to school to learn full stack development (coding), because I was insecure as to my ability to make money with my talents. Here’s why this was a mistake… I decided to learn to code, while I was at the hight of my ability to ideate and create valuable ideas, but also when I had reached a super positive internal state of being, I had developed me EQ to a point where I was happy and feeling fulfilled and well, I had reached a point of optmism and well-being. Then I decided to code, and I noticed a lot of problems starting to occur, as if my entire universe had decided to conspire against me. Suddenly shocks started to happen, fear started to occur, I somehow developed dyslexia and my ability to write and ideate flowingly became ebb’ing and dry, I stopped focussing on my emotional wellbeing, and started to obsess over the outcome of becoming a full stack developer, which would then give me financial freedom and so on. I also started to feel uhappy, and became hyper-sensitive and also angry (because I had filled my mind up with content which prevented me from being able to translate the subtle states of emotion I was experiencing). In other words, filling my mind up with code created a state of emotional illiteracy which prevented me from being able to deconstruct, describe, and process what I was feeling.
Why is this a problem? When you go through events in life, but you’re unable to cope with what you’re feeling, you’re at a severe disadvantage, especially as a writer. I need to be able to put my finger on emotional states which are intangible to most people because they are numb to how they feel, but more importantly, I need to put my finger on these states for myself, because these states of emotional depth are what allow me to remove the onion skins from my heart and feel more aligned and in tune with it. Which, surprise surprise, allows me to feel more in tune.
These are states or ressources which are external to us, which means that if we attribute our self-value or well-being to these things, we have to have them as a pre-requisit in order to access states of wellbeing and self-value. Which actually prevents you from obtaining them in the first place. Because if you don’t have self-value or wellbeing without them, you feel terrible, and doubt yourself because you’re looking at your life from a place of lack. In addition, if you do actually attribute these to self-value and well-being, but you end up loosing your success or money, you will most likely end up hating yourself and feeling the need to punish yourself. Which could end up costing you your life.
When you attribute your self-worth and well-being and tie them to what is in your control, you find peace with where you are. And this is the key to developing a succesful life and potentially creating a rich life. Because if you can accept your present circumstances and where you are, you accept ‘the present‘, and its only when you can open the present by ‘accepting’ it that you can access its gift, the ability to take action towards a future you desire. In other words, if you reject your present life, you feel bad, and if you feel bad, how can you see a positive future, let alone go towards one?
When you choose your journey, you can afford to be curious, you can afford to follow your interests, and you can afford to take a detour, because you’re not on a schedule for a boss who wants you to jump through hoops to create results so that he can then sell his company for a massive profit later on.
In addition, when you’re engaged with your own journey, and you decide to trust it, you can let go of ‘what other people think, want, and have’, because you can ultimately focus all your attention upon yourself and your journey. You can emotionally afford to detach from others because you no longer depend upon them for your well-being. Which you end up doing when you’re not aligned with your purpose, because you feel terrible and by consequence end up looking to others for constant confirmation for what you feel… Which means you’re looking outside of yourself for what should be inside from the start, your own validation of state and action.
We look to others to validate if pursuing money over well-being is okay. Why? Because pursuing money for money depleats us, and we know it deep down, that emotionally we are sabotaging our well-being for the future approval of others ‘I’m rich so you must love me’ which results in fat 40 year olds buying red convertibles syndrome. ‘You see, I have all this money, but I eat like shit because I feel terrible, because I do stuff I hate for the big bucks’ A red convertible is redflag for a failure to meet our purpose as a unique human-being.
I know this for a fact now. Pursuing things which will make me money rather than en-lifen me an enlighten me, results in self-sabotage, self-destruction, and ultimately wanting to kill one’s self. I’m a free agent who loves to be free, who lives for the high of being himself, who lives for his soul, who follows his heart and who strives to be in tune with himself as much as possible. Work for works sake is not it chief. And the reason I know this, is that I am unique, and I am different (as we all are) and my purpose here on earth is to expand as much as possible as myself, which takes tremendous self knowledge, Emotional understanding and internal fortitude, but also courage, self-belief, and hope. Pursuing what everyone else is doing to get money, to be loved for having money, to buy a house and car to be loved or accepted or to fit in… that is a recepie for disaster.
You end up diminishing your soul and wellbeing, and life force and sense of freedom, all that to possess stuff that no one gives three fucks about anyway.
‘I have a house!’ … ‘yeah so do I, and?’
‘I have bitcoin, love me…’ ‘yeh so do I, and no’
‘I have a car, I can drive you places’, ‘yeh I have a car too, I can drive myself thanks..’
The truth is, we only have a limited time here on earth and if we spend it doing things which numb our senses and make us want to self-destruct, there isn’t much point in being here at all so we may as well make the decision to end it now if we’re not going to do what makes worth living. Every single person I’ve met who is money focussed is also EQ depleated and ends up sucking the living daylight out of you, because they have little to no clue about what they feel. So long as they can buy things and circumstances… they may as well buy a gun and end it. Because they’re living in a fear based control of life, living through the need for money.
Every time you realise and make a step in the right direction a powerful surge of energy shifts through you and makes you feel like the most powerful human being on earth. It makes you feel alive, enlightened and in tune with your highest self. You could be God in that moment. And because you have this massive enlightening feeling which consequently also helps you feel weightless, you are drawn to things which make you feel good, and you step towards virtuous ascent towards your own personal heaven.
Our energetic networth is built on growing our emotional well-being. I’d say that we grow our emotional networth through a series of events. These events come from our mental perspective and decision to go in the right direction. And because we are going in the right direction, everything fits into place and makes sense.
Life flows, not because we’re trying to control every single detail out of fear and perfection (which is a form of fear about nothing ever being good enough), but because we’re able to flow easily with it, and everything which is proposed to us in its perfect way, we are able to be in sync with what is proposed to us confidently, not because we have the support-feeling of being in control, but because we are able to be fully in trust of it and abandon ourselves to the process of life fully.
Our energetic networth is an accumulation of endurance/stamina and emotional joy and happiness, the deep deep feeling that we’re on the right path, and that everything is happening for us rather than against us. That we’re being perfectly guided by life towards exactly what we need to be doing. We are where we are because of who we are. And everything we have and are able to do, is precisely for us to use it at some point in time for the greater good. We are to find out what the highest version of ourselves is, and let go of forms of fear and control we believe will get us there.
Our emotional networth is built on the foundation that we are following ‘the right path’, not the path that is more secure or more lucrative, but the path which turns our heart on, the path that leads us to expand and grow towards the happier, more interesting, more life-full, adventurous, exciting type of option.
Here’s another thing, FORCE can never get us where we want to go. Essentially its a God’s journey, and we’re just here for the ride. Forcing God to go where we want to go, out of fear and all base states and emotions, we inevitably fall into the trap of thinking we’re in control, like a father watching their child grab the steering wheel thinking they’re driving, but then starts to panick when they grasp the responsiblity of ‘being God’. The good thing is that, we humans don’t need to have that responsibility, so long as we’re following what feels absolutely best to us.
In order to build an emotional wellbeing, one must build a clear understanding of how their EQ functions, and especially what feels empowering and practice that on a daily basis. There is a daily work of micro choices which feel best and one has to grasp what those are.
I’d say that, our emotional networth is the accumulation of thoughts, feelings which create a positive Karma Reserve. A reserve of confirmations and highs. Practicing what turns our dopamine on in the right way (not instant gratification), taking leaps of faith, having the courage to experience life with hope and optimism, and growing our access to that gracefully upbeat perspective.
But also, a crafting of our emotional sensitivity around good things and allowing ourself to be hyper sensitive. Because the hyper-sensitivity leads us to become hyper perceptive. But also leads us to have a more refined experience because we are aligned with the subtle states that we can only access from the perspective of being in tune and vulnerable to life. We can’t be vulnerable emotionally, when our job numbs us and gives us money as a recompense. The security of that recompense prevents us from being atuned to that super sensitive state in which everything is possible for us to experience.
When I was younger, I noticed something which shifted the way I functioned as an individual. When someone was popular, everyone ‘loved’ them and congregated around them. It was to a degree “I know I’m the best” energy. It was a certain energetic accumulation between knowing one had everything, and didn’t have to worry about ‘having’. Quite similar to the energy one associates to Maslow’s pyramid scheme when one has all the primary and secondary needs taken care of.
Once you have something, you don’t have to worry about not having it. This happens with money, women, and many things which seem ‘scarce’ but really aren’t. It’s the same thing that happens when you have something, suddenly that thing becomes abundant or accessible to you. When you have a girlfriend, suddenly women throw themselves at you. And it’s the same with popularity, when you know you’re the popular kid (because somehow I figured out how to be), you’re not worried about being unpopular, you’re mindset is in a very different place to the kids labeled as ‘loosers’ (who aren’t actually losers but have a hard time living under that heavy definition).
Matthew 25:29 “For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. But the one who does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”
This starts in the mind, with what we are grateful for, what we appreciate on a daily basis. We grow what we appreciate, and we reduce what we depreciate / denigrate.
When we focus on what is wrong and what we don’t have, we focus our energy on making ‘what we do have’ and grow our perspective of lack. And the more we grow our perspective of lack, the more it materializes within our life. Funnily enough, when we focus on what we are grateful for, what we have, and what we love and enjoy, we grow our mental references to those things, which enables us to percieve these things materialize in our life.
We all know the spoilt kid who had everything we could possible dream of when we were growing up. We didn’t have what they had, and we envied what they had. And to make matters worse, they didn’t care much about what they had while we would have given anything to have the same context of ‘ease’ and ‘abundance’. Well guess what, they couldn’t see the value in the thing when we could, and that’s what made it valuable to us.
When you decide to invest in yourself the right way. When you decide to invest in the direction you’re going in, it somehow gives you an increased feeling of validation, but also fulfilment because you’re doing what is right for you right now.
You only see life from the vantage point of where you are and what you’re aware of. You don’t see life from the vantage point of where you’ll be in 10 years. You see life from the perspective of where you are right now, with what you know right know, with what you’re aware of right now and with the advantage of your experience.
But here’s the thing, you can’t possibly imagine what things will be like in the future. Which is why you have to have a firm grasp of where you are right now and what feels good right now. And keep on doing what feels right. When you follow what feels good right now, you know exactly what you need to do, and you path opens up to you because you suddenly see the options and see what feels good right now. You have to embrace HERE, and emphacize how good and be convinced of being grateful for everything which is here and now.
Last summer I went to a tropical paradise myself, I was invited, but when we reached that island, the person I was with hated it. And here’s what I retain, I wasn’t focussed at all on the down side of the stay on the island, I was perceiving the upside of being there. Where they saw the flaws, I was given the grace and bliss to see the beauty of being there.
Paradise is not an island with clear blue waters. Paradise is not a place, it’s an internal state through which we see that island. Paradise is within us, and its only when we can access that internal paradise can we see and experience fully the state of paradise on earth. It’s a doorway we open with a fully open heart. And which is more, not something you can buy. You can buy your way to a tropical location, but if within you’re nasty, you’ll hate your stay and won’t experience the full bliss of being where you are. But developing that internal E N will lead you to percieve even the worst of conditions as a blessing, to see Gold where others see ruin, to see beauty where others cannot, and above all to appreciate the ride.
We’re chasing bliss…
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